Is your spouse your best friend?

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Just interested in how people view their partner. I see a quite a split in posts on this.
for example I see posts like; “my husband and I get along well, but we don’t have much in common and don’t really do anything together. However, he has a stable enough income and is a decent father so I married him.”

and on the opposite I see things like: “we do everything together, have the same sense of humour, laugh until we puke, he’s my best friend.”

Was just interested to see which was more common.

yanbu- he’s my best friend
yabu- he’s not my best friend

(Invisibly change pronouns if you’re in same sex relationship, are a man etc)

Mine is not my best friend. He’s not even my friend. There’s no support or care. So we are getting divorced.

I think the friendship aspects of marriage are really crucial. Without that, it’s not going to be great.

He’s my best friend and the best man I know. I’d rather spend time with him than anyone else.

He’s definitely my best friend and he’d say the same. There is no one in the world that I can trust or rely on as much as him. And we laugh all the time. We like some of the same things but a lot different. We’re actually quite different in lots of ways but share the same morals. He’s just a very decent, honest, supportive person. I had a really shit father and I’m really thankful that my own children have the absolute best.

Yes he was and I am slowly learning to live without him. Him being my best friend didn't mean I cut my other friends out of my life, he and I did lots together but I also did stuff with other friends.

Yes. He’s not the same as me, we are different but he’s the person I talk to the most. Converse with the most, trust the most. Always there. I go out, do different things and have my own life- but it’s wonderful to have him to always return to. I can’t imagine living with another adults and I actively enjoy family time at home.
We don’t socialise much together at all, but I actually like that in a long term relationship- having space to be me.

She is my best friend - the good and bad that comes along with that!
I also have a few friends who I do stuff with that isn't involving her and that's also okay. She is an absolute legend!

Yes my DH is definitely my best friend. I realised early in our relationship that we were very much on each other’s level when we spent hours digging out vintage glass bottles from the stream next to his DM’s house after major flooding. We have a shared love of anything historical.
We are both very comfortable with our own company so understand each other’s need for time out.
We argue like cat and dog but enjoy the making up even after 30 yrs.
I nearly lost him recently but the miracle of modern medicine brought him back.
He is my biggest cheer leader and my harshest critic. The glass half empty to my glass half full.
We’ve had a good life together and hopefully have a few more years to go.

Yes. It’s great.

Yes and was for nearly 15 years before we were a couple, so it isn't that over time my partner has become my best friend. He's been my best friend since we were eleven. We don't have identical interests/hobbies but I'm not sure most best friends do!

Yes. Oh he definitely my best friend and probably my favourite person in the world

He's my favourite and my best! He's the only person I feel I can be truly myself with, and he's just the best person I know. I feel very lucky to be married to him.

I often think that my best friend "gets me" better than my husband, and that we generally have more in common, and agree on more things.

But I know that I couldn't live with my best friend! We would fall out big time if we lived together for more than about a month I'd say. But I live fairly happily with my husband (for the most part!).

So it's not really fair to compare friends and spouses/live-in partners really.

Yes, my wife is my best friend. I'd rather spend time with her than anyone else. We are each other's biggest support. I do occasionally spend separate time with friends, which I enjoy too. We have joint friends also.

No. He is my husband of 30+ years, but it is a completely different relationship to the one I have with my best friend. I also think it's odd when people refer to their mother as their best friend - after all, it's totally reasonable to have more than one important person in your life.

Absolutely 100% I’d be lost without him in all honesty

He has become my best friend over 20 years (18 married) together. He wasn't at the beginning of our marriage. I had other "best friends"

Now I have groups of really great friends and my DH has become my best friend.

I love spending time with him and we have lots in common.

We support each other, cheer each other on and encourage each other to do things that matter, have hobbies or interests and other friends.

Yes he is. We don't do everything together and I have other friends but out of all the people in the world to spend time with he's my favourite. Even when he's irritating me 😅

We do lots together, and share some hobbies, but have our own lives too. But apart from my old school friends that I see once every five years or so, he's the person I laugh until I cry with.

No. My best friend and I are so alike and can go a year without meeting and go straight back to where we left off.

Dh is the person I hate being separated from and miss more than my adult dc if we’re apart. We bicker a bit but laugh a lot. We often know what the other is about to say.
Just looking at him can make my stomach flip. I trust him implicitly. He will always protect me.

I don't really think of my husband as a friend as he is so much more than that.

I have friends that I am incredibly close to. Nothing trumps the relationship between a husband and wife - the term 'friendship' seems to diminish it.

No. We love each other and get on great (most of the time!) I would never refer to him as my best friend. I have lots of friends as does he.

Hubby is my best friend. Makes me laugh, comforts me when im down/due on/upset, gives great advice, is so loving & knows me to a T! We are still so in love after 18 years & we love eachothers company. We have different hobbies & likes and wouldnt be withoit eachother! I feel very lucky!

Yes, he’s my best friend and my confidant. He looks after me, supports me and he’s my cheerleader, even when I’m doing things he wouldn’t be interested in if someone else was doing them.

Just wondering what people would consider as someone showing they love you without actually saying it! Basically I’ve been dating a lovely guy for a while but he’s never said the L word to me yet it’s been almost a year he is very reserved with feelings

No, my husband is not my best friend. I love him and we have a great relationship, we share our family and we enjoy holidays and outings together and we share the most important values and beliefs in our lives.

BUT - he is my second husband and I would never want to put all my eggs in a husband basket again! My best friends were there for me when I was going through the hell of divorce and trying to rebuild my life. When I met my 2nd husband I made it clear to him that my friends were important. I don't rely on my husband for emotional support - I have a best friend who is much better at it and who I know will always be there for me