AIBU to consider the wife?

[straightoutofa]

I know a married man through dog-walking, and I am attracted to him. I also suspect he is not in a sexual relationship with his wife. I would never make a move on him. If he were to make a move on me, I would tell him that I am interested in him, but that he would have to be single for me to take it any further. AIBU?

How about considering your own partner?

This was worth it for the Dogbert strip

OP consider the wife; your partner; yourself ... and even your dog because when your affair goes horribly wrong, you won't be able to walk your dog there ever again.

<wails> will no-one think of the dogs?

Leave him alone, he is married.

Don't autistic people like to Follow The Rules? (it's what people on here keep saying about their kids anyway - and it's just as much sense as Not Getting Jokes)

The Rule is: when you get married, you're together. Everybody else should keep out.

Follow that rule.

I know someone who had an affair with a married man . Swore they never had sex separate beds etc. lo and behold the wife was pregnant. His excuse ? She came on to me after too many drinks got into my bed and got on top of me when I was asleep. Yeah right . He was dumped .

Wow - how trashy. Leave him alone and focus on your partner.

THE wife? Is she an object?

You're joking, right?
He must be the only man to ever make a crap joke whilst out walking his dog 😂

To be fair your DH should be old enough to walk himself.

Also a lot of women who have been dumped have told me they were having sex right up to when he dropped the bombshell he had someone else . In a lot of cases they also went back for sex with the ex behind the new woman's back

You’re planning what to do if A married man that doesn’t flirt with you, tries to have sex with you?

are you ok?

I was on the other thread and argued that the OW doesn't owe the wife anything and that you need to focus on your cheating spouse. I still think that.

But that's one, small aspect of motivation. Do I think it's a good idea to shag an unfunny, disloyal, inappropriate cheater? No. Loyalty to his wife isn't the reason. Loyalty to yourself is.

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Haven’t you got any self respect? Sheesh.

If you aren’t happy in your current relationship, end it. But don’t try cop off with someone married.

What could happen?
a) he rejects you and you feel crap
or
b) he sleeps with you. Congratulations, you’re shagging the kind of sleazeball who would betray his wife for a shag. What a prize. Not to mention STD risk.

This made me genuinely lol.

Really? I mean, really? "Man walking dog makes sleazy joke" sounds sooooo familiar that you think you know who he is! No, you don't. 😂

This. Absolutely this

It’s a joke.

Note to self - remind husband not to make jokes to strange women when dog walking.

If it’s just sex you/he are after & nobody needs to know then say something and see if he’s on same page but if you want a relationship with him but expect him to leave his wife on the basis that you’re attracted then I wouldn’t bother as it will end up messy & too much of a drama/headache

Seriously??

See I don't think the comment is an off the cuff random joke.
It sounds like the kind of comment that can be disguised as just a joke but used to test the waters and possibly open a dialogue
Either way you would be a cheap shag on the side nothing more nothing less

See I don't think the comment is an off the cuff random joke.

Of course it is.

Thats the sort of stupid joke my dh would say and laugh at
Because he has a crap sense of humour , it doesn't mean much
Although my dh does walk our dog , maybe I should be worried

@EmeraldShamrock1 or it was just a jokey comment and people need to maybe be a little less offended