Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

I’m stunned at the people who would pay full price for a meal that is either not what they ordered, undercooked, cold or whatever and not say anything? Seriously that’s nuts. So my £40 steak that came out well done on Sunday night when I ordered medium I should just lump and pay up?

Didn’t happen, it went back.

If you are in a restaurant, and your rare steak is over-cooked, I think you are reasonable to say something, if you are paying the bill yourself; if you are a guest of someone else paying, I'd say it needs to be obviously drastically wrong to merit causing friction.

But I hate people being routinely unpunctual. It's tantamount to shouting 'my time is more valuable than yours'.

People who call you and continue talking when you say I’m sorry I have to go to an appointment or this is a bad time can I call you back. I have a relative who does this and they just don’t listen when I can’t talk.

People who just barge into you in crowded spaces or wanting to overtake you or in shops, etc., when all they had to do was say Excuse Me Please.

And being unpleasant to service staff. I spent lots of time as a waitress and barmaid, and there aren't any excuses for being rude.

Meeting up with friends in a cafe or restaurant and spending more time on your phone than talking to them. Phone should be on silent in a bag/pocket.

Two things that I found outrageous about my husband’s family:

1. MIL helping herself to food off my plate without even asking. Well, she said “Ooh can I try some?” while already reaching across with her fork. Husband said it shows she feels “comfortable” with me.

(2) SIL feeding my toddler with a spoon that had already been in her mouth. Husband said it’s fine because she’s family but I don’t share spoons with anybody.

And people who sit in their car with the engine on although they are parked and not going anywhere, often revving it quite noisily and pushing out fumes. I get that they might want the heater or air con on, but you can do both with just the ignition - no need for the engine too.

Playing music or noisy games, using your phone on speaker or Facetiming/Whatsapp calling in public - especially on public transport and in bars/restaurants without headphones. This grates on my nerves like nothing else. I get especially pissed off when parents let their kids use phones/tablets without headphones to watch cartoons and play games without headphones whilst they carry on, apparently oblivious, to everyone else around them being bothered by the racket.

This is completely mad

You aren’t a guest you are a customer, if the food’s horrible of course you send it back.

Why would you pay for it?

two of my daughters can't cut food up 'correctly' they hold cutlery wrong

neither where dragged up - both have an acquired brain injury - one through birth trauma and on due to encephalitis - you wouldn't know to look at them - sorry it bothers you

This! If someone has gone to the effort of making you a meal, is it really too much to ask to eat it while it is still a good temperature.
Even worse if late person is a stickler for everyone waiting for them!

I with the poster on friendly dogs. I love well behaved dogs with good owners, but if your dog jumps up or nuzzles me or my kids without being invited, then that's bad manners and saying it's friendly doesn't make it so. I had a scary experience with a dog like this knocking me over as a child and it terrifies me. I never say anything but am so upset when it happens. I feel sorry for the dogs, it's not their fault they have selfish owners.

People who never walk their dogs but instead put them out in the back garden where they bark at every train, every pedestrian, every aeroplane, every doorbell.

People who have loud self-important phone conversations with business associates on public transport. It doesn’t make you sound important, it makes you sound like a twat. Especially on long-distance train journeys.

My last one is irrational because it doesn’t harm me in any way, but I get the rage (silently) with people who hold their knife like a pen, or who weave their fork in and out of their fingers like some complicated crochet design. Hold your cutlery like a civilised human being ffs.

Do people actually do this?

At a buffet, picking up loads of food on your plate, then only eating like a bird and binning the rest.

Ah yes. Particularly by a playground or at a sports match in which their kids (and mine) are playing right by the car.

I held my tongue for an hour at hockey recently - the man had reversed right up to the fence of the astro and his fumes were directed straight to where the kids were playing about 2 metres away.

Open your windows and turn off your engine. Or keep the door shut. It drives me nuts,

Having a birthday cake at a kids party, singing happy birthday, taking pics etc and then packing it up to take home not cutting it and sharing with the children at the party. My kids have been to 2 party's where this has happened, my kids have asked when are we having cake? You aren't, it's a stunt cake 🤣.

People who don't acknowledge that you have given way to them to say thanks. My dad never acknowledges when someone has sat there letting him go, I feel embarassed if I'm ever in the car with him.

Dog owners who think everyone loves dogs and insist "he's friendly" when it's clear you don't want their dog that isnt on a lead anywhere near you or your children.

DH’s family don’t acknowledge gifts at all whilst you are present.

For example you’ll visits someone when they’ve had a baby and they will not even glance at the big gift bag you have in your hand. You hand it to them & they will almost ignore you so you have no option but to just plant it somewhere.
A few hours after you leave you get a thank you text.

I find it incredibly rude but I can tell they think I’m rude when I open something in front of them & thank them on the spot.

Maybe it’s me?

It's completely bonkers!!

Do you know think it is advisable to send the food back as there could be a food safety issue with food not properly cooked?
How is this unpolite?

Pointing. I can’t stand it. My mil does it a lot. I think it makes people look really gormless.

I agree with your friends - this is appallingly rude. Someone is speaking! No one wants or needs you going ‘Ooh, ooh, I’ve thought of something I want to say! What you want to say can wait! Me! Me! Meeeeeee!!!’

Surely it depends what's gone on? I ordered chicken and it wasn't cooked through.... should I have eaten and got food poisoning or not eaten and paid for it?

I just love it when people drop by. However I hate fussy eaters, just get on with it.

Children who go upstairs or into rooms without permission.

People you hardly know inviting themselves to your home. There are people I’ve known for years who’s homes I’ve never seen. It’s a privilege & you should wait to be asked.

Nosiness & over familiarity. It’s just rude.

Turning up unannounced. It doesn’t take much to just call first.

Double calling unless there’s an emergency or I owe you money.