To think 7am is a lie in?

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Or not?

DD wakes at around 5, so when is a reasonable time to wake DH?

7am isn't a lie in. Anything after 9am on a weekend is a lie in.

Sounds like a bit of competitive sleep deprivation going on.

you need to teake turns.
and a black out mask and earplugs.

I don't think our relationship would have survived otherwise

do you both work full time?

For us a lie in is an extra hour from when we'd normally get up for work

DH gets up at 4am so for him 5am is a lie in

Kids can get Up anywhere from 430am but not Usually any later than 6am

My alarm for work on a weekday is 7.15, so no 7am is not any kind of lie in. I need to sleep until 9.30/10 to feel I've had a lie in, if undisturbed I can sleep until 11!

Oh but forgot to add, DD has never in her life got up at 5am so we have the luxury of a good sleeper. Usual wake up time is 7.30/8. I usually have to wake her for nursery on weekdays.

If you don't get a lie in, nor does he.

Why do women put up with this stuff? Why are we so downtrodden?

I slept 7-9, feels good

We have an early riser to. I would say 8am/8.30 at a push is a lie in for us and by that time If it’s my (rare) turn I would be getting up. I would be expecting my partner to be getting up at that time aswell seen as I do all the night wakes.

we are both back at work now aswell and have been for a while.

i agree. People who have good sleepers really do not understand how impossible it is to resettle/ignore them around 5am, especially as they getting older/louder. It makes me so jealous x

Don’t have a huge amount to say, why haS DH not been sharing all the getting ups since birth/post any breastfeeding? Why can only you settle her?

When the kids wake me up between 5-6.30 and DH needs a lie in I generally give him until about 8am if we are doing something or 8.30-9 if we've not really got much on. Woken with a nice cup of tea at least! 7am would most definitely be a lie in for me. I practically never have a lie in because I am wide awake as soon as the kids are.

7 am is a lie in for me .
I get up at 5.30 every week day and staying in til 7 am at a weekend is bliss .

7am is not a lie in.
However you should both get the opportunity to lie in and it's unfair if one of you never gets this.

I can't believe the number of people treating 4am like a normal time to get up. When DS tried this it was treated as a night waking. Where is the cut off? Would you let them get up at 3am for the day?

No OP 7am isn't a lie in, but he needs to do his share. If he wants a lie in until 9/10 you need to be getting the same on a different day. Could he take her swimming or something one morning at the weekend and you can sleep?

Our weekend lie-in’s are usually noon! Yesterday we woke up at 1pm!

7am is not a lie in. 9am or 10am is.

That's great! I'm sure everyone survived too!

7am isn't a lie in regardless of what time the child wakes.

9-10am would be a lie in as it's later than the average morning wake up time for an adult's world day ime.

I've just read that you don't get a lie in mornjng.

That would change matters.

He either takes a turn once a weekend or he wakes up at 7am or earlier whenever you decide you need some supper.

Being a heavy sleeper is no excuse. Bet he'd wake up if he was off out to do a hobby or similar.

If it was a regular fun thing that Dh did with her she wouldn't keep asking for you. It would just be the norm. Just like now she doesn't ask for dad.

If they're noisy still leave them to it. Invest in ear plugs and a face mask. It just treat yourself to lie in bed reading a book with a hot drink and some breakfast, whilst Dh does the morning routine.

We alternate at the weekends, I have Sat and oh has Sun, normally to about 10am. Kids are normally awake around 8ish (weekends) although little one was up at 7 today so I brought her in with us for an hour before we went downstairs.

I think most of us don’t treat it as time to get up. We treat it as a night wake but if they won’t go to sleep they won’t go to sleep. You can try and try and try but you can’t force them. For example. Iv tried from 5am til 6am before trying to get her back to sleep. At that point the light is creeping in her body clock it telling her it’s morning and she just won’t go. I presume most of us do the same. I doubt anyone is waking at 4.30/5am with baby and. It trying to resettle for at least an hour before giving up x

Shit husband alert 🚨

No way! YABU! I don’t even get up at 7am
for work. 10:30 onwards is a lie in.

Just because your child wakes at 5am, that doesn’t make 7am a lie-in by any normal standards. Your child isn’t the national benchmark.

Half the day is in by then! I couldn't lie in that length of time. Life is for living!