So, I'm due a baby soon and am on a group on Peanut for women due the same month, it's a very active group.
The other day someone posted saying 'can anyone think what to add to my order of wishes? This is going to be going on all our social media platforms.'
It's a bloody image of rules that they want people to follow after the birth like 'No asking if I've gone into labour, No photos without permission, No sharing photos without permission, no holding baby without permission, no unannounced visits.' etc etc, it goes on and on.
Loads of other women then commented and 'shared theirs' for 'inspiration.'
I'm sorry but I'm just cringing, it just seems so utterly self-absorbed?! Literally no one cares, I can guarantee you my friends aren't sitting there giving my impending birth much thought, let alone frothing at the mouth to take and post photos etc. I already foresee there'll be a couple of family members who DH and I might have to keep at bay for a few days once we're out of hospital as they are the pushy type, but if the situation arises, I'll talk to them directly about it then. Can't imagine posting such cringe shite all over my FB and Insta.
AIB grumpy, heavily pregnant lady U?
AIBU?
To think this is just utterly cringe? (pregnancy related)
MrsAlwaysRight1 · 04/07/2022 15:00
Am I being unreasonable?
822 votes. Final results.
POLLcourtrai · 04/07/2022 15:12
But have you added your wishes. It's a while back for me but I'd include;
Someone to come and wind baby at least 4 x day (that was incredibly boring but necessary as I recall)
No one to visit unless they bring a dessert or pie
No gifts for baby but I'd like some new unstretched pants please
Laiste · 04/07/2022 15:14
I already foresee there'll be a couple of family members who DH and I might have to keep at bay for a few days once we're out of hospital as they are the pushy type, but if the situation arises, I'll talk to them directly about it then
This is good, and i'm glad (and slightly envious) that you're that confident with being direct. It's also great that your DH has your back and you're singing from the same song sheet.
However, i think when the opposite is true, and people are struggling with situations they foresee, or feel they aren't necessarily going to backed up by their partner, i guess they feel like affirming their wishes beforehand in ways like you've described above helps them stick to their guns?
You only have to read MN for a while to see loads of posts about x, y, z coming round when they're ill, tired, wanting a bit of space and being ill equipped to deal with it.
FriendlyPineapple · 04/07/2022 15:20
Thing is, you just don't know how you'll feel once you give birth.
You might want peace and quiet to bond or whatever, you might want to announce the baby to the pridelands like Mufasa.
Being such a self-absorbed arsehole before the baby is even born pretty much guarantees you'll have no visits, offers to help, lunch meet ups with friends etc, lest they somehow offend you with their presence.
This really isn't normal OP, in case this is your first and you're not sure.
MrsAlwaysRight1 · 04/07/2022 15:27
It is my first and I did wonder.
Honestly, this group is crazy. The vast majority have had one of those gender reveal parties and nearly all have bitched because not enough people turned up, made enough effort etc. I'm like....it's literally a party to celebrate the sex of your baby......just why?! I wouldn't go to one either if I was invited.
I'm starting to see a not very nice side to motherhood tbh (meant genuinely) it really does seem to turn a lot of women into self-absorbed arseholes. And yes that probably goes for dad's/parenthood in general but this is a women's only group so am going off that.
FriendlyPineapple · 04/07/2022 15:20
Thing is, you just don't know how you'll feel once you give birth.
You might want peace and quiet to bond or whatever, you might want to announce the baby to the pridelands like Mufasa.
Being such a self-absorbed arsehole before the baby is even born pretty much guarantees you'll have no visits, offers to help, lunch meet ups with friends etc, lest they somehow offend you with their presence.
This really isn't normal OP, in case this is your first and you're not sure.
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