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To ask how many people you've slept with?

165 replies

ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 18:27

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

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TheWayoftheLeaf · 21/06/2022 21:14

88milesanhour · 21/06/2022 20:58

I'm just here to see if anyone remembers the 'rule of 3' from American Pie 🤣

Yes I was thinking that 😂 That's why I think womens are higher

TheWayoftheLeaf · 21/06/2022 21:15

PinkMendinilla · 21/06/2022 21:13

It's not a question I could really answer. I haven't kept a tally either way but wouldn't know whether to count the non consensual ones as well.

Non consensual doesn't count. It's not sex, it's rape. So doesn't get included.

MintyGreenDreams · 21/06/2022 21:17

I think its around 30

FLOWER1982 · 21/06/2022 21:19

30-40? Only one in the last 14 years, my dh. I was quite wild when I was younger and got a lot of attention because I was attractive. A lot I kind of regret but I feel I didn’t have the best upbringing and guidance. It was (mostly) fun though.

Mum2jenny · 21/06/2022 21:24

Less than 10, probably around 7 but not entirely sure. Senility is setting in 🤣🤣

DisgruntledPelican · 21/06/2022 21:24

12-15, something like that. I’m 36 and had sex for the first time at 17. Three long term relationships and a handful of hookups.

ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 21:52

I'm definitely not a journalist asking for an article.. I am not a super regular poster on here and kind of concerned if that happens often!

I guess I'm just in a curious mood.. and to be honest the only person in my friendship group to get teased (not by me, mind) was my friend who had a very low number.

I think any number is acceptable and wouldn't judge anyone, friend partner or otherwise, just wondered and asked I guess!

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ErinAndTonic · 21/06/2022 21:52

Also I'm confused what's so twee about using the term 'slept with' it's a fairly common phrase where I'm from!

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Bubblesandsqueak1 · 21/06/2022 21:54

Me 15 dh 1

FunDragon · 21/06/2022 21:56

Not sure, but virtually all of them would have been within about a three year period.

One for the last 13 years. Hope it stays that way!

Januarytoes · 21/06/2022 21:57

Before DH , 12, mostly serial monogamy except one non-consensual event with an older man in a position of authority at my work. I hope he's dead now.

After meeting DH in my late twenties, only him.

Pyewhacket · 21/06/2022 22:01

7, include a another woman 😊

fromhereuntilforever · 21/06/2022 22:01

I am early 20s and 8 I think since 15 years old. DP only me.

mrsfoof · 21/06/2022 22:04
  1. DH and I have been together since we were teenagers.
biggreenhouse · 21/06/2022 22:06

16 I think

JaceLancs · 21/06/2022 22:08

Without sitting and making a list heading towards 30

Vikinga · 21/06/2022 22:11

I'm in my 50s - 11

Nothappyatwork · 21/06/2022 22:14

More than Princess Di, less than Madonna

IfYouOnlyKnew · 21/06/2022 22:23

10 including DH. Would have been 11 but we were interrupted!!

MovinOnUp · 21/06/2022 22:24

Somewhere between 30 and 40 I'd say.

Before I married my ex I averaged around 5 per year, Be those flings or ONS.

Was married for a long time then had 2 years of being single before meeting the current Mr MovinOnUp, During which I added 3 flings to my running total.

ChagSameachDoreen · 21/06/2022 22:25

Two women and nine blokes.

LaFloristaCalista · 21/06/2022 22:28

No idea

Christmastreejoy · 21/06/2022 22:29

Depends what we class as sex I guess? 2 probably. 4 if we count other things. My husbands total is 1. We’ve been together since young

WhereIsVillanelleWhenNeeded · 21/06/2022 22:30

Fooled around with 2 guys where we did most things but not intercourse. Doing the actual do, just the one person. So is that three or one?

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 21/06/2022 22:48

I think mine's about 15. It's all a bit hazy now tbh.