To ask how many of your social circle...

[TheLostNights]

Are still together/married and if they have kids, how old are they?
I felt really depressed reading another thread where someone said that most couples divorce or split once the kids have reached the end of primary school and that if they are married, the husband will most likely be cheating or up to no good in other ways.
Aibu to say good marriages on the whole are common?
My social circle of friends (About 7 of us) are still happily married and our kids range from 3-12 years. Aibu to say we are not the minority?!

Early 50's only 2 of our friends divorced.

One was an unhappy marriage from day 1 and at least EA on both sides, I suspect actual extra marital relationships.

Second couple no kids, just got bored I suspect. Man thinks woman unfaithful she says not. I have no idea as they live quite far away.

Everyone else still married/together 20+ years down the line, but varying levels of contentment

School friends - 1 widowed, 3 with long term partners

University friends - 1 with long term partner, 1 on 2nd marriage

Family - 1 on 2nd marriage, 2 happily married

Of my closest 7 friends, 1 is mid divorce, 1 is considering separation, the others are all still married or in long term relationships

No divorces in my circle although all got married in mid to late 30s.

Loads. We are all aged approx 40 to 60. Some are Grandparents, we have a 17 year old and two, no three, have primary kids. One is however widowed - married for 32 years 😢, two are same sex couples (married). We are however mostly connected through our Church (we are Christian) including one of the same sex couples.

We've been married 45 years have friend's older and much younger. The one thing we have in common is an extensive family network locally we've parents, children, cousins, siblings. It does help to have this support I think. And our parents stuck it out in the main.

All but one are still married, but I have to say I wouldn't want the marriages some of them have.

The summer I got married to my first husband we attended 4 other weddings as guests. All those couples were also at our wedding. We were 23 and 24, all the other couples were 19-24. All 5 couples are now divorced. Infidelity was an issue for 2 couples. Mainly I think we were all too young!

I have somewhat a social group from steam rallies, and they're all in committed relationships with kids and/or married. In the 7 years I've been with my partner they all settled within a year or so of me knowing him. One has lived with 3 girls in the span of about 5 years. We get comments saying we've been together longer than people get done for murder, and we don't even live together

I’m 46 and it varies because I have friends that aren’t married but have dc and have split and others who have dc and split too. It’s 50/50 tbh.

40 here. None of my friends are divorced, neither are any of my siblings or in laws or work colleagues. Come to think of it neither are any of dc's friends parents.

I don’t think I know anyone in our group who divorced after having children.

We agreed before we had ours that we would do whatever it took to stay together, as a happy family, once the first one arrived.

I don't have any divorced friends. We've been married for 35 years, and our friends a bit less.

My friends / acquaintances who are divorced all married very young - around 22/23 - and divorced by early 30s. Everyone who got married in late 20s is still together, but time will tell, I suppose.

Of my closest 5 friends, mid 40s, one is divorced (amicable with 50/50 shared DC) and about to remarry. One os recently widowed and the rest of us are married.

Most are married.

However, About seven years ago we had several ‘solid as a rock’ relationships all fail - it was weird, as if something was in the water (husbands had affairs).

Quite a few friends are now reaching 25-30 year mark.

In 50s, still with DH. I have seven main friends. One from school, still married, children 20-24. Group of five, all still married albeit one has a fractious relationship but I think she'll stay - all DC are aged 18-21. One is younger and fled to this country after troubles following a split with her DH at age 22. She married again seven years ago, current DH adopted her younger one around the time she married him. My DH was originally part of a large group, most of which ended up marrying someone within group. One couple split up when DS was around 18, I think more because they'd really reached the end of the road rather than his age.

I think we tend to mix with people like us.

When I was married, most of my friends were married and among my close circle there were few divorced people.

Since I've been widowed, I'm afraid to say, the couples have been really rubbish friends. I don't fit into their nice comfy world anymore so from necessity, I've built a network of single friends, most of whom are either divorced or have a history of very unpleasant men.

My Y9 has a group of about 12 friends. Only 2 have divorced parents.

The majority of my friends are divorced. I'm in my late 50s.

In mine and dh's wider circle of friends, I have one friend who never married. Dh and I each have one couple of friends who divorced. Everyone else is married (happily, as far as we know) with kids. They are all between 45 and 50. No divorces in either of our extended families either.

Of my ‘main’ friends, one is divorced with kids, one is single after her five year relationship broke up, two were single for 15-20 years but one of those is now engaged and the other has just met someone. One is married with no kids and three are married with kids ranging from mid-teens to toddlers. I’ve been with DP for nearly 20 years, no kids.

Most people I know married too young or married for the wrong reasons - loneliness, settling, got pregnant, bar was way too low.

fwiw I’ve never married and haven’t met a man I want to marry yet. They’ve all been disappointing. and friends who have divorced all said their partners didn’t live up to expectations. I’ve friends in the cusp of divorce but for them it’s having a child with a disability and one parent furious their life is changed and they can’t chill out or go on holiday anymore. another is on the cusp of divorce because her husband cheated and another because she keeps a firm grip on him through fear he’ll cheat.

Funny thing is everyone around me is more worried for me approaching 40 and never been married than thinking they chose the wrong people to begin with! I couldn’t give a fuck.

The closest I thought to marrying was with a twice divorced man, I did love him, but it was apparent pretty quickly why he was twice divorced and why I am resolutely unwed!

We are a group of 8 couples who got married within 2 years of each other in the late 80s so about 35 years ago, (one woman was already divorced). Of the 8 one couple got divorced after 4 years. Both remarried and have been with the new partners about 25 years. One couple got divorced after 20 years. The other 6 couples are all still together and are happy as far as I know.

My other friendship circle made up mostly of ex-school mums is slightly older. Out of 13 couples they were all first marriages. There have been no divorces so far. 2 marriages have lasted over 50 years and a few are on 40+ years. The rest of us have all done over 30 years.

It’s a mixed bag for me. 3 marriages broke down that were a real shock, infidelity on the husband’s side for two. They are still with the affair partner.
Five marriage/partnerships going strong, all with children. One of my best mates is single, but he was a total dick. The other one married for 20 years, she’s kept that together.
I’m still married 16 years, but we were late starters