To not walk the dog?

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My DH expects me to walk the dog so he can nap on his lunch break instead. I work afew days a week and the rest my time is spent with dd who is only just a toddler. I could in theory take ddog when dd is napping but she’s not a reliable napper so that could mean poor dog doesn’t get a walk until 5pm or I have to juggle them both in the rain. Aibu to expect DH to sack off the nap and take ddog out?

Ffs someone just walk the bloody dog 🙈

This is one of the silliest threads I've ever seen. You are two grown up people with children and pet responsibilities. If you can't juggle everything whilst still having time for a nap then...YOU CAN'T HAVE A NAP. Millions, maybe even billions, of people all over the world have to juggle life without a lunchtime snooze. Jeezo, get a grip.

One hour-long walk is absolutely fine for most dogs - I don't know why people are getting at you for that 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think you need to come to an arrangement to split the walks between you, though - he shouldn't be giving up all his lunch breaks to walk the dog, especially if you're off work and can do it yourself. You'll never get the dog to walk nicely by the buggy unless you put the time in to train her - so I'd start now or else you'll struggle for another few years.

I think if you're both working, he should take the dog, but if you're off then you need to do it.

She gets an hour a day

Personally I don't think the husband should be watching the toddler on the lunch break. Surely it's fair that the sahp deals with daytime childcare needs. If husband was working in an office you'd have to do both. Take it in turns to walk the dog md you both sometimes get the nap. Ideally though teach the dog to walk with the buggy as it will get all 3 of you out the house

So you work outside of the home 3 days a week. He works 5 days a week from home.

How is everything else divided up? Cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, childcare?

That’s what I’m saying, it’s not enough. The dog needs more than one walk a day.

Getting out for a walk in the fresh air, getting your heart rate up and some vitamin d at lunch time wakes me up much better than sleeping (sorry, I can't use the word nap..I am not 80). In fact, sleeping during the day makes me feel worse, not tha tI have that luxury as a single , working parent!

That’s what I’m saying, it’s not enough. The dog needs more than one walk a day.

One walk a day is perfectly fine for most dogs. It's not like OP has a husky!

Wow, some people are being so harsh! I’ve always had low energy and often feel I need a nap (as you, OP, blood tests normal). It won’t be forever, can you take it in turns?

How is looking after a toddler not considered work? I work a job 2-3 days a week also. It’s a very active job too, no sitting at a desk for me.

Take it in turns walking her - or even better you can all go out walking, you pushing the buggy and he walking the dog. Getting out for a walk will help your tiredness. If you have been to a doctor and had everything looked at and there is nothing wrong, Then you need to look at diet and exercise to help combat tiredness. Also try not to nap during the day, if you are tired go to bed earlier in stead of napping.

It sounds like you might all benefit from a walk and some fresh air and then you might not feel so tired!

Are you expected to look after the toddler and/or walk the dog in your lunch break on the days that you are working?

I live on a dual carriageway so can’t walk anywhere without getting in the car first.

No. Dd goes nursery and dog is shared.

Say's who? You have no idea what the set up is with garden access, toys, play etc.

I say get a back carrier then you can walk the dog whenever it's convenient for you on the days you are at home. I carried my daughter in one until she started school, by which time I was the fittest I've ever been and I'd lost 4 stone!

If he goes to bed late then needs a nap then he needs to sort out his sleep schedule.
you both wanted the dog? You both walk the dog.
you need to train so you can walk the dog with a pushchair or let it off the lead.

A healthy adult under 70 who is not a shift worker does not need a nap.

It sounds like he is the one who needs the daily exercise from walking the dog since he sits all day.

If you're doing everything else around the house, he should do it.

Too much napping going on in fairness. You both sound like OAP's.

I used to go home in my lunch hour of FT job to give dogs short walk (more reliable that they'd toilet in the time ) along with the before & after work walks for exercise

An hour a day isn't very long for most dogs so not sure why your both finding it such a problem to fit it in. Could easily do short walk round the block so the dog gets in some sniffing stimulation in morning and lunch to help settle during the day, with a longer more enjoyable walk in evening or let you take dog while he watches DD at lunch during which he may or may not get a nap. In winter it's great to be able to walk at lunchtime and enjoy the light, personally I find getting outside helps wake me up.

Ideally having dog can walk with pram but training takes lots of practice and maybe is more than just pulling on lead. Ask over in MN Doghouse if need help.

If he usually walks her and it’s a one-off because he’s exhausted today then I don’t think I’d bat an eyelid at walking the dog we made a joint decision to get.

Wow what job does he have where you don’t have to work and you can both be napping during the day and still making enough money to happily throw away money to pay for a dog walker because you need a break from walking your own dog once a day! I’m just jealous.

theres no way he needs a nap at lunch if he’s healthy so he is BU to expect one
but you aren’t working and you aren’t walking the dog and you’re still fitting in time for a nap, so you’re also BU

cant you split it? Even if Ddog gets 15/20 from you if you struggle to wrangle DC then a separate walk later on I’m sure they would appreciate it