To ask how many of you are actually happily married

[Strugglingtocopewithmarriage]

Meaning you genuinely like your partner, would marry then again given the chance, enjoy spending time with them...

DH was a darling and we had 16 wonderful
years together before his untimely death at 36. That was 30 years ago, I still love him and miss him, and would marry him again in a heartbeat, even knowing that it would be cut short.
He was my best friend, lover, mentor and life support system, not just a husband. I never remarried, and hope to be reunited with him at my own death.

Yup, 10 years in and we're happier than ever. Baby days were hard and really put a lot of pressure on us as a couple, came close to breaking us and lots of tears but we came out the other side.

Communication is key, keep talking and keep listening to eachother.

DH and i have seven children and been together 22 years. We got together as teenagers. Honestly, we've had our ups and downs like any couple but we are strong, united and love eachother dearly. He is literally my best friend and we support eachother through life. I would marry him again without a doubt.

We’ve been together 25 years, married for 20. We have had difficult times caused by outside stresses but have always been solid together and very happy with each other. I always worked from home before the pandemic, DH does now, bar when we have to make site visits or in person meetings elsewhere. It’s great because we have more time at either end of the day, without a commute. But we also have our own space - different interests and hobbies mean we have always spent time apart aside from going to work, so we have time alone or with other people a lot. Just because we’re married doesn’t mean we spend every moment together!

Me, almost 15 years, but to another woman, which probably helps :) !

Me 🙌🏼

Very good partner, very supportive and a very 'hands on' daddy. I've actually been at two events this week and came back home to the washing basket fully emptied and the house in order 🙈 bless him!

Helps that we have so much in common and I genuinely enjoy that time when DC are in bed to catch up with him and chat about our days.

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your DH.
He was so young too, it must have broken your heart to lose him but as you say you'll be reunited one day and be together forever. Sending hugs to you 💐

Yes, absolutely. We’ve been together since high school (20 years ago) and I thank my lucky stars we found each other so early on. He’s my favourite person, makes me laugh until I cry every day and I still fancy him like mad. I just adore him. (Soppy, but you did ask!)

We’ve been together 35 years. I’d 100% marry him again.

Me too.

Very impressed @Howabsolutelyfanfuckingtastic that you are still upright after 7 children.:)

Sorry to those who have lost their spouses or been let down by them:(

I think I need to move out London now we both WFH and I am menopausal:)

No. I adore my children and grandchildren but my god I wouldn't marry him again. I wish that I'd had the confidence early on that I deserve better. I've singlehandedly raised our family and carried 100% of the mental load. The resentment has slowly eaten away every positive feeling towards him. Now he's late 50s and has a growing list of medical issues - and I've been looking after him post surgery for 2 weeks through gritted teeth.

Sending you love @Babdoc life is unfair sometimes.

I love DH more now than I did when I married him (10 years for us.) It doesn't mean things are always perfect..... we can definitely irritate one another sometimes but he is kind, hard working and an excellent father to our two DDs (age 5 and 3.) Seeing what an involved, caring dad he is to our children and knowing he always has my back means I would choose him again in a heartbeat.

Me, absolutely. Still get butterflies when hes due home. He waits at the door when I am. 13 yr in.

Got my own bedroom though.

Been together a long time but no, not happy. However, we don't really argue and it feels like too much hassle to split up at the moment. We manage to co exist peacefully enough but that's as far as it goes.

Yes.

Me!
the relationship has its moments of stress and difficulty but to this day we have still never had a real argument.

I still get butterflies when I get a text, or a voicemail or I see him pull on the drive - it’s been 12 years.

im also aware that I’m the exception and not the rule amongst friendship groups.

@JanisMoplin thank you!
I was made to be a Mummy, i adore them all and i feel like we are so blessed to have each of them. DH worms hard to provide for us all so we don't see him as much as we'd like but i appreciate him so much and it's special when we get time together.

We have our own spaces. Separate bathrooms and dressing rooms, and a home office each.

Yes I am, met at school 15 years ago and can't imagine not being together. Happily married x

No.

I wish I could go back in time and tell myself to run for the hills and never look back.

Judging by your username and update, can I ask how it will help you to know that Ann in Glasgow is blissfully happy with her husband of 40+ years?

It may be better to explore what your issue is instead

Me

Happily married, 20 years so far and would marry him again without hesitation. We're a team, communication and respect is mutual, shared sense of humour and priorities are our glue. He gets me and I get him, neither of us let's the other down. We've had our challenging times but that's what's got us through still smiling.

31 years and counting.
Would marry him again tomorrow.