To veto DD's choice of decor

[ChewChewsBiscuitTin]

DD is 4 and we're currently decorating her bedroom. She helped chose the colour and the wallpaper and is pretty on board and excited about it being done.

I had the bright idea that she could chose a couple of pictures to go in the wall so she had something that was entirely her choice. Anyway, the ones she has chosen are (in my opinion) awful, they also (objectively) don't go with anything else in the room.

Do I override her choice in the interests of taste or do I get over myself and let a 4 year old have what she wants in her own bedroom as nobody is going to see it anyway ?

Obviously I have attached pictures so you can make a reasoned assessment.

YABU - it's her room, stop being a bell end and let her have them

YANBU - they are awful, intervention is required

(This thread is intended as a little light humour, I will probably get the posters despite my better judgement)

What is wrong with pink? It’s just a colour.
For a black room I suggest Lick Black 02. Or Farrow and Ball Railings .

Given the number of very dark grey walls in houses across the land, I don’t think black is as out there decoratively as it used to be.

Im going to decorate my toddler’s room. I suspect his decorative choices will all be car based. Tasteful and toddler don’t really need to go together.

They're brilliantly hideous.

But seriously a couple of (I'm presuming) cheap pictures is no problem at all. Easily changed in the future.

I think the problem with black is not about whether or not it looks good, but that it is big commitment for a child’s room given they change their tastes quickly. Black is hard to paint over without several coats of primer and emulsion. Just inevitably harder work a couple years down the line.

If I liked black myself I wouldn’t hesitate to paint the room that colour since my tastes stay the same for years- but I wouldn’t want to commit to it on the whim of my child.

This is more important than you think.
You asked her for her input. Now you are thinking to tell her it's not good enough the pics she likes. Who cares about the pics.
If you want to bring up a confident child, be tolerant with awful pics and clothes combinations. From someone who grew up with a mother always correcting, always knowing what good taste was.
It's soul destroying.

I let my 3yo daughter choose her outfits because she had decided views. I used to want a badge for her saying "I dressed myself" to absolve me of the unusual outfits she concocted.

Now I look back and love thdem - so much personality in one tiny person.

"Unusual" was doing a lot of heavy lifting in that sentence, btw

I wouldn't call you a bell end. That's just impolite.
But YABVVVVU... she has exceptional taste and you're only 4 and tacky once in a lifetime!

Nothing at all, there is a third print she has chosen that is also the same pink which is not in dispute (despite also not going with the decor). It's not the pink that makes my cry a little inside.

<fast forward 14 years and ChewChewsBiscuitTin is seen crying in corner hugging an awful horse / unicorn picture rejected by little ChewChew as she heads off for uni, "remember my darling, you are a queen, you got this handled" 😭>

But think of the family mythology to be build around how she’s ‘got this handled’ because she’s a queen.

This made me chuckle. My 4 year old would choose the horse picture.

Awww I think they're sweet! Let her have them. She'll probably be bored of them in a few years anyway!

Of course yabu!

Can she read what it says? If not then I'd encourage her to choose something different.

You shouldn't have asked the question really!

Mmm, that is not as bad as my seven-year-old dgd. We had to decorate her room and I had the bright idea of letting her choose the colour scheme. She wanted the walls painted black! Needless to say my dd had to do some thinking on her feet to get out of that one.

Her room. You gave her choice. You have to honour it. . Could be worse. Imagine if yould let her decorate your room.

I think it’s an awful message to send to your child. You’re basically saying their taste isn’t an acceptable one.

I'd be more surprised if you liked her choices at 4 years old, what did you think was going to happen! 😂 Anyway, they're just pictures and you told her she could pick them so leave her to it

I let my (then) 8 yr old DS choose his colour scheme… it was an eye-watering lime green and navy 😱 To be honest, I got used to it after a while, and he was so chuffed that he got his choice, that he was quite keen to keep the room nice and tidy!😁

I don’t feel able to comment as I have just returned home from B&Q with purple rainbow Unicorn wallpaper for my 4 year olds bedroom chosen by her. The mum in my is happy that she so clearly loves it, while I cannot believe I am having flipping unicorn wallpaper in my house. I have tried to raise her to be a kick ass girls can do be anything they want child and she has wholeheartedly embraced pink, purple and sparkles. Roll on the goth years!

I think it would be awful if you challenged her choice of pics after saying she could choose. I'd have to put a full stop after 'saving' though.
(Yes, I'm pedantic. It's my job and it's how I've been trained. I'm not telling you to do it, I'm just saying what I'd be very tempted to do.)

My 3 Yr old dd chose this one for her lilac dinosaur themed room, it doesn't go with anything but she loves it so I couldn't care less 😄

She can do anything, including still being a kick ass girl dressed in pink with a sequin unicorn on her top. Liking pink doesn't make her a future failure of a woman.

That's a hell of lot worse than the 4 year old's choices.

That's brilliant, I might just run that one past DD before I hit the order button in case she changes her mind