Hate and rage are very strong emotions for this.
I can see frustration in the assumption that mothers will do everything at night, especially when their partners are working, and even more at how little consideration is made for mother's sleep often whether she is a SAHP or not, but hating and raging at women for describing their current situation? That's a bit much and I'm not sure aimed in a way that's going to do much.
My husband did a lot of other types of night care, but I did all night feeds because I breastfed, whether it was when he was the SAHP or when I was at home, we switched a lot during those years. This was all before he was working nights though - that would have made it pretty difficult for him to do night care when he wasn't physically present. Makes him great for night issues when he's home now though.
I’ve also done both and I definitely am able to to do more with my DC as a SAHP.
Probably because you're home educating. I do way more with my home educated 10 year old than I do with my school educated 12 year old, but I'm still equally parenting both. The younger one just has more play time.
Yes of course but it’s easier to know how you’re raising your child and to have influence over their upbringing as a SAHP. I get to know exactly what they’re eating, what media they’re exposed to, what education they receive, just to name a few examples. As a WOHP you have to put your trust in someone else that they’re doing it the way you want them to.
School educating parents are also putting their trust in someone else as are all of us who use external activities or have other adults in our lives who do things with our kids. I trust my lodger to do things the way I went them when I'm not in the room with them. I trust my husband to do the same.
Really, few SAHP I think could or would even want to claim they they know exactly what their kids are eating (even when they've eaten random things off the floor?), all the media my kids are exposed to (at rate my kids read, I'd never keep up with that or they'd be miserable stuck with ones I've read and missing out on a lot), I'm all for my kids learning on their own and we can never control how their learning sticks or their interpretations. I've definitely had a child who took a very different look to something based on my explanation.
I can see the advantages in not having to trust care to someone you don't know before a child can communicate well, that played a role in my home educating for primary, but not in knowing everything and definitely not in assuming my kids are going to turn out well for always having had at least one parent at home. I mean, my siblings and I had a SAHM all our lives when my brother committed a felony at 16. Really, I look at my kids' friends and I can't tell who has an at-home parent and who doesn't.
We all take the advantages of the life choices we make, we can't assume those look like advantages to anyone else, whether it's being an at-home parent or doing all the night feeds. I found breastfeeding at night had a lot of advantages, particularly once we'd learn how to do it while lying down.