8 year old up till 4.30 am is unreasonable?

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Just picked up my 8 year old DD from a sleepover at her friend from schools house and it turns out she and her friend were up until 4.30 am. The mum came into the room and said it was time to calm down and go to sleep...at 4.30 am!!

I'm really unhappy, in what world is letting 8 year old girls stay awake till that time unaccompanied may I add as the mum was in her bed, okay? 12 am - fair enough, maybe 1 am at a push if excited but 4.30 am is ridiculous and my DD is knackered.

I don't know whether to text the mum. She certainly won't be back there for a sleepover. AIBU?

10 year old had a sleep over last night, they were still awake gone 3! It is what it is!

Don't text.

I can guarantee that the mum wanted them asleep earlier. She must be knackered. I bet she had also asked them to quieten down and sleep before that. But they were too excited.

Don't send her to another sleepover if you're not prepared for her to have not very much sleep.

She probably won't be in a hurry to invite her again any time soon anyway.

I used to love sleep overs, staying up until midnight for a snack, chatting all night, being told to “go to sleep” 100 times and ignoring it and then feeling exhausted the next day. Great preparation for my late teens when I stayed out all night clubbing and then spent Sunday sleeping.

I think it’s fine as a one off, it’s not as though it will be happening every weekend. I’m sure she had a great time even if she is tired today. It won’t hurt her.

Grounded ?????????

omg that’s horrid - poor kid !!

You've grounded her?!!!

What a complete and utter over reaction. So was she meant to do - not join in?

Your poor daughter is going to be the one who with time is excluded and ridiculed for having a batshit mum unless you take a more measured approach. Poor kid.

(No doubt everyone else is wrong in your eyes and you won't listen).

that was my first thought

BTW - if you text the other mum, please update on her reaction - could do with a laugh!!!!!!!

You cannot be serious.

You are BU!
4:30am shows at least they went to sleep :)

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Grounded for what?

This is one of those threads you really hope isn't true

Well done on teaching your OP that other peoples actions are her fault, OP.

Okay, I'm the fun police. I don't think there should be sleepovers in term time. Any child loses a whole day with the family, catching up, preparing for school. One white night with no sleep takes a lot of catching up on not just an early night the next day. Somebody needs to be policing what they're watching - whether it's thriller killers or porn, preferably by turning off the internet, and if the kids don't sleep till 0430 the parents need to stay awake which impacts them and any other children in the house. I think they are an obnoxious import.

You’ve grounded her?!?

You’re a fun sponge. What a miserable person!

I think OP is having a laugh folks. No one can be that much of a twat 🤣

This is rubbish. It's absolutely fine to insist that kids sleeping over actually go to sleep. I let them do what they like until 10pm then it's quiet time and everyone has been asleep by 10.30pm no problem. Up again by 6am but that's fine! If my daughter was allowed to stay up until 4.30 there's no way she'd be going back.

Exactly! Think yourself lucky and stay schtum apart from "thank you for having her" OP!

Sleepovers never involve actual sleep.

Oh trust me, my DD is grounded after that
Why? what has done to deserve this?

Good grief – unless you think they were out in nightclubs or roaming the streets you’re being totally unreasonable and why an earth have you grounded your own DD when she’s just abided by the house rules where she was? She’s not done anything wrong at all. And why don’t you allow sleepovers to go late your house – what exactly do you think will happen? One early night and the next day everything will be fine.

What a joke.

4.30am is far too late for that age, surprised at all the PP who say different!! 1am latest, very latest.

You grounded her?! Omg OP! What a bloody overreaction!

You grounded her?!

Your DD is going to grow up and want to get away from you as soon as humanly possible if this is how you behave over tiny mundane things like this.
way over the top!

No wonder your DD wants to have sleepovers at other people's rather than yours then! Unclench. Getting razzed up on sugar and surviving on no sleep is an absolute rite of passage of small people and it would be a shame if you denied your child this.