AIBU to consider the wife?

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I know a married man through dog-walking, and I am attracted to him. I also suspect he is not in a sexual relationship with his wife. I would never make a move on him. If he were to make a move on me, I would tell him that I am interested in him, but that he would have to be single for me to take it any further. AIBU?

@EmeraldShamrock1 you have no idea of the intention as you were not there, don't know the persons sense of humour or anything at all

Sorry but if your husbands/other halves are making 'jokes' about your sex life to acquaintances you are with an absolute creep

This man is not very nice. I would be very upset if my husband had made that comment about me to a random dog walker.

OP, any man who mentions his sex life (or lack thereof) to another woman that isn't his longest life long pal in the history of ever that he confides in (and preceeds the wife) is doing so to indicate he fancies you. His comment about his lack of sex is solely for the purpose of you thinking he is in an unhappy marriage without him having to actually say it at this point. This is so when he makes his move he will already have laid the foundation with you that his mariage is essentially over and you are going to save him from a lonely depressing future with his horrible wife (as at this point he will have moved on to explain all the horrible things she does that make him so very unhappy).

Once hes hooked you, he'll future fake the hell out of things. He'll be leaving her (but never will). You'll be his soul mate, hes never met anyone like you.
But then the excuses as to why he can't leave - usually feathered with words about her mental health, or the children won't cope and things like that. Things that if you forced him would make YOU look unreasonable and uncaring. So the poor love is just stuck.

So, in a nutshell. Steer clear. He is likely in a perfectly fine marriage and probably even had sex that morning. (Men tend to lie when they are married and want to get another woman interested in them). And even if he wasn't in a perfectly fine marriage, a decent man would leave before even thinking of starting something with anyone else. And trust me, you don't want one of those.

It wasn’t a joke about his sex life. The dog licked his face, not his cock.

😂😂 Oh god, imagine the thread if the dog had licked the guy's cock!!

Sorry, I'm with PPs who think it's just one of those things you say. Same as, I don't know, if you're at a friend's house and the dog shoved his head in your crotch "that's the most action I've had in a while" type response. It's not really funny, but it's that British embarrassed trying to diffuse an odd situation type comment IMO. I'd never consider it an actual fact about someone's sex life cause that's just weird to seriously link a dog lick to fucking your partner.

Oh dear, ours obviously never even began! 😂

When the dog licked his face he jokingly said 'that's more than I get at home'.

Eww this man was testing the waters to see your reaction. He's a creep and probably an arsehole and you're reprehensible for thinking about an affair with him. His sex life is non of your business or an excuse to supply what he claims he's not getting at home. If his marriage is unsatisfying for him then he can decide to divorce and free himself to pursue other relationships but again that is non of your business. If he's trying to make it your business then take it as a heads up you'd be starting a relationship with a cheat.

@theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity sorry people like you need to not read so much into things and lighten up a little
Some people find different things funny - shock horror and we aren't all looking to be offended or find something offensive with every little comment

@Bookworm20 he made no comment about his lack if sexlife at all , he made a very common passing joke that i have heard men and women say
He wasn't giving OP a run down on his sex life at any point
Some of you on here really need to lighten up a little and not read so much into every little comment

@Catherine57 really the OP doesn't even know if he has a wife really he could have a husband , it wasn't directed directly at his wife , just a comment as I am assuming the OP dog licked him, he then made the comment, maybe as just one of them things and he didn't even like the dog licking him,
People need to lighten up a little , maybe his wife would laugh or not be offended as I don't know anyone in real life who would be offended by this or anyone who would think its a chat up line either for that matter

@Athenajm80 I know I think some on here are just on another planet or just looking to find offence in everything

Pretty up yourself aren't you? He is married so leave well alone. He made a funny flippant comment. How desperate are you?

If you're in a relationship then you need to break up with them if you're already lining up the next

Ohhhh. Are school holidays here already?

This is what I was thinking too, he doesn't treally sound like a catch 😂

This.

The guy is not into you, he was getting out of an embarrassing situation. Stop it right now.

To be fair, I'm pretty sure I've made that joke before and I'm female.

I've also been with OH for 10 years and am still madly in love with him, and no intention of giving anyone else a second look. Thankfully he feels the same and we are secure enough to joke about. I generally tell him I'm inviting the milk man round when he's going on a night out. I've no intention of doing and we don't even have one.

It's a joke

@baileys6904 yes many on here lack humour , just looking for any reason to have a dig

See I don't think the comment is an off the cuff random joke. It sounds like the kind of comment that can be disguised as just a joke but used to test the waters and possibly open a dialogue

@theyhavenothingbuttheaudacity I agree actually.

Same as, I don't know, if you're at a friend's house and the dog shoved his head in your crotch "that's the most action I've had in a while" type response

@Athenajm80 Maybe to some longstanding friend, especially of the same sex. But not to a random person of the opposite sex.

he made no comment about his lack if sexlife at all

@worriedatthistime Yes, he did. He claimed he wasn't getting it at home, i.e. is virtually in a 'sexless marriage,' which is what they all say.

@me4real really he never memtioned his sex life thats you all jumping to
Conclusions , he may of meant welcome greeting from
The dog as in dog was pleased to See him and may of been embarrassed even, no people like you always see it your way and look to be offended

He didn’t. He implied he didn’t get his face licked at home.