AIBU to think drinking every day is normal?

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Just that really.

I grew up in a household where both parents drank every night. Always wine with dinner and then sometimes gin or whisky afterwards.

They were never smashed. But they definitely drank every day without fail and often a little wobbly before bed. I didn't think much of it.

Now I always have wine in the evening. Soon as the kids (toddlers) are in bed it's my routine to come down and have a glass of white wine in the quiet at last. And then maybe one more with dinner. And maybe one more after dinner. Small glass. 3 max. I never go out drinking anymore so that's it. I'm never drunk but also would find it hard to not have that glass at the end of the day

Is this normal? My partner says it's definitely not.

If you’d find it hard to go without then sorry but you’ve got a problem

To be fair I would do this- one glass an evening. But I cant iustify those extra calories everyday. Im so weight conscience that I barely drink maybe once every couple
of months.

What do people do if they need to drive dc to a&e in an evening? Reading this all parents would be over the limit. This isn’t my normal.

@VWBZ haha, don’t knock it! Best way to end the week 😂

I love alcohol no question there.
But no it wouldn't occur to me to drink that regularly at home. It's a treat and it's an occasional one. I drink when i go out and very occasionally we will open a bottle of wine at home. I don't have an iron like discipline. I just like alcohol the same way i like other treats. So i like having a milkshake from the local dessert shop but i only have it once a month or something. It's a treat. I like it but i don't think about it all the time or need to stop myself from ordering it.
It definitely would be worth considering how to reduce your consumption by the sounds of things.

That’s what I was thinking Re: emergency

What if there is an emergency and you need to drive? Imagine your toddler needing to go to A and E.

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It was normal for my dad.
We tend not to Mon-thurs, unless something dramatic or shit happens. Sometimes we can cave on a Thursday, especially in the summer.

One or 2 on a Sunday.

I grew up in a house with alcoholics too same as you op.

Get a taxi?

Of course it's not normal. That's way above the recommended number of units.

In answer to your question about those that only drink on special occasions, I hate wine with a passion. I find it absolutely vile. I'm not teetotal but I tend not to drink, even on special occasions. I don't drink at Christmas, on my birthday, and I didn't drink at my wedding. I have no need for it. Occasionally my husband will bring a small bottle of fruity cider home from the supermarket, and we'll share it, but that's the extent of my drinking. I'm almost 40 and have never been drunk. I find in incomprehensible that some people can't live without alcohol.

coffeecups I just find it strange to have a soft drink with a meal - I think it’s the combination of the sweetness with the food, it just doesn’t go! If I’m not having wine with a meal then I would have water. Just personal taste though I guess.

Hands up:

Who's ever had to unexpectedly their kids to a&e in the evening?

Mine tend to do stupid things before tea, so I've always been free to drink in the evenings.

I drink occasionally. I enjoy wine, I enjoy other alcoholic drinks. I also enjoy non-alcoholic drinks.
I've never got into the habit of having a drink while cooking or with everyday dinner. And I didn't grow up in a household that did.
Also, I'm generally doing a hundred other jobs while cooking etc, so haven't got time (or £) to crack open a drink.

We drink 3-4 nights a week and that's too much so yes every night isn't good

Nope. I rarely drink because of the after effects, prefer to not feel shit. Have a glass usually at Christmas, anniversary and birthday. DH left to finish the rest but even he hardly drinks.

Just not worth it with a combination of small DC and early starts IMO.

I just got back from holiday where we really let loose and I drank alcohol every day - not to extremes but probably 2-3 drinks a day - and I can feel a craving for it now.

Before holiday I was drinking 1-3 times a week, 1-3 units a time, so not much. I can (and will) stop and reduce it but it's quite scary how in just 10 days I feel like I've developed a bit of a dependence on it.

Not read the whole thing but this was me! I'm 2.5 years dry now and have my life back.

It's interesting you say you've no energy for a hobby. I bet if you stopped the evening drinking you would! It saps your energy, and stops you sleeping properly.

This always makes me laugh, like anyone who has children has to stay under the limit at all times in case they need A&E. For goodness sake. I won't drink on a Friday/Saturday if one of my Children is ill and once I had to do a mid night run to A&E for croup bit you can't live your whole life on the off chance they may get ill.

It sounds like your parents were alcoholics and that's defined what you think is "normal". It is most definitely NOT normal to be drinking 3 glasses of wine every single day and if you find it hard to go without, then it sounds like you have an alcohol addiction too.

Not always that easy, though. Where I used to live, it would take a taxi at least half an hour to get to me, always supposing the local taxi company had someone available. Having a car and being able to drive it was pretty essential.

That’s very unusual imho

Not all soft drinks are sweet though?

I accept it's all personal taste though - I've never ever liked having wine with food as I personally think it ruins the taste of both 🤣

I'm more interested in enjoying life than having a long life.

I suspect people who say this kind of thing haven't done end of life care for an alcoholic. It's pretty grim watching someone's body slowly deteriorate through the effects of alcohol. Drinking alcohol doesn't mean you're doing to disappear into the sunset at the age of 75 leaving a pretty corpse.

I drink. And I don't mean a glass of sherry at Christmas. Most weekends I'll usually get through a bottle of wine. But I also make sure I have 3 to four days midweek where I just don't drink and my liver gets a break. It doesn't have to be either an enjoyable life or a long life. You can find a balance where you enjoy things, without forcing everyone around you to witness a slow descent into alcoholism and everything that comes with it.