What have I done..

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I’m seeing a man and recently he’s been quite distant/blowing hot and cold. I’ve questioned it a few times as I’d rather he communicate with me than leave me hanging. I haven’t seen him in a while and I needed to get it off my chest. He said ‘I’m not telling you again madam’ but then I just had to him a message explaining how I feel and then maybe we should just leave things. I said I didn’t want to but I said I feel like I’m more invested than he is and that I felt he was being distant.

He has read the message and not responded. I feel really stupid. I wish I didn’t send it but I’ve been questioning everything. Wondering where I stand. Things were not clear at all and I was fed up of being sat at home wondering what was happening.

Seriously stop and think about this.

A relationship shouldn't be hard work.

Value yourself. If it were your daughter/son/sister/brother asking you the same advice - what would you say?

Move on.

What have you done?

Come to your senses is what you've done!

Well done. Now don't give him airtime in your head and move on.

The heck with him. Don’t give him this power to make you feel this way. He is not a nice man. Move in. You have tried hard to communicate and be eo
morionally available. You did nothing wrong.

He sounds like the men who send me spam emails with astonishing financial opportunities: ‘Dearest lovely madam, allow me to introduce myself oh beloved princess of my dreams, I am a general from a country in a far away place …’

He’s scatter-gunning.

STOP DATING....you need to work on yourself before you date ANYONE ELSE!!!

Seriously OP...get some professional help with your self-esteem and boundaries. You don't sound mature or experienced enough to date. Work on this before you end up in a coercive/unhealthy relationship!

Oh...and for the record...if any man called me 'madam' or 'missy' (or any of the other vomit inducing names you mentioned 🤮) they'd get the full force of my foot in their balls!!!

Agree with the people saying to block him. He sounds like a cheeky git who was probably just hoping for a quickie.

Block him and get some counselling to help you with this. You are choosing partners who aren't valuing you/ benefitting your life - why is that - you could explore it with a therapist.

I don't know why you are wondering what you have done wrong when there is clearly a long list of things he has done wrong.

Every time you feel upset about it, repeat to yourself, 'I actually don't like him, his behaviour was patronising and selfish'.

Don't waste your time on men like this.

He is a dickhead.

Don't waste your time

In time you will realise what a lucky escape you have had.

He treats you like a littlre girl and with breathtaking disrespect.

what an arse.

Yep there is def multiple women!

hence his lack of availability and the pet names

just cut him out. He’s using you

He is a misogynist and you need to block and move on.

The big mistake we women do sometimes is to demand more love, appreciation, care and consideration as if it was our right from someone who has already checked out.

Take this as a learning experience. The more you press the less attractive you become. Next time just mirror his behaviour and if his behaviour is saying he has stop caring start detaching yourself from him at the same time, you have no life together, children or a house to make it worthwhile to fight to keep him at this early stage.

Do not contact him again.
If he contacts you tell him it is not working for you and you would rather stop seeing him.
Block.

Madam? Princess? He sounds like a twat. Don't try to contact him again and move on.

I’m seeing a man and recently he’s been quite distant/blowing hot and cold
that’s enough to make me say so stop wasting your time.

But the rest of your post and your further posts make it clear that he’s awful. He’s not interested in you and has no respect for you. Forget him.

The minute he said "Madam" in that way, I'd have told him to get stuffed. It's condescending and reminds me of how school teachers used to talk to us when I was at school in the 60s. Block him, don't give him a chance to get back to you. You can do better.

Madam, Missy, Princess & Babygirl?

Block this man OP. You really don’t want this weirdo contacting you.

Forget you ever knew him.

He's not that into you. Block and move on.

What have you done?

Started to wake up to the reality of the twat you have been seeing!

All you need do is shrug your shoulders, feel a fleeting moment of "oops!" and move on.

Block him. As someone said, he moved to Mars!

He calls you princess etc so he doesn't have to remember your name in the moment. Not attractive.

How did this not not make your vagina instantly seal shut? Blargh, even I’ve got the ick frok
him.

OP seriously creepy bullet dodged.

This. Very weird, condescending thing to say. Delete, block, move on, he’s a waste of time and energy.

So it’s your neighbour isn’t it.