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Tell me your life's top tip

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browniesandcakes · 20/06/2022 23:28

I'll go first....

If you are feeling low, do something for someone else. Not because you have too, but because you can. I promise you will walk away feeling more inspired than you did before! Just be kind in life, it's so rewarding.

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FriendlyPineapple · 23/06/2022 03:27

Teach yourself stuff.

Doesn't matter what it is; photography, an instrument, a language.

Just be in charge of your life and your learning and keep your brain malleable.

Acatnamedfox · 23/06/2022 03:53

You can’t help who you love but you can help who you hurt.

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Acatnamedfox · 23/06/2022 04:28

You can’t help who you love but you can help who you hurt.

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Imissmoominmama · 23/06/2022 06:09

Have something furry in your life.

Positive reinforcement works better for humans and animals, than fear of punishment.

Eat well and take supplements.

Don’t drink the whole bottle!

Letsgoforaskip · 23/06/2022 06:36

@LesGiselle love that too. It’s now in my diary.

DoubleYouOhEmAyEn · 23/06/2022 07:09

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 21/06/2022 04:25

Never marry anybody you'd be afraid to get divorced from.

Very very good advice. Any single mumsnetters take heed.

BackToTheTop · 23/06/2022 07:18

Always be financially independent
Always have a bank account with a small 'run away fund'
You ALWAYS have a choice
If it's not important in 5 years time, don't worry about it now
Manners cost nothing

faffadoodledo · 23/06/2022 07:22

Be more dog.
We actually have this carved into a piece of garden furniture. It just means live in the moment and wag at every opportunity.

BackToTheTop · 23/06/2022 07:24

You have one life to do everything you want to - act according

I always think about this if I'm umming and arrrrring about doing something.

diamondpony80 · 23/06/2022 07:26

Learn what the word "narcissist" means and what the symptoms are so that you can identify one if you're dating. And then get far, far away. I've seen so many women (myself included) fall for the love bombing and then end up in a very dangerous situation that can be very difficult to get out of.

Neverendingdust · 23/06/2022 07:41

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Drink mainly water and lots of it, never smoke, don’t do drugs, try not to drink alcohol more than once per week, do wear spf, leave the cake alone and always eat healthily.

Chooksnroses · 23/06/2022 08:03

I tell you this as an old woman with a sick husband. When you can't be bothered to do something, imagine what it will be like when you CAN'T do it. ...and make the effort. Life is shorter than you think. I'll be 73 next month. I was 40 yesterday, or so it seems.

Plantstrees · 23/06/2022 08:04

Astrabees · 21/06/2022 09:40

Something Harvey Smith said on a TV interview, which I've applied to all areas of my life. If you have a horse and work with it just aim for a 1% improvement from base level every day. After 100 days you have a horse that is twice as good as when you started.

Love the principle but I don't think maths wasn't his strong point - at 1% per day it would only take 72 days to double!

faffadoodledo · 23/06/2022 08:06

Chooksnroses · 23/06/2022 08:03

I tell you this as an old woman with a sick husband. When you can't be bothered to do something, imagine what it will be like when you CAN'T do it. ...and make the effort. Life is shorter than you think. I'll be 73 next month. I was 40 yesterday, or so it seems.

Wise words x

Chooksnroses · 23/06/2022 08:07

Neverendingdust · 23/06/2022 07:41

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Drink mainly water and lots of it, never smoke, don’t do drugs, try not to drink alcohol more than once per week, do wear spf, leave the cake alone and always eat healthily.

I'd agree with most of that, but I'd change the last bit to "Try to eat healthily but never forget to eat a little bit of cake from time to time!'

stayathomer · 23/06/2022 08:26

Oh by the way I’d also say clothes out night before, for some reason it takes eons off your day and sets you up!!

mamusya · 23/06/2022 08:41

Wake up with an attitude for gratitude.

Triptinratbat · 23/06/2022 09:13

JustMaggie · 21/06/2022 00:02

Don't make any big decisions when you're hungry, angry, lonely or tired (HALT).

@JustMaggie this is so on point ! 👍👍🏽👍🏿👍🏻👍🏼👍🏽🤩

HistoricMoment · 23/06/2022 09:16

CountTheStars · 22/06/2022 20:35

Learn the art of hiding. It’s quite a difficult skill to master but invaluable, particularly at work. Of course, do your work but know how and when to make yourself invisible so you’re not a moving target. People get a lot of unwanted & unwelcome attention because they haven’t learnt how to hide properly.

Whilst in hiding, you can also do nothing if you wish, or simply observe. Doing nothing is another important skill to master, as you need inaction to allow yourself to think. Only when you’re slightly bored will you be able to see with a clear eye. People are too busy all the time. It doesn’t do you any good.

Spend time alone. If you feel you have to be around others all the time, ask yourself why. Being alone allows you to sit with yourself & your feelings. You will be more self-aware for it

I don't understand this. Do you literally mean hiding in the toilet at work?

CaptSkippy · 23/06/2022 09:20

HistoricMoment · 23/06/2022 09:16

I don't understand this. Do you literally mean hiding in the toilet at work?

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I think it means hiding in plain sight, so you don't get noticed but are physically present.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 23/06/2022 10:36

When you stop being good at drinking, stop drinking.

When you are going about your day, and you see someone with fabulous hair, or a terrific dress/whatever, tell them. Just tell them, without expectation, then leave.

doubleshotcappuccino · 23/06/2022 10:51

Process good or bad news by giving them both time to sink in.. give time and space to absorb

moofolk · 23/06/2022 11:19

Don't write off a mumsnet thread because it looks like a hack digging for Top Tips fodder.

You might learn something, and you don't need to buy Take a Break.

needacorset · 23/06/2022 11:48

When you're out drinking at a big party, and you can't remember how many drinks you've had and lost count, that is the time to stop drinking immediately. It saves having a messy hangover.

Learn all about narcissism. It will save you a lot of personal relationship pain.

BennyBean · 23/06/2022 13:28

Do not buy a house unless you are 100% sure of it
i did and it's ruined my life i hate it so much