Things you consider bad manners that others don’t

[Novasmum]

Inspired by an experience earlier today of having to listen to a man whistle for 10 minutes in GP waiting room.

Not only is it annoying but I do think it’s bad manners but I know other people wouldn’t class whistling as bad manners.

what’s yours?

People who eat with their mouths open! Disgusting

'Thanks' instead of 'Thank you'

But you’re not a guest.

This makes no sense.

I was on a train and then the tube the other day and was reminded just how mannerless other people can be on public transport.

Woman across the aisle with her feet on the seat opposite. She’d removed her shoes for either comfort or vindication, but still not ok.

Man opposite me in a group of 4 seats facing each other. He spent the journey leaning forward, looking at his phone with forearms on his knees - completely invading my space (and maybe the reason I now have covid 😂).

Person in carriage with phone pinging every time they got a text or email. Twat.

Someone taking a call on loudspeaker at a right angle to his chin as though he’s on the apprentice c2005.

Twatty loud parenting from woman who read a book to her child (whose name was Bear 😂😂) at max volume.

And woman opposite me who ate her breakfast. Some pastry affair in a paper bag. Maybe not that rude but I am very intolerant 😬

One thing I'd consider bad manners but others prob won't is greeting people you see every day and especially if you had previously had a little chat with them (for instance, some mums at the school gate...)

I'm pretty sure the restaurant would much rather correct a mistake there and then and keep the customers happy, than have them not say anything, smile and say everything's fine, then go home and bad-mouth them to all their friends and family and never visit again.

I do agree that it's embarrassing to send a dish back for a very minor issue, like "these roast potatoes are a bit crispy but I'd like them even crispier!" But I've seen people send plates back because the food wasn't cooked properly (thus inedible), was stone cold, or wasn't what they ordered and was something they don't like at all. Why would you pay good money to suffer through meal you can't even eat, when it would take a few minutes to rectify?

*NOT greeting

And a long drawn out conversation on loud speaker in a close public environment like a train or bus, no one else wants to hear it.

pretty sure one day i'm going to get stabbed for telling off a teenager for playing music on speakerphone on the bus. I'm shocked no-one else ever asks them not to (they just tut and look annoyed until i pipe up)

@Ylfa sorry that’s ridiculous, of course you should send back bad food if you paid for it!

So get up, say thank you for the food, and leave.

@Ylfa please believe what everyone who has ever worked in hospitality on this thread is telling you. We would far rather an issue be brought up then and there and given the chance to rectify it than have customers not coming back. Chefs and front of house staff are humans and mistakes can happen - just because it has that one time, isn’t an indication of a shoddy establishment. Your attitude around being a guest in a restaurant is frankly bizarre. Are you also a guest in a shop so if you’re short changed/given the wrong size you don’t say anything? What about tradesmen in your home, are they guests so you can’t tell them when a job done isn’t how you wanted it? What about, heaven forbid, an instance of clinical negligence in a hospital? I don’t mean to be rude but I’m baffled by your position on this!

Talking to someone through the bathroom door.

Especially if you're asking them what they want for tea tonight while they're doing a dump.

Not closing the lid on the toilet seat... especially if it was down when you went to use it! Hate seeing my toilet seat lid up when guests come over & I have been known to not so passive aggressively slam it shut.

I will say "excuse me" without a please or thank you to those who will stop for a chat or a faff in a public doorway without a thought for anyone else trying to get past. This may be rude to you, but they are lucky that is all I would ever do/say. The idiocy and lack of awareness is far worse.

People who are early, I’m not waiting with baited breath for you. I have stuff I need to do which is why I arranged for you to come at a particular time. It’s rude and selfish.

So you would leave undercooked chicken on the plate, untouched presumably because that’s what you’d have to do with undercooked chicken, but you wouldn’t speak to them about it politely? Surely in both scenarios the restaurant gets the message ‘your food is shit’, but in the one scenario with a sensible conversation, and in the other scenario (yours) not a word.

You have a very strange idea of bad manners.

It seems so obvious to me, but the amount of people who let their kids interrupt adult conversations when someone is mid-flow!! It's infuriating..

Persistent lateness
Using phone when being served in a shop/restaurant

Assuming that everyone is happy to split the bill evenly when some people have drunk several bottles of wine and had way more courses than others.

I know this varies from culture to culture but I’d consider it the height of bad manners to show up to a funeral you were expressly invited to. As far as I’m concerned they are like weddings in that way.

Agh and OH’s family comment on what people are eating/the speed they are eating it/the time it takes them to finish food

I hate this too, even worse if you already have people or family visiting who you have invited……phone me first, or wait til you are invited…….bloody rude.

Answering your phone when doing something like at the checkout

You think people should just pay for sub par food they can't eat?