To veto DD's choice of decor

[ChewChewsBiscuitTin]

DD is 4 and we're currently decorating her bedroom. She helped chose the colour and the wallpaper and is pretty on board and excited about it being done.

I had the bright idea that she could chose a couple of pictures to go in the wall so she had something that was entirely her choice. Anyway, the ones she has chosen are (in my opinion) awful, they also (objectively) don't go with anything else in the room.

Do I override her choice in the interests of taste or do I get over myself and let a 4 year old have what she wants in her own bedroom as nobody is going to see it anyway ?

Obviously I have attached pictures so you can make a reasoned assessment.

YABU - it's her room, stop being a bell end and let her have them

YANBU - they are awful, intervention is required

(This thread is intended as a little light humour, I will probably get the posters despite my better judgement)

If you give a choice you should stick with it. As others say if you really hate them use frames. The crown is a surprising choice for a 4 Yr old..... subliminal messaging getting through.

At least Framed you can swap when it suits her....
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They are so tame compared to what I thought they might be. Yes let her go for it but be prepared for what comes when you encourage free will 😂

I think they're both great!

This is the sort of thing I'd have done as a teen

Luckily I made do with black skirting and black fitted wardrobe doors when I was told no to black walls

A valuable lesson learned. Next time: offer her a curated choice of, say, 5 pictures, and let her pick 2?

I like them!

And those pictures wouldn't bother me but for the last 3 years , so from when they were 6 &8 mine have had one wall that we painted Minecraft on and another with gravity falls characters

And the eldest who is now 11 has taken over my under the stairs cupboard that he's decorated with stranger things and beware zombie signs, it's where his desk and computer now live

I don’t see anything wrong with the pictures but you don’t mention the decor colour for me to judge if they go or not.
At the end of the day they are pictures & they can be easily changed so I’d let her have the pictures 👌😍

We moved to the Middle East when DD was only 3 - nearly 4. We discussed her new room with her and asked her what she wanted in there. DH was moving 3 months before us and did a cracking job setting up her room and taking some of her toys ready for her.
She said she wanted her room pink, white and purple and a horse called Feet. Erm… ok then! Her room was very pink and white and there was a cuddly horse called “Feet” waiting to greet her. She looked round her room and noticed there wasn’t any purple! We went shopping in the mall and sat her in a trolley. She spotted a purple hello kitty cushion on the way round and grabbed it, put it in the trolley and laid face down on it! She was asleep in seconds… it became her purple and she never mentioned the colour scheme or horse again… she’s now 12… kids know what they like even when it isn’t rational.

oh and we have moved house since and she no longer has quite so much pink… and I don’t know what happened to Feet 😮

OMG where are the pictures from& I need them all for presents 😂😍
I may even get a second of the crown one as I like the message on it 😍

Pretty inoffensive imo, I actually quite impressed with the choice from a four year old.
Yep would definitely let her have them

If you've told her she can choose, then I think you need to bite your tongue and let her have what she wants in her room. The pictures aren't offensive, they're just not to your taste (or mine!) but you must have known that was a risk when you agreed to let a 4yo decorate! I think choosing your own surroundings is such a positive and empowering experience for a child, it would have to be very unsuitable indeed for me to veto it. One of my teenagers chose an eye-watering lime green carpet, smoked glass coffee table and grey and navy blue walls. Looks bloody dreadful. He LOVES it - and it's his room.

Absolutely out of order to give her the responsibility of choice and then take it away from her. Why does it matter whether you like it or not?

They are wonderous, of course she should have them. What a girl..

i painted my walls black when I was 13. I was only allowed 2 of the 4 black mind you, so the light could ‘bounce’.

The second picture is a very odd choice for a 4 year old. Can she read and understand the quote or just liked the crown? I would follow her theme but say those specific photos were out of stock Lol but im probably mean @ChewChewsBiscuitTin 😏

The order went in this morning for...

Two pictures of pink ice creams
A photo of the earth from space
A rocket being launched
A crown in rainbow colours from a different website (that she preferred to the crown pic in the op when put side by side phew)
And... the weird horse unicorn 🦄!

All were her free choice in no way dictated by me. They are random but a good representation of the things she likes.

I shall treasure the weird horse unicorn to my dying day

All from Desenio

Unless they are ££££ give her the pictures. They aren’t your taste, but they are fine. You can always give her new pictures in a year or two if you really want.

In general, with children, I would always let them choose from a limited number of options that I knew I would be okay with, rather than a totally free choice.

Bloody hell I love them! 🤣she is 4 it’s all about unicorns and princesses that’s her little choice bless her soul, let her have them they won’t be there forever and her input is important - may knock her confidence if you say no! Embrace! 😉

Roll with it. She's 4, and this is her first adventure in decorating. Not the time to tell her that you don't like her choices.

That poor horse with a cone on its head trying to be a unicorn looks as comfortable as Rod Stewart did singing at the queens jubilee

Awkward and in need of gas and air!!

Agree on all counts 😊

Did u really think a 4 yr old would share your taste?
Put up with it. Eventually she will want something else, probably even less to your approval !

YABVU. Pics stay, you need to get different wallpaper that matches 😂

Just let her choose. It's her space to relax/play. My kids have their rooms how they want, as long as they are cleaned and tidied once a week so they don't become too much of a jungle 😂 I don't tend to enter between those times. They are 7 and 9.