To ask how many of your social circle...

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Are still together/married and if they have kids, how old are they?
I felt really depressed reading another thread where someone said that most couples divorce or split once the kids have reached the end of primary school and that if they are married, the husband will most likely be cheating or up to no good in other ways.
Aibu to say good marriages on the whole are common?
My social circle of friends (About 7 of us) are still happily married and our kids range from 3-12 years. Aibu to say we are not the minority?!

Been with DH over 20 years, have 3 teenagers. Only know 2 other couples who have been together as long as us. All of my DCs friends parents have been divorced/single parents. All my other friends are divorced, some more than once

School gate friends 12 couples, two now divorced. DC now c.22-23.

One couple the DW had the affair and has been with the OM for about 10 years. The other just split because they really weren't getting along. Separated 4 years, just divorced.

Most of my friends are around 40 and kids range from 0-8 years old. All still together.

2 divorces in our social circle, both couples divorced before they had kids

I'm in my mid 30s. For my generation I seem to have quite a few friends who started getting married and having children fairly young about 10 years or so ago so there's been a bit of time for dust to settle. It's a real mix. I'd say the majority of them remain with long term partners. About 1/4 or a 1/5 maybe have separated or divorced. Those that have split has usually been due to something pretty sad like cheating or fertility issues altho maybe a couple where they've just grown apart Many others are on their 2nd or 3rd child and still happy together so it's not my personal experience that the majority of ppl I know have had their relationship breakdown although I would say this appears to be a fluke and I think statistically it is likely true that majority of couples dont make it sadly :(

Of 15 weddings during the 90s:
3 divorced childless by 2001 (two apparently amicably, one due to his infidelity)
All others had children
3 divorced mid-noughties after infidelity (one hers, two his)
1 divorced in horrible detail about 2015
The other 8 still together

Our other 3 married siblings: 1 divorced childless, 2 still together

Ha, I am so average.

Divorce rates have declined though so it was more common for my parents than it is for me.

This proves my point that virtually every marriage fails. Good to see that many marriages do last and are happy

not every marriage fails

Most people I know are still married. Except me.

Most of my social circle late 30s/early 40s. Nearly all still married, all have kids. Kids are all quite young though!

I'm early 40's now and most of the women in my life are sick of their other half.

I think it takes a man who knows the relationship is a partnership not another mothering role to go the distance.

Many women get the short straw in relationships making it easier to do alone.

I'm early-mid forties, husband is late forties. We have no children and are happily married.

Of my closest friends one has never married, one divorced without having children another divorced when her children were toward the end of primary school.

My 6th form friends, two are happily married with primary aged kids, and another is happily married with university aged kids.

I'm in my 40s. Met my DH in my late teens. Most of our friends are similar and are still together. Kids range from 3 - 14. Only know one divorced couple.

Rarely get peace from our kids nowadays. One of them is always awake and in the house. We can't pack them of to bed at 8pm anymore. I can see how couples would grow apart once their kids are older. If my lids complain when we want to spend time alone I remind them they're bloody lucky to have parents that still love each other! They were quite surprised when we wanted to go out for our anniversary just the two of us.

I’m 40, nobody in my circle (at work or socially) is divorced.

Only one of those couples married before the age of 30 though (all in careers requiring long devrrrs and significant post grad training and study). So mostly these are marriages of 5-12 years or so. No teenage children (except for the couple who married before 30).

I am nearly 70. In our close friends and family, 9 couples, only my sister is on her second marriage. All the rest still married to the person they married in their 20s, kids all now in their 30s/40s. Of those next generation, in their 30s/40s, 15 people, 5 remain single, 1 has divorced, the other 9 are married or in long term relationships.

We’ve been married over 25 years

friend 1 married 30 years, divorced
friend 2 married 20 years, divorced
friend 3 not married together 17 years
friend 4 married 30 years, happy
friend 5 married 30 years, very unhappy

I have a mixture amongst my friends, different groups of friends. Some who are in long term marriages, some I believe happily, others I assume less so. Several happily divorced and either single or in new relationships, all happier than they were married. Most have children who are teens to early twenties. What I don’t have any more is friends who are openly in unhappy marriages, which I did have 5-10 years ago (me included).

I'm in my 30s and only have 1 divorced friend (no kids). None of my friends have kids that have finished primary school though so maybe it'll happen in the future

Out of my circle they all seem happily married and have at least two children. I’m the only unmarried one with kids and I’m contemplating leaving my partner - glad we never married!

We have been married for 32 years. Of all our friends who came to our wedding and were married at the time - only one couple have since divorced. One couple who married the year after us did.

Very few of our close friends have divorced then or since. Very few parents of the DC's friends have divorced. A handful did as the children reached late teens.

I was a teenager in the mid/late 70s. Privately educated and so many of us were from broken homes. My state school educated friends were much more stable. Paradoxically, our DC had very few friends from broken homes from 11 plus and when they were moved to the independent sector. Conversely, far more of their primary friends, a nice cofe state school, seemed to end up with divorced parents.

I can't help thinking that a generation or three ago having money bought the freedom to split, whereas perhaps a generation or two later, having money and the commitments of career and school fees glued people together. It's a strange one. I also think that the third child of our childrens' friends came often from a place of privilege.

Out of a very large and varied circle of friends, only 3 couples have split. We are all late 40s into early 50s. However, we all got married when we were around 30 which I think is relatively late compared to what I read on here. DH and I have been together for 26 years but married 18 (and have both been faithful from the start) and didn't have kids straight away either. I'm not sure if we'd married and had kids earlier would we have stayed together. It puts a lot of stress on a relationship and I think it helps to live a bit first before getting into all the heavy stuff!

I'm in my early sixties and of the group of friends I am having coffee with tomorrow I am the only one who is separated - and my ex and I didn't have children. One of the others is on her second marriage, but it is long standing. All are grandmothers, and one got married at 17.

Don't really know anyone divorced other than one of my sets of grandparents who amicably divorced in the 80s after infidelity on both sides.

Most of our friends are mid 30s, married for around 5-10 years and with primary school kids. I guess divorce can and will happen.

We are mid 50's....our immediate social group are about 15 couples.....1 divorce and 2 later marriages....think we are quite unusual...wider group a mixture of no divorce although have been to one good friends 4 weddings 😂