To ask how many people you've slept with?

[ErinAndTonic]

Do you even know the number.. I was thinking today that I've never actually 'tallied' it (not sure if it's a more male thing to do!) but I think it's around 9 or 10.

I've no idea what's considered high/low for women.. and I assume mens are higher.. although my partner tells me he's only slept with 2 people which shocked me! 

Triple figures. No idea. Not counting.

I have plenty of self respect and also a high sex drive, good safe sex practices (never tested positive for anything despite regular testing) and am ethically non-monogamous so that number will keep climbing for the rest of my life 😊

I love that the door is never closed on a new love in my life and that each new partner encourages growth and change in ways I would never have expected. I deeply appreciate the partners I have who love me as my wildest self and don’t feel the need to restrict me with their love

I don’t live with any of my partners as a strict rule and am very happy with my life choices.
You can judge them if you like.
It won’t affect them or me!

I wish more women felt they could be free to live their life authentically. Whatever that means for them.

I find the endless stream of miserable women feeling stuck with bullshit men on here depressing and wish they felt less judged about being a bit more try before you buy about guys!

Around 4/5

although I never understand the philosophy of why society in general gives the guys the well done, so to speak, yet the ladies are ment to be all prim and proper, if that's the right way to phrase it.

To me, desire is desire as and long as both parties enjoy themselves then why the stigma ?

About 11 before meeting DH at 24

I lost count but less than 25

With DH for the last 20 years so the number won’t change. He was a one night stand that got out of hand 😁

See both ends of the the spectrum can be happy and don’t have to judge

it’s up to individuals to decide what is right for them.

i also agree I’d be more concerned about people who would cheat (despite not choosing monogamy) than people with high ‘body count’ 🤢

There are plenty of things I have enough self respect to not do or let others do to me. Having a fucking good shag isn't one of them. In fact I have enough self worth and respect to know that I enjoy sex and know what I enjoy during sex. I feel no shame for enjoying my single life when I was younger. Sex can be amazing!

As long as it's safe and consensual, why worry? It's just sex, not mass murder ..

I had a bad (non-consensual) experience at age 16 which sent my self-esteem plummeting and led to rather a lot of encounters which weren't a very good idea. I did keep a tally but destroyed the list and now I can't remember, but I wouldn't tell anyway.

2.5 and barring tragedy, that’ll be it I suspect.

Who knows, had my first love not indulged in a little too much “Dutch courage” and/or been able to recover from his embarrassment over the 0.5, it might not have gone beyond 1! 🤭

15. 14 men and 1 woman. I wish I'd slept with more women but I'm married now (to a man) so unless we split up, I won't get that opportunity

I don't really regret any of them, although there's 3 I wouldn't bother with if I could go back 🤣

About 20 I think but haven’t counted for decades. Only four in past 18 years (11 year marriage and four year relationship).

Nought wrong with my self respect either.

1 🙈🙈🙈

1. Just my husband - together since teens

Not as many as I’d like to have “done” before meeting DP! 😉

Less than I'd like to have done

No idea, loads probably but I love sex and all my experiences have been overwhelming positive so no regrets at all

Fuck the Daily Mail.
Around 17 but only 1 for the past 7 years.
Fuck the Daily Mail.

13 or 14 I think, only one of those for the last 9 years. I’m in my early thirties, sexually active for 6 years before meeting DH, so it only averages just over 2 a year, which is absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of single university life!

Not as many as I'd like 😉

Two and I married them both!!!
I was with ex dh for 18 years and have been with dh for 18 years.

I don't know DHs I've never asked because I have a feeling it's only 2....me and his ex wife. I'd rather not know!

I can't remember mine, it's below 10. I've been married 17 years and honestly not thought about it for years! This may keep me up tonight trying to remember!

Around 45.

"Slept with..."

So fucking twee.

I slept with around 100 people from age 15 - 30 which is actually only around 7 people a year, less than one person a month. I don’t think that is a lot of sex for a single person to have particularly. Some experiences were amazing, some were horrific. Not many regrets, I think the good outweighed the bad over all.

I'm not sure. I think around 30 but it could 50+. I don't think I could even write them all down if I'm honest.