What have I done..

[Colouringbooks]

I’m seeing a man and recently he’s been quite distant/blowing hot and cold. I’ve questioned it a few times as I’d rather he communicate with me than leave me hanging. I haven’t seen him in a while and I needed to get it off my chest. He said ‘I’m not telling you again madam’ but then I just had to him a message explaining how I feel and then maybe we should just leave things. I said I didn’t want to but I said I feel like I’m more invested than he is and that I felt he was being distant.

He has read the message and not responded. I feel really stupid. I wish I didn’t send it but I’ve been questioning everything. Wondering where I stand. Things were not clear at all and I was fed up of being sat at home wondering what was happening.

Madam? that should make you run for the hills

Block, delete, move on. Which is incidentally the name of a book by Lalalaexplains which is bloody brilliant and steers you away from these type of fuckwits when dating.

You should be glad you sent it because you know now for sure where you stand although it hurts. There's nothing worse then being led on and you were right to question it. Move on now you deserve better

Even dear old Frank Butcher would be a more attractive specimen than this guy. When he showed up naked apart, from a bowtie, at Pat's door has to be my favourite ever soap moment.

He has messaged me asking how I am calling me his baby girl again and said sorry he’s not been in touch as he’s been busy.

I agree about the power dynamic. He likes to play the ‘daddy’ role. There is a 15 year age gap, I’m mid twenties. he does speak to me like I’m below him.

What's the plan then OP?

Surely you don't want to stay in touch with someone who confuses, patronises and infantilises you?

Colouringbooks Oh he contacted you did he? Not surprising really. For all his ghosting and patronizing put downs, he is well aware that someone of his caliber is seriously lucky for you to even entertain him. Now you, need to wake up and realize your worth and remove him completely from your life

That is seriously weird.

Off you go dancing into the sunset then baby girl

And good luck!

Grim.

Let me guess, you've never been introduced to his friends or family and he calls all the shots.

You weren't ghosted or anything.

The reason he only calls sporadically and wants to see you on his terms is that he sees you as his shag on the side, you probably stroke his ego because you 'll drop everything when he clicks his fingers and go along with his " person of authority having sex with a naughty girl" fantasies <shudder>

Oh well, I'll look out for your next thread when he's disappeared and isn't contacting you again...

In the meantime, have a think what you actually want. No one is too busy to stay in touch, if they are interested and actually care.

Ignore Block Delete...move on. A complete wastrel. You deserve better.

Thank you all he is telling me he misses me but I won’t be seeing him again.

Well done

consider this a near miss.

Block him OP. Why not do that tonight?

colouringbooks Well done. Plenty of other far more enjoyable things to do in life than being on that self absorbed man's beck and call.