To ask how many people you've slept with?

[ErinAndTonic]

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

Mine is higher than my husbands. It doesn't matter what is considered high or low to me.

Between 55 and 70. Same one for the last eight years though, and I can't see that changing.

Surely straight mens wouldn’t be too different to the average straight womans number?

4 between the ages of 16 and 18. Number 4 is my DH. His number is higher than mine but he’s older than me.

I’m not bothered by my number and can’t get worked up about anyone else’s either. The only thing that would bother me is if any of them were not consensual.

I think probably around 40, but only 1 for the last 22 years.

One (1).

And there comes the shaming of women.

Damn right.

That doesn't work as numbers are not constant in the population by age and sexual activity varies by age and over time

@Hallyup89

what?! Why does having sex equal anything to do with self respect?!

did we just go back in time?!

2 serious partners and a few flings
maybe 10 in total
Absolutely no regrets and in real life I would not discuss

Let's not mention the 'are you really asexual/frigid/prudish' for the low numbers women...
Cos that never happens, right?

@Hallyup89

Why does having sex with people mean you have less self respect?

2 people and I'm 30. I was in a relationship from 18 to 28 and then current partner from 29 to now 30

One.

I don't agree with this at all. A lot of PP's who have slept with loads more than me probably have more self respect than I do, I stayed with a guy who treated me like shit because I loved him. I'm sure a lot of the women who have slept with a lot more men wouldn't have put up with that.

11, and I'm 31

Didn’t take long for the judgemental attitudes to arrive.

why do you think women who choose to engage in pleasurable, lawful, activity lack self respect?

I don’t think anyone has judged low numbers

I'm not sure. 10ish

21, though only one in the last decade. DH's is 11. We both have plenty of self respect.

No. I think around 40, but not totally sure.

One.

Although if we're talking slept with as in just 'shared a bed with' then more like seven .

What an unpleasant thing to say.

1 and that's because I've been in a long term relationship since a teenager (now married).
I would believe that if I hadn't of been in a long term relationship from a young age my number would definitely be higher.