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Original poster

To not find this funny.

118 replies

Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 19:44

Dp and I making dinner a while a go.

I had started the gravy off and Dp was keeping an eye on it stirring etc while I was busy.
Conversation went as follows:

Me: Is it OK, (wasn't sure if I had put enough bisto powder in)
Him: Yeah, it's fine. Nice and thick, just like you.

Said with a smirk.

Just one in a long line of his 'jokes' which strangely enough are always at my expense.
Am I just too sensitive???

OP posts:
worraliberty · 19/06/2022 19:59

BrylcreamBeret · 19/06/2022 19:48

In this example, your partner sounds like a wanker and YANBU but stop using Bisto and make gravy yourself, Bisto is far too salty.

Good Lord, do you patronise all adults in this way?

inmyslippers · 19/06/2022 19:59

He doesn't sound very nice or funny

BrylcreamBeret · 19/06/2022 20:00

I have never been described as being Mumsnetty before, think I'm horrified. I may have to go and clean the toilet brush or something.

Op, are you going to continue to allow him to speak to you in this way?

Original poster
Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 20:01

He is almost 60, I can assure you he didn't mean thicc.

I responded 'another one of your insults, nice'.

OP posts:
alphons · 19/06/2022 20:02

When I first met my now DH (of many years), he used to make “jokes” like this. I told him that they were unfunny, unimaginative and lazy, and that a joke made at someone else’s expense is just rudeness - nothing more and nothing less.

He listened, understood, and stopped.

That was the correct response. If he’d insulted me any further by making out the fault was mine for being humourless, I think that would have been the end of us. That alone would have made me understand how little he thought of me and my feelings.

anybloodyname · 19/06/2022 20:03

I would have replied "Yh I must be to have married you "

Wallywobbles · 19/06/2022 20:03

alphons · 19/06/2022 20:02

When I first met my now DH (of many years), he used to make “jokes” like this. I told him that they were unfunny, unimaginative and lazy, and that a joke made at someone else’s expense is just rudeness - nothing more and nothing less.

He listened, understood, and stopped.

That was the correct response. If he’d insulted me any further by making out the fault was mine for being humourless, I think that would have been the end of us. That alone would have made me understand how little he thought of me and my feelings.

This is the correct response. Preface it with. As you're a bit think I'll explain it to you....

justforthisnow · 19/06/2022 20:03

He sounds awful. So nasty to constantly make insulting jibes and then cover them up as jokes.

BrylcreamBeret · 19/06/2022 20:04

@worraliberty if they make salty gravy yes, it's less salty if made from fat/flour/stock. I believe you can buy Oxo cubes with reduced salt if instant gravy is a preference.

Original poster
Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 20:07

I feel I need to step in here and say I was using stock from the meat and adding bisto!

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worraliberty · 19/06/2022 20:08

BrylcreamBeret · 19/06/2022 20:04

@worraliberty if they make salty gravy yes, it's less salty if made from fat/flour/stock. I believe you can buy Oxo cubes with reduced salt if instant gravy is a preference.

WTF's it got to do with you though, to tell another adult to stop making gravy how they choose to?

worraliberty · 19/06/2022 20:09

Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 20:07

I feel I need to step in here and say I was using stock from the meat and adding bisto!

Well you have to STOP IT NOW apparently.

5128gap · 19/06/2022 20:14

BrylcreamBeret · 19/06/2022 20:04

@worraliberty if they make salty gravy yes, it's less salty if made from fat/flour/stock. I believe you can buy Oxo cubes with reduced salt if instant gravy is a preference.

What if you're vegetarian/vegan?

5128gap · 19/06/2022 20:16

Yes it's nasty OP. If he felt his side-splitting pun was too good not to share he should have said 'like me' not 'like you'.

RelocationNightmare · 19/06/2022 20:16

OP, I read it on here once so I'll share with you now...

'If you're the only one who finds it funny, its not funny and you're being a dick'.

butterflied · 19/06/2022 20:17

He sounds tedious at best. He probably laughs at his own jokes too.

Wafflesnsniffles · 19/06/2022 20:20

Id try some 'jokes' on him. "Gosh look at this little grape, its so tiny. Rather like your..........." - choose body part as appropriate.

Original poster
Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 20:20

They seem to come out of the blue, a random insult when least expected.

Like, 'If I looked like you, I wouldn't go out the door'. Another of his 'jokes'.

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Colourmeclear · 19/06/2022 20:21

It really depends. My current partner jokes with me like this but the other 99.9% of the time he tells, shows me and demonstrates that he loves and values me.

My ex would make these jokes but there was no expression of love. Everything he did was about getting one over on me. The smirk was infuriating. I couldn't move for put downs.

ReneBumsWombats · 19/06/2022 20:24

Tootsey11 · 19/06/2022 20:20

They seem to come out of the blue, a random insult when least expected.

Like, 'If I looked like you, I wouldn't go out the door'. Another of his 'jokes'.

The Americans call it game. He has none.

Lofari · 19/06/2022 20:25

Next time.....yeah fair point I must be thick, I saddled myself with you.......

Wrongkindofovercoat · 19/06/2022 20:27

Only reply should have been 'but not like your penis', wink, wave little finger, tinkly laugh because its 'just' a little joke.

UWhatNow · 19/06/2022 20:32

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watcherintherye · 19/06/2022 20:33

Thicc?!! Thicc?!!
Sometimes I feel like Rip Van Winkle. When I went to sleep there was NO SUCH WORD.
sighs

Rosscameasdoody · 19/06/2022 20:33

See if he still finds it funny when he’s cooking his own dinner, dealing with his own laundry and going without sex for a while. He doesn’t respect you if he says these things knowing you don’t like it, so time to get the message through.