I literally joined today and honestly, there is some pure poison being spouted here. If people said something about race, religion, disability, gender, sexuality and such like, it would be pounced upon. But the comments about class and playground-style teasing have been just nasty.
There are many people who are successful who came from the working classes. Do those who are looking down their nose at others know their own family history? I'm thinking of some celebrities who discover that their distant relatives were in workhouses. And yet, here many people are, scoffing at people who are making the best of what they have. Some of whom have not been privileged in life, others who are managing mental illness, struggling through lockdown, trying to improve and enjoy their space. THEIR space.
I'm gobsmacked. Is this what you are like? Would you say this nasty, judgemental garbage to someone's face? If not, why is it okay to say it on here?
Look at your own affairs and examine the way you are expressing your vile thoughts with no consideration of others' feelings.
On balance, there are some people who are trying to be nice and fair. And those who have been brave enough to admit they have a bar.
There are others who are hurt and offended, myself included. I am hurt for others, not myself because people do things for a reason and to label a behaviour is shallow without understanding the why. If you dig deeper, every single bar owner will have a story that will be interesting. It's THEIR story and you are just writing them off!
I have some very eclectic neighbours. I've been living next door to a jungle for four years and the man recently passed away. That wasn't nice to live next to, especially as I couldn't physically help because I'm disabled. Others tried to say nasty things but it wasn't right. This man served in the navy and obviously needed help.
Another neighbour has a gypsy caravan and another has plastic plants that they're proud of. But you know what, they are their gardens, their heritage, their budget and these things are an expression of something many of you are missing. Hardly anyone has relayed a nice reason as to why there are these bars. Family & community, hobbies and mental well-being, craftsmanship, some may even be housebound and are being creative with their space.
Instead, words like tacky and chav have been thrown around flippantly and this is narrow-minded and mean.
I'm not going to stay around. I am appalled and don't want to be around this type of forum.
But to those of you who were courteous and open-minded, I thank you for not lowering yourselves to such mean-spiritedness. Thank you for your bravery in the face of hostility and for defending your bars! Enjoy!
Peace and love.