To not find this funny.

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Dp and I making dinner a while a go.

I had started the gravy off and Dp was keeping an eye on it stirring etc while I was busy.
Conversation went as follows:

Me: Is it OK, (wasn't sure if I had put enough bisto powder in)
Him: Yeah, it's fine. Nice and thick, just like you.

Said with a smirk.

Just one in a long line of his 'jokes' which strangely enough are always at my expense.
Am I just too sensitive???

If you're not both laughing, it's not funny.

How does he react if you make a joke at his expense? Have you asked him to stop making his 'jokes'? What was his response?

Yanbu at all not to find this casual negging funny. It's not.

I mean if it happens on the daily then I would be getting extremely bored of it and wouldn’t find it slightly funny.

if my partner said it tonight I’d laugh cos I’d know it was an actual joke because he doesn’t say mean stuff.. if you get me?

Surprised he's not wearing the gravy after that comment.

In this example, your partner sounds like a wanker and YANBU but stop using Bisto and make gravy yourself, Bisto is far too salty.

I have asked him to stop over and over again.

He says it's not his fault if I don't find his jokes funny. To me they are not jokes, but personal insults.

Does he say or do other things that are hurtful OP?

Sure he didn't mean thicc as in curvy/sexy?

Did he mean thick or thicc? Thick is mean, thicc is a compliment to mean curvy in all the right places

Er who uses thick to mean that...

That’s unkind and not even funny. I don’t mind a joke at my expense (if actually humorous and not too often) but that just isn’t even particularly witty or clever.

He sounds like a bit of a prat.

Such a mumsnet comment 🤣🤣

I would have eye rolled and laughed at this

That's an insult dressed up as a joke so that he can play the innocent. He knows full well it's not a joke.

Does he ever make such 'jokes' at his own expense? No, thought not.

That's just nasty. Is he in primary school?

Are you sure he meant it as stupid and not sexy?

What did you reply when he said that?

The smirk makes me think it was more of a sexual comment, are you sure he wasn't calling you thicc? That's definitely something my partner would say, thinking he's chatting me up

As a one off maybe, but if it happened all the time?

Assuming he's not in his teens or early 20s, it's pretty obvious what he meant.

Why do people look for excuses like this?

It so is! I’m crying 🤣🤣🤣

Also just realising that if my dm could operate a smart phone she would make the perfect mumsnetter. The gravy comment literally came out in her voice in my head 🤣🤣

Me and my husband would have laughed at his, but we love and respect each other and have a similar sense of rubbish humour.

If you feel offended and that his jokes are always at your expense, then he's probably a twat.

Well, this is the problem. If he cared for you, he'd stop making stupid 'jokes' that he knew upset you, wouldn't he? That's what a normal caring partner would do.

The OP says she has repeatedly asked him to stop making this kind of comment. If he meant it as a sexy come-on, surely he would have said so when she challenges him? But he hasn't, has he?

He and she both know what he means, and it isn't a compliment.

He'd be wearing the gravy if he said that to me and making his own dinner for the rest of the week, and I wouldn't be doing any laundry and sex, no, not until he learns some respect . . .. And he'd be on the sofa.

He'd be wearing the gravy if he said that to me and making his own dinner for the rest of the week, and I wouldn't be doing any laundry and sex, no, not until he learns some respect . . .. And he'd be on the sofa.

It’s something my oh would say as a compliment, he’s in his 40’s. Presumably the op knows her oh though and knows which way it was meant.