To ask how many of your social circle...

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Are still together/married and if they have kids, how old are they?
I felt really depressed reading another thread where someone said that most couples divorce or split once the kids have reached the end of primary school and that if they are married, the husband will most likely be cheating or up to no good in other ways.
Aibu to say good marriages on the whole are common?
My social circle of friends (About 7 of us) are still happily married and our kids range from 3-12 years. Aibu to say we are not the minority?!

of my close circle - 3 are married and have been for a while (between 7 and 18 years)

I am divorced, another friend also divorced, two are single - never married, 2 are divorced and now married to each other!

Children range in age from 1 to 28!

I’m 49 now.
Fron school, 2 still married and 2 divorced from closest friendship group. Other, wider friends mostly still married.

From uni, 1 still married, 1 dead, 2 divorced. Again, pattern is slightly different with less close friends.

”mum” friends (DD is still primary) : all married. But they’re not really my long term friends because we moved 4 years ago.

Lots of our friends have separated/divorced in the last year (mostly late 40's/early 50's) the youngest of the kids involved is 15.

None of them have separated due to infidelity.

i am early 60s with slightly younger friends. We are all still happily married. This is a selection of school friends, friends from the school gate and ante natal group. I often think we must be unusual nowadays.

90% of our social circle couples are still married but I'd estimate that only 30% are happy. DH and I are about to start counselling after 15 years of marriage. I think it takes a lot of hard work to stay together once kids are older because they become less of a concern with regard to trauma from a divorce.

Of my closest 4 friends, 3 are married, one is divorced but in a relationship for over 2 years. They divorced after losing their daughter so the circumstances are different to most divorces imo. Of Dh and I's mutual friends, around 10, a couple are in long term relationships, the rest are married or engaged.

I'm in my 40s kids are teenagers, in the last 5 years 3 couple I know have got divorced. One split was due to an affair.

Actually make that that 4 couples. I forgot about one couple!
All of the couples had kids who were teenagers.

Of the many many couples i knew in military life only 4 are still together, although in 2 of the couples one of them had an affair. Here in Civvie street in our social circle 5 couples have been together between 32 years and nearly 50 years, only 1 couple are on their second marriage but have been together over 20 years. One of our friends was widowed after 4 years of marriage and never had another relationship.

I don’t know many divorced people across my friendship or work social circles. I’m mid 30s so I’m sure there’s time yet! I do know a few people with kids who have split up but they were couples who never married.

I have several different 'social circles', but overwhelmingly, across them all it is a small minority that are divorced.
I'm late 50s, and thinking about all my (3) adult dcs' friends I can only think of one family where the parents are divorced. well, one of my other dc's biological Father left her Mum when she was born, so not 'divorced after children' really. But that's out of about 25 families I can think of.
Amongst my school friends I see...1 never married, 2 divorced, so 15 still married (generally about 30 odd years of marriage now).
I think it is similar amongst other friends I know from other places.

Thinking of my two main social circles:

1. 8 couples, all been together between 15-25 years, kids between 11-18, all still together.

2. 7 couples, all been together between 5-20 years, kids between 13-19, just two divorced.

I know very few couples who have split up and have only been to two second weddings.

In my various circles of friends and family (mainly in our fifties and with adult DC's) it has been the grim reaper rather than the divorce courts. Can only think of one couple who divorced and fortunately no children involved as both very young.

My 'social circle' has a lot of deliberately not married peoplein there 40s and 50s. There are a couple of married couples i know, they are together. But I am remarried. I divorced my first husband. He's up to no good now, but it's his latest girlfriend's problem.

It's not quite the end of the could if people divorce. I think it's dramatic to focus on others relationships like that.

I would say about 70% still married, 30% divorced. Although, noted that the proportion of divorced parents in my son's class seems higher - about 50/50.

The hardest time in our marriage was when the children were small. Now youngest is 7 we are getting more time together, more time for our own individual interests and everyone sleeps so no resentment over who is most tired. I am surprised to hear so many split at end of primary. Not true in my circle.

Im in my mid 30s. Nobody in my circle has divorced or split yet. The majority have either married or had children in the last five years.

I'm in my late 40s with teenage DC and nearly all my friends are still married. Not sure if we're just lucky or if the divorces are yet to come.

A couple of friends are divorced. In both cases they've gone on to have children with new partners (no previous children) but are not remarried. All others remain married, most with children now in their teenage years.

Most of spurs friends are married. A few singles, not many.

Been with DH 20 years, married 12, the cracks are starting to show in our group, 3 down already, life isn't it?

Nearly all still married, with kids ranging from primary to young adult. One recently widowed and one divorced.

Almost all of my friends are still together with their partners - although some of is are not married, but have been together 18+ years. The only ones I know who have divorced are the ones who got together young - under 21. That might just be a coincidence though.

Most parents at dc school seem married but then again they are all very concerned about their appearance. Wonder what is going on behind closed doors!