To think that children shouldn't be topless at softplay?

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Kid here wearing a pair of shorts. AIBU to think it's just a bit odd?

And if you read your own reply you weren’t talking about why you don’t wear pyjamas out - you were labelling others lazy/unprepared. You just sound snobby and pretty stupid really.

It's not unusual to see grown men walking around shirtless in public when it's hot. So for me a child topless doesn't register as unusual unless it's too cold for that.

Something will have been spilled on the top.

Rally can't see what the issue is

I don’t understand the insinuations in this thread?

Is it wrong/odd because it’s seen as terribly common to have a top off in a public place?

or is it wrong/odd because the child is exposed?

My 3 yo insisted on removing all her clothes to go to the loo, the amount of times she’s just appeared butt naked coming out if the apparatus 🙈 now that’s odd!
A topless kid I’d just assume was hot and needed cooling down though I would probably just get mine to sit for a while and drink a cold drink rather then remove clothing.. if only I had the choice 😩

As you have rather proved.

I am opinionated/judgemental - so is everyone else. Isn't that why you are scouring AIBU forums so that you can cast an opinion/judgement on other people's scenarios? 🤔

The choice to not wear a top isn't the child's, it's the parents and I'm casting my own judgement on the type of parent who would let their child do such a thing. I might have touched a nerve in making such a judgement but I'm not going to apologise for it.

I agree with you OP. Soft play is
not an appropriate time to have no top on. Beaches, gardens, swimming, splash parks etc- absolutely fine- there is nothing wrong with a child’s body. However, soft play is somewhere you wear clothes, just for safety and to avoid burns. Allowing your child to remove clothes that are there to protect their skin is lazy parenting. You wouldn’t allow them to remove a seat belt because it was uncomfortable 🙄.

@SaveMePlease You said people that didn't take spare clothes to soft play for 7 year olds were lazy. I have spare clothes for my baby who shits up his back and spills water all over himself frequently, that makes sense. If we tried for the 7 year old... It would feel like we were patronising her, tbh. Not lazy, just never have had the need to do it. Even if she did have some crazy accident at soft play one day, we still wouldn't take a change for her! We would just ask her to be more careful next time.

Pjamas aren't necessarily always worn to sleep in. I just see them as comfy house clothes, personally. I don't go round sniffing people to check whether they've washed or not, and their clothes actually don't give an indication of that anyway unless they are literally visually filthy. If someone is nipping out for something quickly, and couldn't be arsed squeezing themselves into jeans, a bra and sensible shoes just to go get milk, I can totally see their logic of staying in their pjamas. Or if they're rushed off their feet on the school run and not spending time dragging an outfit on saves them time and stress, I don't think that's lazy at all. I think it's probably part of a whole smorgasbord of sanity saving tactics, and I applaud anyone who doesn't care what strangers at the supermarket thinks of them.

But yes, agree to disagree I guess!

Good god - I only told you why I don't wear pyjamas because you implied that I did so because I care what other people think.

People who wear pyjamas out shopping are lazy and unprepared. If it was socially acceptable behaviour then more people would do it and if it was behaviour to be encouraged then many supermarkets wouldn't have banned it.

I don't consider myself snobby at all (you'll often find me tucked away with a bucket of KFC hot wings), but don't really have an issue with the label as it just implies I have some sort of standard.

What is stupid is people who try to convolute arguments and mix things up or resort to saying things like 'you sound stupid' when they get a tad salty.

Nah still doesn't make a difference. Can't see what the issue is here

I mean, so far, it appears that the only person who was actually looking at this 'topless' child was you, OP, so I wouldn't really worry.

You realise that kids go to water parks, beaches, swimming pools and so on without a top on ALL THE TIME, right? Do you think a paedophile is somehow going to get doubly excited by a topless child because it happens to be at soft play rather than the pool at CentreParcs?

Some weirdos like looking at kids in school uniforms or sports kits. What are you going to do about that? Dress them in sacks, just on the off chance that a passer-by might be distantly aroused? Jeez. Honestly, just mind your own business.

The rules of pretty much every soft play I have ever been to say for kids to wear long sleeved tops on the equipment (not that many do) to minimise the chance of fiction burn on the equipment. I would never let my DC take their tops off in a soft play setting not because naked, but to stop the chance of them getting a friction burn.

Snobby has nothing to do with eating KFC. And to be honest I don’t see why you originally said you don’t care if other people wear pyjamas and were just saying you wouldn’t wear them when you weren’t, you were labelling people as lazy and unprepared. I simply replied saying I personally think it’s much worse to be so invested and judgmental of what other people are wearing. It doesn’t affect you.

But I do stand by saying you sound stupid because you do. Oh I’m not snobby! I eat KFC chicken! Talk about mixing up arguments…

What I find even more weirder is that in the centre of our town is a large fountain and parents let their kids run around in it naked! How weird is that?!! Some of them are up to 5 I’d say.

Complete non issue. Your 'weirdos like to look at kids' argument doesn't stack up here because what is there to look at? A 7 year olds chest isn't the same as a teenagers or an adults. There's nothing to look at. It's the same as a bare arm or leg as far as I'm concerned.

Let kids be kids without sexualising everything. The world is already depressing enough without this sort of grim attitude towards innocent kids.

This thread is clearly not necessary, op.

LOL! Kanaloa, I completely get it. I do sound incredibly conservative but I'm really not. I just think that sleeveless and running around with no shirts is common and a little trashy. Bottom line, I don't like the way it looks. I have very few hard and fast rules but this one seems to be one.

Common and a little trashy? Christ, this site is full of the worst type of snobs.

I honestly can't understand how or why this affects your life in any way, OP. Seems an odd thing to start a thread about given it has zero impact on you and your life.

Why does KFC have nothing to do with being snobby? Because you say so? So if I said I only eat at Michelin starred restaurants that would mean I'm not snobby? Are you so desperate to score points you'll try and take issue with every little thing I say?

I'll throw you bone, why don't you define what you consider to be snobby?

This is what I mean about you trying to convolute arguments. Just because I think people who wear pyjamas are lazy doesn't mean I care about them - it's just an observation/opinion I'm making. I'm not 'invested' in it - it seems like your whole argument is based on this idea that I'm really impacted by the issue when I'm not. If you can't accept that then that's your issue to deal.

Why can’t people eat KFC and be snobby? It’s a bizarre and weird defence - oh I can’t be snobby because I eat KFC!

An in weird post of the day number gazzilionty two…

Why can't I think people who wear pyjamas out shopping are lazy and not be snobby?