To veto DD's choice of decor

[ChewChewsBiscuitTin]

DD is 4 and we're currently decorating her bedroom. She helped chose the colour and the wallpaper and is pretty on board and excited about it being done.

I had the bright idea that she could chose a couple of pictures to go in the wall so she had something that was entirely her choice. Anyway, the ones she has chosen are (in my opinion) awful, they also (objectively) don't go with anything else in the room.

Do I override her choice in the interests of taste or do I get over myself and let a 4 year old have what she wants in her own bedroom as nobody is going to see it anyway ?

Obviously I have attached pictures so you can make a reasoned assessment.

YABU - it's her room, stop being a bell end and let her have them

YANBU - they are awful, intervention is required

(This thread is intended as a little light humour, I will probably get the posters despite my better judgement)

I’d say let her have her choice. Yes its tacky and may well look crap, to adult eyes, but does it matter.

We let our, now adult children, choose - some nice ideas, some mad and one impossible.*

At 12 ish child no.1 decorated her own room. Her ideas, her choice. We just bought the paint. She did a good job of it. Decorating to her is now second nature. The other 2 followed suit and similarly decorate their own houses.

The impossible one…… not quite decorating but…… child no.3 wanted a bed build in a life sized boat suspended from the ceiling. Nice idea but a major structural job.

PS I love the giraffe riding a shark…

Go with the flow, let her enjoy her room.

She's the Queen. She's got this handled so leave her be

They're only pictures, OP.

Just let her have them, and replace them with something else when her tastes change.

^ True. She doesn't need saving.

Let her have ownership over her space. You can always keep the door closed.

Isn't it!!

What's her room decor that a white unicorn and a crown so terribly out of sync. Is it because they're girly? Glad you're getting them. The crown one isn't the worst message she could grow up with.

I don't think you should have told her she could choose if you weren't going to go along with what she picked.

Allow it! The people seeing her room are presumably other 4 year olds, not Kelly Hoppen.

This! She sounds a character. Your kid is 4. Now is the time to have whatever pictured she wants up before society or mumsnet tell her she can't have them because they don't fit an aesthetic.

Also I'd be fuming if my mum told me I could choose how to decorate and then took it back. I'd think I couldn't trust her and what she wanted mattered more.

Every single 4 year old girl likes pink? Really???

Let her have them, and make a note in a year or two to offer to buy new pictures.

I think I would look for a different crown one for the second one, on the basis I don't like the messaging, but maybe that's just me.

You've got no choice now OP. You can't say she can choose and then renege. Let this be a lesson to you. In future, 'DD do you want this picture or that' from two approved choices.
Ps, I like the unicorn.😊

You’ve got off lightly.

My dd specialised in clashing combinations in both her room decor and clothing choices.

I wasn’t allowed have an opinion, never mind a choice, as a child.

They, presumably MiniChew. Not every female four year old in existence.

My compromise on that one is NOT the ceiling or woodwork (will tint the white paint grey) then paper the walls & paint the paper black,

I think they are great and I like the message in the Queen one.

You shoud see some of the shockers my Dcs came up with. I recall thinking to myself; 'Now I know who it is who buys all that sort of crap that I cannot believe gets sold. My children!'

The pictures are really cute!

Hang them up but intersperse with your own decor choices.

If you have funds/room, get her to chose the remainder of her decor with you - cushions etc.

@ChewChewsBiscuitTin

why don't you look for others, there are nicer crowns & unicorns out there, then let her choose, if she chooses these fine, but I bet she'd choose nicer ones given better options.

Odd choice for a 4 year old. Can she read?

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It could be worse, my mum and dad let my sister decorate her own (tiny) bedroom and ended up with this Rainbow Brite wallpaper on all four walls. Sister loved it though.

That sounds brilliant! I would have loved that as a child googles to see if you can still buy it

OP at least pictures are easy to swap when she wants to. Who cares about the aesthetics of a 4 year old’s room, as long as she’s happy. Glad to hear she’s getting them, love the giraffe and shark print too 😁

When I was 7/8, there was/still is a nice decorating shop called Pickwick Papers in Greenwich.

There was some fairy/elf/pixie type wallpaper, but in greys/mauves/pinks - quite cute and quite stylish (Victorian/Edwardian style?) and I liked it - but I'm sure it was more my DM's choice, I had the wallpaper, matching curtains and even a cushion cover!

Christ alive, I was referring to the child WHO HAS ACTUALLY CHOSEN THE PICTURES.
Sorry if it wasn't clear enough for you @MagpiePi
Maybe I should have used shorter words. But then, everybody else grasped it perfectly well, so 🤷🏻‍♀️