What have I done..

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I’m seeing a man and recently he’s been quite distant/blowing hot and cold. I’ve questioned it a few times as I’d rather he communicate with me than leave me hanging. I haven’t seen him in a while and I needed to get it off my chest. He said ‘I’m not telling you again madam’ but then I just had to him a message explaining how I feel and then maybe we should just leave things. I said I didn’t want to but I said I feel like I’m more invested than he is and that I felt he was being distant.

He has read the message and not responded. I feel really stupid. I wish I didn’t send it but I’ve been questioning everything. Wondering where I stand. Things were not clear at all and I was fed up of being sat at home wondering what was happening.

Sounds like my husband. He calls the dog similarly.

Ok first of all he sounds gross

second if it's right it won't be this hard.

Yep. The sooner you accept that, the happier you will be.

I've dated this guy, dump him!

Next time, at least attempt to look for glaringly obvious clues that a bloke is married, or a creep.

I think when something is right it doesn’t leave you feeling unsure. You have the right to ask what is happening - too many women let men get away with murder - and if he hasn’t got the answers you need/want, he never will have.

I would have offered her a lift. It's likely at that age that they prefer to not be seen getting out of cars at the school gate though.

Sorry, wrong thread!

Being called a little princess would be an absolute dealbreaker for me. What a twat.

You deserve so much better.

‘I’m not telling you again madam’

Little princess? Little girl?

Did you actually find this sleazebag attractive? Ugh, it's giving me the shudders just hearing about it. Why on Earth are you so desperate to cling on to him? Run, don't walk. He's weird.

‘Madam’, ‘Princess’ - wtf is that about?!

Why are you second guessing yourself? Bin this condescending twat and his patronising pet names and move on. Lucky escape!

Eurgh, if a man ever said 'I’m not telling you again, madam’ to me, I'd dump him.

It's not supposed to be this hard. You're dating. Dump, block, move on.

Yeah it's likely he's married and contacts you only when he's free for sex. You've been perhaps inadvertently indulging him and his fetish for "little girl" sex.

As soon as you've asked for your needs and feelings to be considered, he's gone silent. That's your punishment for speaking up.

Get this man out of your life, you're being used.

I'm sorry that's blunt but you need to protect yourself from damaging men.
I hope you can move on x

It sound like real life pre Internet type of grooming. Making you grateful for his presence. I think long term it would batter your confidence. Run for the hills.

However if he turns out to be the dangerous/psycho type
ie. after you block him he suddenly becomes over the top attentive and bombard you with pleas / gifts be very careful (be prepared to keep a diary)...
Don't assume he's as harmless as an ex than he was as a bf.
al the best l

Bound to be married so doesn't give you the same level of respect as he would to his wife. You're there as a plaything so he calls you names which reflect this. Were it not for his other names for you, I would have read the 'Madam' comment as playful and not necessarily anything to worry about. He obviously thinks you're in it for fun and now might be panicking that he read you wrong, so he's ghosting you.

move on - he's just not that into you. Spect your time on someone who likes you as much as you like them.

Wondering where I stand.

It's perfectly clear to me, block him and move on.

In future set your bar higher.

It can be hard to read a relationship via these written posts.and or what different mnetters would like/ deal with in a relationship.but op every single person on here is getting bad vibes.
Please don't keep going with this.

He's just not that into you.

Hurts, but it's basically the answer every time a man is blowing hot and cold!

Sounds like he is the type to dictate the relationship on his terms. The lack of responce will probably be due to the shock of the tables turning.
He sounds like he has no respect for you (otherwise he wouldn't keep you hanging) and trivialises your feeling ('aww poor little girl).
You deserve better than this. You have essentially sent him a msg to break up with him. Forget about him, leave it there and move on. If he comes back just tell him you deserve better so it's over.

God almighty those names make me want to throw up in my own mouth.

Block him move on.

What is with all these threads recently where women are describing truly shit boyfriends?! I think we need a MN public campaign on things not to tolerate in a relationship and to kick their arses to the kerb the second they show what absolute twunts they are.

(not envy)

I think this thread has revealed to me that there are two kinds of women in the world: those who find this kind of man attractive and those who don't. I just can't understand why you didn't spontaneously combust when he came out with 'madam', never mind the other names. Honestly flabbergasted.

Ew, I dated someone once who called me Princess and Tweacle (yes, with a ‘w’).
It lasted about 2 dates. Could not cope.

Is he Frank Butcher? Are you going out with Frank Butcher?!