Is your spouse your best friend?

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Just interested in how people view their partner. I see a quite a split in posts on this.
for example I see posts like; “my husband and I get along well, but we don’t have much in common and don’t really do anything together. However, he has a stable enough income and is a decent father so I married him.”

and on the opposite I see things like: “we do everything together, have the same sense of humour, laugh until we puke, he’s my best friend.”

Was just interested to see which was more common.

yanbu- he’s my best friend
yabu- he’s not my best friend

(Invisibly change pronouns if you’re in same sex relationship, are a man etc)

He’s my favourite person in the world. We do everything together and yes he’s my best friend.

But we both also have our own friends, hobbies and I do solo trips away a few times a year. He loves hiking, I hate it so he goes with a hiking group. I love swimming, he doesn’t so I go swimming alone.

Best of both worlds I think.

My husband is my best friend. I have other friends and we have things we do separately with other people but every thing is more fun with him. Nobody makes me laugh as much and nobody can console me like he does.

Yes. He’s lovely

Yes he is. 100%

Absolutely my best friend. Doesn't mean we don't have petty arguments occasionally and boring conversations, but I couldn't live without him.

Yes he is. We do bicker now and then but who doesn't?

Yes. He's the only person I can truly be myself with.

Yes he is. There's no one I'd rather spend time with. We often says things at the same time, it's weird. But we just get each other.

Yes, absolutely.

Yes, most definitely. We do things separately with our own friends some of the time but he's still my favourite person. Been together for nearly 40 years, married for most of those.

Yes he’s my best friend BUT he’s a man, for girl stuff I have a few best friends that are women.

I wouldn’t describe him as my best friend (we both have friends we’d apply that term to) but we get along really well and have a laugh. If you asked me to list my friends, it wouldn’t occur to me to mention DH as the relationship is different. Don’t mean I don’t like him - I really do!

Somewhere in between. Going through a difficult meno and prefer to talk about that with other women in the same position.. We do a lot together but also apart.

I think it is dangerous to put all your eggs in the spouse basket and not have any other friends.

Yes.

Probably because we have lived and worked overseas without our usual circle of friends and family around us. We only had each other.

I’m not sure that would have been the case for us if we hadn’t been in some quite isolated places.

Yes, he’s my best friend. We were friends for a few years before getting together too.

He’s one of them - I mean he’s my closest friend because he’s my life partner.

But if I was taking about my closest friends, I’d be talking about my other close friends. My partner is obvs on another level.

No, he’s not my best friend. We have a lot in common and spend a lot of time together, we both have the same warped sense of humour but we were only ever interested in each other romantically. I have no intention of staying friends with him if we split up, we will try to have a friendly relationship because we have DC but we won’t be friends.

I dated my best friend before my husband. We were best friends before we got together, then we’re awful together as a couple. Throughout our entire horrible relationship we knew that we would attempt to stay friends if we split up, which we tried for a while until it was clear it wasn’t working.

Mine was my best friend, the only person I trusted explicitly & could completely be myself with. . . . Until he recently walked out, has since treated be appaulingly and been a completely useless (nearly non existent) father to our DC.

Sounds dramatic but it’s made me lose faith in humanity and I’ll never be able to trust again.

We love each other and have a good marriage but no, DH is not my best friend. I don't think we'd ever work as friends, we're too different in likes, personality etc.

I don’t think ‘best friend’ is a fitting equivalent for a life partner — he’s my life partner of 30 years , I love him, we’ve been a couple since we were teenagers, we’ve lived and worked in lots of countries, I’m who I am in part because of him and vice versa, we have a child together — it’s a different kind of relationship to a friendship, however close.

Dh is my best friend and all time favourite person.
My next favourite person is my son - but then they are so much alike anyway.

This!

I think my husband is brilliant and lovely but my best friends are those women I've know since before I met him.

He'd probably say I'm his but he's fairly antisocial. 😄

Yes, he is my best friend.

This has happened over the years we have been together.
I would not have described him as my best friend when we first got together but really can't remember when I did realise that he was!!!!!

No.

he's my biggest supporter because it saves him taking the lead.

If he learned to listen without me repeating myself or getting it wrong because he wasn't listening properly he'd probably be my bestie.

He has many good points too, when I like him.

You do everything together … then go on to talk about solo trips. Ok…