To veto DD's choice of decor

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DD is 4 and we're currently decorating her bedroom. She helped chose the colour and the wallpaper and is pretty on board and excited about it being done.

I had the bright idea that she could chose a couple of pictures to go in the wall so she had something that was entirely her choice. Anyway, the ones she has chosen are (in my opinion) awful, they also (objectively) don't go with anything else in the room.

Do I override her choice in the interests of taste or do I get over myself and let a 4 year old have what she wants in her own bedroom as nobody is going to see it anyway ?

Obviously I have attached pictures so you can make a reasoned assessment.

YABU - it's her room, stop being a bell end and let her have them

YANBU - they are awful, intervention is required

(This thread is intended as a little light humour, I will probably get the posters despite my better judgement)

This thread was my last ditch attempt to override in my heart what I already knew -

I will just double check with her before I order them though
and show her the giraffe riding a shark picture again to make really sure she doesn't prefer that one

(name change fail in the post above that says the same thing)

The unicorn is par for the course for that age, I'd have thought?

i let my DD (5) ‘choose’ things but if they’re really bad I say ‘“oh no, that (garish, hideous🤣) one is out of stock” until eventually she chooses one that’s not too bad!

the giraffe riding a shark picture
Ah, now that I could get on board with...

The unicorn is fine but the grammar in the other one is painful!

@womaninatightspot Good idea thanks, that might be the way to go.

From the kids section of a website that sells prints and posters. I flicked through them all with her and they were the ones she liked, she likes crowns because of making them at nursery for the jubilee, I read the words to her but they don't have any meaning for her she just likes the crown.

DS chose dark purple for one wall and glittery grey for the other 3. It is his room and can easily be changed in the future. Pictures are even easier to change if she changes her mind in the future.

They’re tacky as hell and make me think of pouting Insta pics and inspirational memes - but you’re stuck with them, I’m afraid! They’re not as hideous as they could be, and who else will see them but you and your daughter (who loves them)?

Seems like you're stuck with this one. Next time, get on Etsy, save some acceptable ones in a list and then let her choose a couple. She won't know there are thousands of others elsewhere on the site if you just show the wish list.

They have to learn to be themselves, and you have to let them!

I think we're going to get it anyway abd put it in the spare room

It could have been so much worse haha. Two pics that make her happy, no big deal.

This did make me laugh; when I was getting my 4 year old to choose pictures for her bedroom I have to admit I showed her ones that I liked although on a daily basis I do accept her interesting clothing combinations

Like a pp has said,wait til their older and you have tobe seen with them in the atrocious clothes choices and hairstyles 😂

Love it 😂

Aww bless her! Yes let her have them. I like the second one - it's empowering

We have had all sorts of shite over the years. It's about developing your own personal taste.

Aw, I'd let her have them, she'll be very happy with them.

I've always let my kids choose their room decorations, it's their room after all.

When my DS was 8, he chose such a luminous shade of lime green for this walls that the queue of customers behind me in Homebase audibly gasped when the shop assistant took the lid off the tin to check the paint had mixed correctly. But my DS loved it, so we had it.

Short list, this is why you short list You have tabs open or a pinterest page with everything you like yourself and then show her those. Rookie mistake.

I have painted my child's bedroom acid green though as I short listed duvet covers for them to choose from and then I will pick a paint colour from that. It isn't like I restricted their choice horrendously, just what I could live with for the next few years.

So yes, you let her choose and how she gets the choices she made.

Rock on, your queenly unicorn-riding DD! Bad taste is an important part of being 4.

You should have asked her to choose from some acceptable choices.

Her taste is fine imo and I think that you should go along with what she's picked.

Haha, they’re terrible, yes, but it could have been much worse and you can easily swap them for something new when she grows out of them. They’re not permanent and she loves them so no big deal really.

When I was about that age I remember my grandad telling me I could choose any book as a present from a gift shop at a museum we’d been to and I ignored the children’s books and chose a field guide to fungi. I loved it. My grandad never forgot it!

Friends of ours once came home to discover that their teenage daughter had painted all the walls in her room with black gloss paint and was just getting started on the ceiling 😱😂 She admitted after about three days that she hated it and it took them about ninety coats to cover it.

Oh god let her choose. Things like that are core memories for kids. She will love you for it.