to go to Glastonbury?

[greentreesgreengrass]

DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

Isn't one of the things they advise when you have a new baby NOT to spend time in the house alone? All I know is @greentreesgreengrass has got the right idea after 9+ months of putting her body through things.. time for a treat. It's not like she's going for weeks is it?🙄

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

Yabu to say this. You can were right the first time, you're just lucky!

Over a week away from a baby that is 90 days old? No chance.

You're being deliberately obtuse, but I'll humour you. There's a vast difference between getting out of the house each day for a walk or to meet friends WITH your newborn baby, and disappearing for 6 nights WITHOUT your newborn baby.

I was never in the 'my baby is 6 years old and I couldn't bear the thought of leaving him' brigade, I was all over leaving mine with loving grandparents from a fairly young age.

But even I think that 6 days at 12 weeks old is a bit much. But really, if you are happy to do it, then you should just go for it.

lucky that DS is a very chilled baby (maybe because we're very chilled parents!)

YABU for this comment. You are not “very chilled parents”, you’re in the incredibly lucky minority who have free childcare on tap and you have no idea how lucky you are.

You’re obviously not breastfeeding so ultimately it’s up to you. A week getting wrecked (I presume, as you say you’ll need a 2 day recovery) is going to change your bond with your baby, but then it sounds like the grandparents are already doing a lot of the parenting anyway.

I’d do 2 nights or sell the tickets and try again next year.

“6 days, so basically a week, to leave a tiny 12 week old baby. I'm shocked that you could even considered it. One night maybe but not 6”

^I agree. I don’t know anyone who has done this. Poor baby.

I struggled to leave my babies for a couple of hours at that stage. Like pp, I can’t empathise but as the baby will be well cared for I wouldn’t judge … I’d still wonder how you could though.

We’re all different.

Your baby, your choice.

How do you feel about not seeing DS for a few days?

How does your partner feel?

Have your parents had a lot of involvement in your DS life so far?

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A night? Sure. A week is something else. At that age you'll be coming home to a different baby, they change so much at that age!

I have three DC and have always enjoyed nights out and occasional nights away since they were little but even I think 12 weeks is too early for such a long time away.
I just wouldn't have wanted to do it, I would have missed them immensely and worried that such a small baby would be stressed by being without me for such a long time. I'm sure your parents are lovely but they aren't you and your baby will not be as familiar with their voices, smell, touch etc.
I do leave the kids for long weekends every now and then but even at 7 and 11 I think they would miss me (and me them) for 6 days in a row even now.

You don’t have to study much psychology (which I have) before they get on to the importance of the first three years of life and particularly of forming an attachment to a primary caregiver. It’s absolutely crucial to healthy development. People think because a baby or small child ‘won’t know’ or ‘won’t remember’ that it doesn’t matter. It may not affect your baby, no one can say for certain and you will never know either way if it made a difference, but you’re certainly taking a risk.

Nice little PA sideswipe there to anybody without a chilled baby - it's obviously

.... The parents' fault!

I wouldn't have done it, but I can see that if you had tickets booked, have willing childcare, I might be tempted to go for a couple of nights - the shortest time possible to still enjoy it really.
Why do you need those recovery days though? If the baby is super-chill like you are, can't you just recover at home?

I'd have been tearing my hair out after a day or two.

My instincts to be near and protect were very strong in the early days. I feel those instincts are there for a reason.

I currently have a toddler from hell. He was the most chilled out baby out of all my babies. That's what i get for being so smug!!!!

YY ask on a 'band forum' you are much more likely to get the right answers. I'm sure people on band forums are more likely to be knowledgeable about such things. Good plan.

As for ignore the haters.

To be honest this never would have crossed my mind and would never have done this. I thought we were very early leaving for 1 night at 16 weeks...

We went on our honeymoon without the kids with the youngest at not yet 3 years old and that felt really tough to do...

Each to their own, but to me this just sounds crazy...

I left dd2 at 6 weeks for a weekend away for a wedding. I must admit that was long enough for Me, her and my parents!

Ignore the haters

Oh grow the fuck up.

Right, so from what point of experience or reference are you answering this question then?