What have I done..

[Colouringbooks]

I’m seeing a man and recently he’s been quite distant/blowing hot and cold. I’ve questioned it a few times as I’d rather he communicate with me than leave me hanging. I haven’t seen him in a while and I needed to get it off my chest. He said ‘I’m not telling you again madam’ but then I just had to him a message explaining how I feel and then maybe we should just leave things. I said I didn’t want to but I said I feel like I’m more invested than he is and that I felt he was being distant.

He has read the message and not responded. I feel really stupid. I wish I didn’t send it but I’ve been questioning everything. Wondering where I stand. Things were not clear at all and I was fed up of being sat at home wondering what was happening.

He sounds married and older than you - you’re better off without that in your life!

Thanks everyone. Yes he’s older than me. He had lots of names for me! Missy, baby girl etc etc

Honestly, he sounds disgusting.

Definitely bin him for the patronising nicknames alone. This is not a man who thinks you are his equal!

Ugh no. All on his terms? Get to fuck with that.

If he had the feels for you in any notable way, he’d have responded to your text. As it is, he’s probably going to fob you off with some pish that will keep you dangling.
It’s interesting that his nicknames for you are all minimising…baby girl, missy etc.

Don’t think he respects you at all.

Move on. Not the easiest thing I know. But block delete on everything so he can't come out of the woodwork like the worm that he is.

Did he ever use your actual name?

@LilyMarshall no not once!!

@Colouringbooks
I once read when they don't use your actual name but have a lot of pet names for you it's so they don't fuck up and call you the wrong name. Usually if they've got a few on the go.

Also, missy 🤢

You're better off without this one x

To me that is a red flag that he has multiple women on the go and avoids using names so he doesn’t slip up and call you the wrong name and/or mix up who he is messaging

Yes that is most likely the chase. I told him I was tired once and he said ‘aww poor little girl’ !!

Please block and move on as many others have suggested. Then you dont have to deal with him anymore. You wont be wondering what you've done wrong and you wont be hanging around waiting for him to pay attention to you.

Use your time more wisely , dont spend any on him.

Fucking hell he speaks to you the way my dad used to speak to me when I was 5.

🤮

He sounds disgusting. Princess? Madam? Vomit….

Raise your standards and block him.

This this and this ^^

Recently came across one of these arseholes, and it's surprising how good they are at making you doubt yourself.

for you....

Ugh, just no. In the bin immediately.

Absolutely this! I'm sure we've all been there but what a light bulb moment when you see it.
So many wonderful responses here.
*You're no one's option
*He left you on read
*You've clearly asked where your relationship stands
*Running hot and cold is letting you think he's into you and when you think things are great he goes cold, that's BS and your relationship does actually move forward at all
*Bread crumbing you, giving you little bits to keep you interested
*Straight out manipulation

Yikes.

Wow he’s pathetic.

Don’t lower yourself any further. If you can’t bear to just delete and block without fanfare then text and say ‘Hey, this isn’t working for me so I think it’s best we call it quits. Take care.’ Nice and casual.

And then delete and block!

It sounds like he's a player and can't even remember your name hence the 'princess', 'madam', 'baby' bullshit. Block and move on.

Grim.

also, red flags galore. I’d put a few quid on him being married or involved with somebody else.

The names thing is, indeed, grim. Ew.

Delete, block, ignore, etc. Don't give him anything else of yourself.

Eurgh what a creep. I bet he uses ‘little lady’ too?

He sounds like a creepy dickhead. You've told him how you feel now delete him and block him and ignore him forever. If you let him string you along further you will just feel even wore when he eventually ignores you forever.