To ask how many of you are actually happily married

[Strugglingtocopewithmarriage]

Meaning you genuinely like your partner, would marry then again given the chance, enjoy spending time with them...

To answer all of your questions, in order:
no
no
and...
no
If my financial future looked brighter I'd be gone in a nano (but I'm old and can't afford to leave so I make the best of a bad situation)

Together 37 years , married for 33 yrs and extremely happy .

Yes, we’ve been together nearly 2 decades and he is honestly still my favourite person!

Hell no.

He’s useful and it suits me to stay but we have no relationship.

I am. We got together at 18, married at 26, now nearing 40 with 2 dcs. I would marry him again in a heartbeat.

I'd make a fucking fortune if I could clone him and open some sort of Husband Lending Library.

I'm not naive enough to assume that we will be together forever without any trouble, but if it continues the way it has, we have every chance of staying together.

We've faced a fair whack of challenges, so it's not even as if it's a "wait til something comes along that truly challenges you" sort of thing.

Me 👋🏼 DH is incredible. I can’t believe my luck ❤️ we are having a baby together and I can’t wait to see him being a father, I know he’ll be amazing. He’s kind, very funny, clever, and utterly gorgeous 😊

I've watched mine look after a severely disabled child with issues too disresseing to write I couldn t fathom how they get through their day.the things they've seen,been through done.nwver give g up.always fought on.and I thibk wow every bloody day,those two.remarkable.what a blessed team.

Me, I adore dh. He got up at 4am to go and do his job - a 1.5 hour drive each way - and it's a medical role so a lot of responsibility. He got home recently and saw me struggling with the baby so has sent me off to bed with a big bar of chocolate and has insisted on just cracking on with everything himself. Bins, washing up, laundry. I'm incredibly lucky. I kept trying to do bits myself and saying he doesn't have to but he insists, just keeps saying that I deserve it and that he enjoys jobs etc.

Yes. He's not 'sex on a stick'; but neither am I. I really am not! 😬😂 We're both around 60, married 25- which in itself! We were both real adults when we committed and married.

My DH is a lovely, decent guy. I so love him. We've been married 25 years, 2 young adult DSs. We rarely argue, but we've become better at settling differences when they arise, now and then.

I wonder if we've both been lucky enough to witness our own parents' 'staying together', more or less happily?

Btw I'm sorry if that sounded smug op but I'm just honestly answering the question! I hope your dh improves soon.

Me, very happy after over a decade of marriage. You don't go off them if they're a good guy.

I am. Dh is lovely and I am glad we met.

Yes, we’re a great team, I like and love him and he’s a great husband and fantastic father. We have (touch wood) a very good life together.

I enjoy his company - we have great conversations, and we both make each other laugh.

We’re actually quite different in some fundamental ways - he’s right leaning and I’m left leaning. He’s (non-practicing) Catholic and I’m very agnostic, and we have some great discussions about some topics. It’s definitely not boring, put it that way! There are also some very important issues that we strongly agree on. And we’re very much aligned in how to bring up our children, which makes life much easier.

Sure, he annoys me sometimes, as I’m sure I do him. But then again, my best friend of over 40 years annoys me sometimes, my beloved parents annoyed me sometimes and my delightful kids annoy me sometimes. Anyone you’re very close to will annoy you sometimes.

We are a great team. We socialise together because we like the same sort of people, but we also socialise alone. We’re not in each other’s pockets, but our life is very much together.

And we get space from each other as we both work full time.

Yes definitely. Married 8 years, together 11, and have 2 kids.
we’ve had periods when we’ve bickered a bit more (especially during the tired with a newborn stages) but we are happy and in love.
I honestly couldn’t think of anyone better to spend my life with.

I’ve had an absolutely shit couple of weeks and he has been a tower of strength to me and run the house and sorted the kids without a second thought (as it should be! But I appreciate it so much).

Marriage is challenging, OP. I don’t think you’re wrong to feel that and if your husband is being bad at pulling his weight then you obviously will struggle. Baby years are tough on most people’s relationships.

There’s hope, though. If you can communicate effectively and you each trust the other person to listen and hear - not just wait to speak/get offended/ignore/play tit for tat then you can grow together.

Nope

Lets just remember, OP. 50% of marriages end in divorce.

So a good proportion of the posters saying yes they're happy, probably have partners who secretly beg to differ.

Just because you like your spouse, doesn't mean they still like you.

Yep, 100%. We’ve been together 22 years.

Me, we've been together 16 years and he is honestly the love of my life, we're best friends as well as husband and wife and he's an amazing Dad and Grandad(I had 4DC when we first met and we've gone onto have our 5TH DC and he is Dad to all of our DC)all of my family love him and his family love me.

We're both very lucky, we'd both escaped abusive marriages before we met and neither of us knew a marriage could be so good until we found each other.

We're happily married too, and it's ace. We've been together for 14 years, married for 7 and he's still totally my best friend and soulmate. I don't even want to spend time with other people because I have such a good time with DH. 😁 I realise we're very lucky, but we've had shit luck with other stuff so it's a nice balance to be a bit lucky with love.

Me. I mean, he's a pain sometimes, but so am I. We live beautifully together in mutual irritation and I would never want to be without his gorgeous face 😍

I am. I've been married 42 years (I was 21 then). He's been my best friend, a loyal and devoted partner, and has cared for me just as he promised my parents he would do.

Well aren’t you a ray of sunshine?

Where are you getting your 50% statistic from? I suspect it was pulled from your bottom, but am happy to be corrected.

Together 25 years, very happy, great sex still, plenty of romance, like each other’s company. Similar interests, similar morally. 3 adult DC.

I suspect the percentage of marriages in which at least one partner is very happy that end in divorce is a great deal lower than 50%.