To ask how many people you've slept with?

[ErinAndTonic]

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

0 for me.

Loads. I'm in my 60s. Maybe 30?

1. I'm 34 and separated from ex 18 months ago after 11 years. So that number will increase at some point I hope!

1. I met my DH when I was 18.

Neither DP or I can work out our own histories.

I clearly do not have self respect. Tell you what, I will grab a ladder to climb the pedestal you are sitting on amd you can teach me! 🍆 💦

@Hallyup89 I respect myself in many ways, the people I chose to sleep with have no bearing on that.

I also respect myself and other people enough to avoid being a sanctimonious arse

And I'm happy.

1. I'm currently separating from my husband and hate the thought of this number getting higher. :(

Sorry, but why shouldn’t women with low/no number be proud?

You started your thread with happy….etc.
So sound your content, proud (?) of your past.

Why aren’t women on the other side of the spectrum aloud to be the same?

I’m getting really tired of the prude and virgin shaming here.

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna - I shall be following you up that ladder..

@Hallyup I have plenty of respect for myself. For cunts like you? Not so much

Both dh and I have slept with 6 people.

Absolutely loads. Some good experiences. Some shit ones. Been with my dh for 20 years now, so just him since then.

I hope you have a tall enough ladder. Hallyup89 clearly is sitting high!

Could only find 1 willing to do it, more like.

I didn’t keep count! Not a very high number, as met dh at 20, but I did clock up quite a few before that.

I was with my first boyfriend from 15-21 and DH from 21 to now (38).
I've never had a day where I've been single in my adult life! So how could I rack my number up without cheating!
DH once said his number is 'over 40' (all before me I hasten to add!)

Allow me to be a living proof of it.

It does happen.
Quite a lot, actually.

I met my husband when we were 22, which was over 20 years ago now. Before then I can't remember how many, but it was only a handful. I wish I'd shagged around a lot more when I had the chance!

Not enough 😄

1. The number probably won't increase as long as I stay happily married to DH. We got together fairly young and I've never been one for sleeping with strangers

1. DH1, got divorced, and DH2.

1,my DH and he has only slept with me. Met when I was 18 and together 24 years.

The right amount for me!!!

That's my stock answer. Not because I'm embarrassed or ashamed of it. Not because I think, it's too high or too low but it's exactly the right amount. If it wasn't, the number would be different.

The number has zero correlation with who is a person is, what their morals are, how good they are sexually etc. To be, it's a redundant question - the answer adds no value.

How many times have you cheated is a far more important question imo.

2 (both long-term relationships).