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To not find this funny.

118 replies

Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 19:44

Dp and I making dinner a while a go.

I had started the gravy off and Dp was keeping an eye on it stirring etc while I was busy.
Conversation went as follows:

Me: Is it OK, (wasn't sure if I had put enough bisto powder in)
Him: Yeah, it's fine. Nice and thick, just like you.

Said with a smirk.

Just one in a long line of his 'jokes' which strangely enough are always at my expense.
Am I just too sensitive???

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 20/06/2022 08:06

JanglyBeads · 19/06/2022 19:50

Er who uses thick to mean that...

Teenagers, and I doubt this man is one of those so he’s being a Dick.
Some jokes are funny but it sounds like he just find insulting you amusing OP.

KevinTheAnt · 20/06/2022 08:15

As a PP said, he's projecting his own insecurities onto you to make himself feel better. He sounds pathetic. I would have no respect for someone like this.

billy1966 · 20/06/2022 08:26

Why are you with him is the question?

Littlebirdyouaresosweet · 20/06/2022 08:39

Next meal serve those tiny carrots and say they look like his dick...

Octomore · 20/06/2022 08:41

I'm aghast that 42% of the people who responded to the poll think the OP is unreasonable for not wanting her husband to make nasty, spiteful comments under the guise of a 'joke'.

Idontgiveashitanymore · 20/06/2022 08:47

I’d say something like “ you do know that your jokes aren’t funny and that you come across as really sad “
see how he likes that ..

Ponoka7 · 20/06/2022 08:50

Are you around the same age? I wouldn't waste the time I've got left around someone who doesn't respect you and isn't making you totally happy. I'm mid 50's and I'm starting to be really choosy about any company I keep. It's an age were being fit and well can't be taken for granted and I wouldn't want moments ruined by someone who thinks it's funny to insult me.

WhiteTeaNoSugar · 20/06/2022 09:01

He sounds like a jerk. Does he even like you?

Would he have thought it was funny if you said the gravy was nice and thick like him since he’s so thick he can’t read when even a 5 year old can?

Or would he find it funny if you started to compare things to his tiny dick, fat stomach or whatever etc?

KangFang · 20/06/2022 09:04

He's a wanker.

BeyondMyWits · 20/06/2022 09:12

My Dh made an ill timed joke to my sister once. She turned to him and just said "NOT.... FUNNY..." killed it dead. She teaches teenagers.

Would not have liked his comment OP and would channel my sis next time.

ClaryFairchild · 20/06/2022 09:14

Next time he says something, put everything down, say "I will not be spoken to like that again". Then walk out of the room, grab your bag and walk out of the house. Go and have a nice dinner/drink/whatever on your own.

When you return tell him that being alone is far more preferable than being with with a rude boor, and he needs to be careful or being along will become a permanent state of affairs if he doesn't stop with the insults.

Seraphinesupport · 20/06/2022 09:48

my husband calls me thicc, i dont mind, i am thicc. i got big boobs and bum and he loves my thiccness.

Its something i wouldn't mind him saying personally as i like being thicc

RaininSummer · 20/06/2022 12:47

Where did this meaning come from as I have genuinely never heard it in that context?

baxtersm · 20/06/2022 13:04

I'm sorry but I would have laughed at this!!! Especially if you know you're not thick.. maybe if you're not the brightest and he actually meant you were dumb.. then it's not funny I guess..

Throckmorton · 20/06/2022 13:22

Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 21:38

It's nasty, spiteful and I'm tired of it all. I do not have the energy to keep asking why he is doing it, too keep going over the same shit all the time.

Why are you with him? Genuine question. He sounds really unpleasant, and assuming you are the same age as him, you have several decades more of this to expect if you stay with him. Or you could leave him and be happier alone/with someone nicer

Tootsey11 · 20/06/2022 15:52

For the number of posters questioning my intelligence, I am well educated.

For the poster who stated not to be complaining here, who made you the thread police, I can complain all I want. I was asking opinions on whether I was too sensitive.

I have stated his jokes aren't funny, his reply, 'If you think that, that's your problem'.

OP posts:
billy1966 · 20/06/2022 19:41

Why are you, a well educated woman, with someone who can neither read, nor write, and regularly insults you?

ReneBumsWombats · 21/06/2022 06:45

Tootsey11 · 20/06/2022 15:52

For the number of posters questioning my intelligence, I am well educated.

For the poster who stated not to be complaining here, who made you the thread police, I can complain all I want. I was asking opinions on whether I was too sensitive.

I have stated his jokes aren't funny, his reply, 'If you think that, that's your problem'.

OP, this is who he is. He isn't going to change, not at this stage. This is your life with him.

Use that knowledge to inform your choices. You can't control his behaviour. You can control how you respond to it.

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