To not walk the dog?

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My DH expects me to walk the dog so he can nap on his lunch break instead. I work afew days a week and the rest my time is spent with dd who is only just a toddler. I could in theory take ddog when dd is napping but she’s not a reliable napper so that could mean poor dog doesn’t get a walk until 5pm or I have to juggle them both in the rain. Aibu to expect DH to sack off the nap and take ddog out?

I should add he is wfh.

Is he 85?

And I often nap during the day with dd (if she actually naps) so I think he feels resentful.

He naps at lunchtime? Are you living in Spain? Unless he’s ill and needs to rest, he’s taking the proverbial. I’d be astounded if my DH announced he needed a lunchtime nap.

Does he nap every single day?

No. He usually takes ddog out during his lunch break and we pay for a dog walker so he gets a break on Friday.

But neither did I nap when mine were toddlers. Yes, he’s probably pathetically trying to make a point. If you have broken sleep managing a little one you need naps and he doesn’t. If DD sleeps well, is there a reason why you are napping?

Some days you should walk the dog, some days he should walk the dog.

If he's walking the dog when you're at work, it's not unreasonable for him to expect you to fit walking the dog into your days at home. Surely it would be a nice activity to take toddler and dog out together for a walk? And at weekends you could all go for a walk together?

@Maray1967 She sleeps through the night but I still feel tired.

@mrsm43s ddog doesn’t walk well with the buggy so it’s not that easy.

Why on earth does he need to nap in his lunch break?

Unless he has a health condition that causes him to get fatigued in the middle of the day it would be far better for him to get out of the house and walk the dog.

Surely there's no need for a healthy adult to go to sleep in the daytime.

Sounds to me as if he's just lazy and walking the dog is just one more thing he'll pile onto you.

Who wanted the dog? Surely they're the one that walks it EVERY SINGLE TIME unless the other volunteers to?

Given the updates you are a hypocrite. So he doesn’t get a lunch break? WFH or not he is working! It should be 50/50 with walking the dog. If you expect him to have a lunch break only once a week, you are the piss taker in this situation. You admit your daughter is a good sleeper, it’s not like she has you up all night.

Not really the argument op can make when she herself prefers to nap in the day

Yep who wanted the dog?
If it’s him he can walk before or after work or at lunch.
if you then train the dog to walk with the buggy or go somewhere you can let it off the lead.
But rhe dog shouldn’t suffer.

Poster above has it right, I think - share the job between you. Are you going to bed too late? Sorry to ask but when I’m tired I have to admit it’s usually too much Netflix and late nights.
Some fresh air during the day should help with good sleep. Could you build it into your routine with your toddler?

I’m not sure that I know any healthy adults, who sleep properly at night, who need a nap?! I don’t know why you are both so keen on napping?

If your toddler sleeps through you're being rather "pot/kettle" to imply your husband is being lazy to want to nap in the day on his lunch break when you're also taking a daily nap.

Are you both healthy or do you have health conditions?

Who wanted the dog? Did you discuss responsibilities before getting the dog?

Really? If you really are that exhausted to both need to nap you both need to be seen for blood tests because it's not normal to need to nap after a good night's sleep.

And train your dog.

Given the updates, I actually think that you should do the dog walks on all the days that you are at home and not working. You could walk the dog and still have lunch/plenty of downtime. If he walks the dog he gets literally no break all day, and no lunch.

If you walk the dog during his lunch hour, he can look after DD whilst you're gone if you don't want to take her with you. If she snoozes during that time, he can snooze too, but if she's awake, he'll have to stay up to watch her.

Pop dd in baby carrier and take dog out. Husband sounds like a loser anyway so might as will get used to doing it alone.

There is no right answer here... take it on turns!

Why is everyone so anti napping? I regularly nap during the day if I can!

I think you should take it in turns to walk the dog, you should be doing it on days he works for sure.

I think the point is that they can't ronnie they have a dog and a baby.

Napping shouldn't be an every day requirement for a normal healthy adult and if its interfering with day to day life, imo, it is an issue.

I love a nap during the day,nothing wrong with it and has been proven to have many health benefits.