Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

Sure, if you’re nearly 90 or for some reason your life is limited to a couple of rooms because you can’t really move I certainly won’t begrudge you a nap whenever you want. But I have seen this from people significantly younger than I currently am. My DM, FiL, DH and several friends are all fit enough to head up stairs if they can’t be arsed staying awake when they’ve invited guests round. Snoring on the sofa as everyone politely ignores them is not good manners. Even worse if, when you accidentally nudge them getting up and rouse them so ask if they’d like to head to bed, they say “Oh no, I’m fine, you carry on” and promptly start snoring again and drooling onto the cushion again (I’m looking at you DM). </rant>

alot of us were not brought up with 6 different kinds of knives and forks so your annoyance at this seems harsh. I hate people rearranging plans last minute but some times it can’t be helped. Obviously if they are just being obnoxious pricks then fair enough..

Pointing.

Literally hate it.

The absolute bellend who goes down Cannon St of an early evening on an electric scooter with a huge speaker strapped to the base blaring out shitty music at top volume. You are a fuckwit, sir, and one evening I am going to jump into the road and push you off your stupid child transport and smash your loudspeaker into your astonished gurning face.

Disagree with you both! We have a crawling baby. Not being pretentious - just don't want people's outside shoes traipsing through our house. Also I feel weird having shoes on indoors so would naturally always take them off when I go into someone else's house.... hope that doesn't weird anyone out 😂

That isn't 'bad manners' at all if it's for a genuine reason, too many people mutter into their soup and then say Yes, lovely when asked it if things are OK, we should not accept poor service meekly.

I totally agree with pointing.

Peeple subjecting others to their loud music ! Wear bloody headphones.

Also people speaking on their phones with the speaker on! Wtaf is that all about? We don’t want to hear their conversations.

Repeatedly being late - total disregard for others time.

Well I certainly was going to return my steak. Ordered medium and got extremely rare or even not cooked. Got a free glass of red wine and two limocello liqueurs for DH and I.

It adds a little bit of pleasure to my day when getting in the way of someone in the supermarket (or vice versa) if we lock eyes, apologise, and smile, whilst doing the supermarket dance. It offsets the people who go around completely ignoring anyone other than themselves, not caring that they're not the only ones in the place. Yeh, never mind that I've got a broken toe and your trolley's just about to run over it, you do you. I think life would be nicer if we all noticed what is going on around as, and realised as social beings we need to live in social groupings. That requires social awareness.

@jaundicedoutlook Please wear a GoPro when you do it, I'd pay to see that.

Being early - when people are still tidying or getting ready for you to arrive.
Being early so you feel bad when arriving on time or only a minute or 2 late.

Arriving early! Especially to my home - if I ask a friend to arrive at 1pm, I expect them to arrive at 1pm, not to be bombarding me with calls at 12:40 when I am driving back from the supermarket, to find them standing on the doorstep in a visible huff because I am not there. And meeting out, too - if they arrive at the park/zoo/whatever 20mins before the agreed time, then rather than wait for me to to arrive, they go in and then I have to chase around trying to find them, despite me arriving bang on the agreed time. Pisses me right off!

Being rude/abusive to frontline staff who are just implementing policies from higher up, then not complaining to the people who actually can do something about the problem. Also, sniffing. Find a tissue!

@Rupertgrintismyguiltypleasure I only dislike poor tm's from people who think they are a cut above. It shows them up tremendously.

I am seated outside a gift shop with my teens today having ice cream and these people stand behind our table and start smoking so we left,it was probably obvious but even outside the smell was not nice and I'm an ex smoker.I thinknit was incredibly selfish

Taking AGES at the cash machine or petrol pump when there is an obvious queue. I have no idea how people drag these tasks out for so long.

hmmm mixed feelings on this. I have a mother in law who will talk, and talk, and talk, children invariably get frustrated trying to ask for something whilst she witters on & on without pausing for air. Most of the time I’m not the slightest bit interested in her monologue either. She simply just continues talking at you.

So yes, I interject & tend to the children.

My bugbear therefore is people who talk incessantly without any self awareness…

Sounds horrific, you poor thing. Hopefully you have enough pennies for a taxi next time!

Oh come on. People have had “crawling babies” forever. I keep reading the reason allergies are on the rise is because of lack of exposure to actually bacteria.Humans are designed to withstand ( and thrive from a bit of toxin).

WHEN PEOPLE YAWN LOUDLY (you know the sound ….. ) makes me soooooo angry

• Huffing about me sitting in the aisle seat. If you want to sit down just say so! I'm claustrophobic and won't be sitting in the window seat just on the off chance that you want to sit there specifically. Just be communicative and NORMAL. If someone's bag is on the seat you can just pleasantly request that they move it.
• People expecting children to grovel and perform strange "manners" like leap up so that able-bodied adults can sit down etc. I feel absolutely no need to have children defer to me, as long as a child is well-behaved I will treat them like a fellow human being.
• I'm a pretty self-aware and considerate person, but: expecting people to telepathically/intuitively know that you find something very specific and innocuous incredibly rude. I'm autistic! I'm probably not from the exact same cultural background as you! I don't mean to offend, I simply cannot read your mind! Just tell me or leave me be!
• People taking their shoes off on public transport etc is pretty grim.
• People blowing their noses and not washing their hands/using a squirt of sanitiser is also pretty grim.

Agreed! Surely kids should just have the same manners as adults?

I'm a cyclist and depsise twattish/entitled/borderline violent behaviour from drivers but: cyclists (especially deliveroo drivers) who ride (usually dangerously fast) on the pavement. Are you a child? Are you yet to do your cycling proficiency. No - get in the sodding road, or at least slow down or dismount.

Using phones/tablets on public transport without headphones so that everyone can hear your awful music/your child's Paw Patrol episode.

I ask people (not just when at work, sometimes when travelling off duty) to put headphones in and you wouldn't believe how many people react with "I haven't got any" and look aghast when told to turn the sound off instead. Entitled twats.

Also shoes on the seats. Especially those who keep putting them back up after the third time of asking. I wish I worked for Merseyrail, they fine you for that