to go to Glastonbury?

[greentreesgreengrass]

DP and I got Glasto tickets for 2020, now of course moved to finally be this week! hooray!

We have a 12 week old DS who we'll be leaving with my parents. We're away tomorrow to Tuesday as having a couple of days away to recover from the festival after!

People have seemed a little judgy about this. do you think it's fine? we will of course be going anyway but interested to know what people think.

It's fine @greentreesgreengrass go and enjoy yourselves. I suspect you won't want the extra night in the end but if you do, go for it!

As a massive Glastonbury fan I can see why you really wouldn't want to miss out after waiting 2 years.

I think it was a mistake to ask here though, some people are very judgmental. It's probably the same ones giving a woman shit on another thread for considering going on holiday.

Sorry OP it’s super weird. And I say that as a raver myself.

Would I go - yes.

But it would be Fri-Sun bring the babe, try to find a hotel (as probably wouldn’t have mastered new born camping in a potential heatwave) and have the ‘camping chairs Sunday vibe type Glastonbury’ rather than the ‘mad glasto requiring 3 day post-rave recovery.’

Its actually a very nice and different way to experience the festival. I always do one day of Sunday Vibes each year (doesn’t even have to be on a Sunday 😂)

So yes very odd to me. Do enjoy though 🥳

Blimey, Glasto sure isn’t what it used to be if you’re even considering not taking a 12 week old baby.

I couldn’t do it. I think your baby will wonder where on Earth you’ve gone!

I'd have taken him.

Your baby won't know when/if you are ever coming back.

Why does it matter what a bunch of random people think? I breastfed all my children so couldn't leave any of them until 1 year old plus, even over night they just cried for me and my boobs would be exploding (even with a pump). If you trust your parents and don't breastfeed go if you want to, just because other people wouldn't doesn't mean you shouldn't. You could have sent your tickets back and got your money back though, my sister has an 8 week old she knew she'd not be able to leave her so got their money back a while ago. As you've paid you may as well go.

OP got everyone frothing and buggered off.

Hmm

No smugness from me at all- not at all sure where people got that from! Very aware we are currently very lucky DS is so chilled and very aware that will change. Making the most of it while we can!

We do not drink or take drugs (again, not sure where that came from)

Thanks to those that have given helpful suggestions- we had considered taking DS but decided against baby at Glastonbury in a heatwave vibes. We'd love to take him with us in the future! Just think I'd be worried about meeting his needs in that environment, hygiene, feeds etc. Unfortunately BF didn't work out for us, otherwise that would make things easier.

We're going to cancel the extra 2 nights on the end, as others have said that will be too long and we'll be desperate to come home to him at that point!

No frothing required people!

Of the developed world the USA has the lowest paid mat leave (zero weeks!). It also has some of the worst rates of infant mortality. This link has been established with other countries as well. Not suggesting that the OP going to glasto will lead to anything so terrible just that it's not great for babies to be separated so young from primary care giver

I couldn’t have left mine as I was EBF but I wouldn’t have done it anyway.

For those that wouldn't be able to leave baby- is it because you'd miss them too much? This is really sad. You're literally questioning the concept of missing your tiny baby like it's a foreign idea. I genuinely feel really sorry for your son, and for you two as parents. They're only babies for such a short time, and they really do change so fast. Choosing to spend so long from him is... so sad.

Hey there, I’m actually heading myself and we’ve made the decision to take out DD with us. She’s 10 weeks old but I’m sure we’ll have lots of fun together. Can’t wait to see Billie Eilish! Maybe you could take your DS too?

I didn't leave my son overnight until he was well over one and I did not like it at all. So no way would I leave a 12 week old. I could not have left him that wee anyway as he would only feed from me.

Everyone is different. If this feels right to you, just enjoy your time, but in parenting matters, you are always going to get people being judgy because people do things differently and for some reason when it comes to babies people take someone being different as a criticism of their own choices, or an opportunity to act superior.

I do know people that have taken tiny babies and actually they cope pretty well, especially if the weather is ok. Too hot or very wet and it becomes a bit of an endurance test with a child that young.
They were also able to breastfeed. Trying to do bottles etc in a field would be a big faff. Even for a couple of days camping it's a bit of a military operation.

I hope you have an amazing time.

It’s a hard no personally but as long as he is looked after you’ve met your legal obligations to him. I would be judging you and conclude you aren’t that bothered and that something was amiss with your bonding. I literally don’t know anyone that’s done this so wonder if this tale is even true.

Amazing that your parents are ok with it mine helpful but no overnights until they slept through - a week with a newborn is a massive ask of them.

We do not drink or take drugs (again, not sure where that came from)

Probably came from the part of your OP where you said you needed another couple of days to recover before taking your baby back again 🙄

I can’t believe this is real and if it is, it’s bloody sad.

Does Glastonbury take a lot of recovering from generally? I've never been and the more I find out the less I want to.

As for mention of ‘mummy martyrs’ FFS there is clear water between being a mummy martyr and…this. A lot of clear water. It’s just a phrase banded around by sneery people trying to make themselves feel better about making choices that are all about them and not about their children.

And as for ‘ignore the haters’….well anyone using that phrase is clearly not someone whose parenting advice I will give much value to 🤦‍♀️

At least half a day in the bath tub to feel clean again

Eww.

yes, at least half a day in the bath ideally!

it's recovering from all the walking, chaos and general lack of sleep....fun though!

walking, chaos and general lack of sleep

No, that's not selling it to me much (and there's still the Paul McCartney thing on top).

You'll be used to the lack of sleep though :)