Colleague offered help to a man friend and told inappropriate

[lunavista]

Ok so my colleague (work friend) told me this story in total mortification and I am trying to help.

She has a male family friend she has known for ages. He's married with a child. His wife is travelling to see her dying mother and he's staying back with their child. They often text to say hello etc and when she heard about his wife, she offered to come over for the weekend and help with the child. He then told her that it would be inappropriate for him to have a woman that's not related to him stay at his home in his wife's absence. She is absolutely mortified and doesn't know how to respond. I a personally think he's been a muppet. I asked if she has a good relationship with the wife and she said she doesn't think she approves of their friendship. My colleague is single if that's relevant .

I honestly can't see a problem with her offer. AIBU?

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Weird and creepy.

She offered to move in for the weekend rather than just "let me know if you need anything".

& Make sure the DH's willy is in working form for when the DW comes back!

Yes, weird and inappropriate. I'd be livid if that was my husband.

I have t read the thread

has ADHD been mentioned yet? Because that aways pops up on any thread such as this

I think posters are missing that at least the “friend” got it and was mortified

the OP however continued to think it was entirely reasonable until a mumsnet thread!

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That's cause Op is the friend.

Livid? No

Doubled over laughing and immediately pulling out my phone to call my best friend to tell her? Yes!

Yep, that’s why I put I. “” and said that upthread!

😂😂this thread is making me cackle so hard

This and personally I think it's inappropriate too. The wife doesn't approve of the friendship and she wants to move herself in for the weekend to help him look after his own child wtf

Overtly making a move on a married man while his wife visits a dying parent. Awful.

The wife has already sussed her and now the husband has rejected her, she deserves to be mortified.

And she should be mortified tbh it's totally inappropriate. She's the muppet not him

inappropriate. i wouldnt want my husband having his single female friend come and "help" with our child.

Because she texted me in hysterics and I was trying to calm her to see that she hasn't done anything wrong ( which now I stand corrected).

She sounds like a nutter.

Bet this bloke's pet rabbit has had a lucky escape. 🐰

Well done in your text to her op it was wel written let's hope it makes her see sense.

Perhaps on the wife's return OP could also "help" with their sex life by sitting at the end of the bed and giving feedback

Dear Poster,

What is wrong with you?

1. Why would she dream that he needs help to look after his own child?
2. His wife is completely justified to not be approving/happy with their 'friendship', to have opposite sex friends is pointless, why get married?

Finally, your friend has an ulterior, hidden motive, it has nothing to do with altruism. She probably is interested in him and wants to put herself in a position where a possible something, a least a deepening of their friendship happens. Very manipulative.

As one reply stated, if a man were to offer this to a woman it would be seen as simply wrong and viewed by many as inappropriate.

Your friend is either willfully ignorant or manipative.

This is how I would have answered “No probs 👍” but she could just do whatever her personal style is and keep it neutral.

ah, apologies!

eh...is one not allowed opposite sex friends?

What a delight.
It is extremely blatant it was not an innocent offer. Whilst his wife is away with dying mother too. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that personally.

SAME