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Neighbours from hell.

212 replies

Taurini · 08/06/2022 09:11

Long post sorry.
So I've been living here a few years now.. I chose this property due to health reasons and it being close to my childrens school.
After being here a a while I noticed fag ends all over the front garden and back garden (gate always locked) near our fence in-between mine and my neighbours property, I thought the people who lived here must have smoked so I cleaned them all up.. a month or so later loads more appeared in the same places.. and a dog poo bag right outside my door.. It was full blown lockdown.. we had no visitors since we moved in and none of our household smoke, my partner hates smoking and our kids were still I'm primary school so it wasn't them.
But my neighbours and their kids smoke and have dogs.
I vented to someone on the street about my frustrations like a fool.. and they told my neighbours.. my neighbours came banging on my door telling me they've heard I've been slagging them off and that if I have a problem I should say it to their fcking face.. they ain't fcking tramps and that if I know what is good for me I will shut my f*cking mouth...
They breed dogs and leave weeks worth of poop in their back garden then hose it away.. they don't train them, leave them inside the house whilst they work and just boot them outside when they're home.. they breed them and breed them for money then eventually sell the dog they bred from and get another.
I've had people do work on my house come up to me and tell me they can hear the neighbours hitting and yelling at the dogs.. as a dog person it breaks my heart.
My dog is a big chicken and when their dogs bark he starts barking in response and won't do his business.. I cant leave him out to play because if their dogs aren't out and the kids are and they hear him they start making barking noises at him to set him off..
I have a baby and have a set amount of time I can take him out supervised and they still do whatever they can to set him off..
They have off road bikes that they drive around the streets and parks with that are ridiculously loud and shoot down the path outside there house which is next to my front door (my fence decides their path from ours)
This wakes my baby and sometimes sets my dog off barking because it's so loud.
They know this.. and have now started just sitting on their bikes next to their front door (across from my front door) just revving the engines...
They also use our fence to pull themselves up onto their bins to jump up and down on their bins to crush down the rubbish, which smashes my fence back and forth which bangs and sets my dog off barking.. its also breaking my fence..
If the sun is shining they all sit outside drinking and smoking together swearing and shouting, even the kids in secondary school are sat drinking cans of beer and smoking with them. Their youngest sits drinking vkd with them.
They talk about all the drugs they take and crimes they commit with eachother.. its shocking if I'm honest.
Theyre so loud that when it's hot I have to shut the windows in my childrens bedroom or they can't sleep..
You'd think I would get a break when they're at work and school but one of their lads from secondary school skips school most days with his friends and sit out revving their bikes and barking at my dog to set him off and waking my baby.
I put cctv all over my property to hopefully discourage them but it hasn't.
I've told my partner I want to rehome our dog.. I'm devastated to say it but I cant cope..him and the children aren't happy with me.. but I don't know what else to do, we can't move as we have to be close to school due to my health.
I'm not sure who I could report my neighbours to, i think things would escalate if i did.
The lad who skips school and revs the bike outside my door has been in trouble with the police for armed robbery and criminal damage but they can't do anything because he's too young.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore.. even if I rehome my dog the revving of the bikes alone wakes up my baby..
Has anyone else been through anything similar who can give advice?
I'm getting close to having a break down here..
I feel like they can just break the law, treat my property however they wish and treat us like crap and we have no rights whatsoever 😩

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CornishPorsche · 08/06/2022 09:15

Just report them. To the police, to the council, to the RSPCA.

Do you rent or own? Do they rent or own?

StickyFingeredWeeNed · 08/06/2022 09:22

Honestly? Just move - there is literally nothing you can do to modify their behaviour.

I speak as someone who moved 450 miles away last summer and a few weeks ago learned one of the “less delightful” previous neighbours stabbed another…

StickyFingeredWeeNed · 08/06/2022 09:23

Oh and my animals are so much less stressed now too - they both grin from ear to ear and sleep soundly as they’re not always “on guard”.

KatherineJaneway · 08/06/2022 09:25

Move and find alternative ways to get your kids to school. This type of person will not change and might get worse with a visit from the Police.

GodspeedJune · 08/06/2022 09:27

The best you can do is move. You’ll never change them. Are they owners or do they rent?

In the meantime get some CCTV installed.

NewMN · 08/06/2022 09:27

They sound fucking horrible. Massive sympathy.

you have to move

Cyw2018 · 08/06/2022 09:30

Sadly in this situation the only option you have is to move. If they are capable of armed robbery they are capable of some serious violence, and if you got them evicted then they will in all likelihood make your current situation look like a pleasant walk in the park.

The only fix for this family is prison and that would only bring temporary respite for you and the rest of society.

Giraffesandbottoms · 08/06/2022 09:31

Move

EveryName · 08/06/2022 09:32

That sounds unbearable. I seriously consider moving. There must be another way around the issue of getting your kids to school. Id consider moving the kids school if need be.

The neighbours don't sound the type who will magically improve.

Can you increase the height of your fence?

cushioncovers · 08/06/2022 09:32

Start your moving plans op. Do you rent or own?

darlingdodo · 08/06/2022 09:32

Do you own or rent? Do your neighbours own or rent? If you rent, just move. If they rent, report to landlord every time. The boy involved in robbery etc is above the age of criminal responsibility so don't know why police don't act.

Report animal cruelty to RSPCA, noise nuisance to council, any illegal activity to police. Keep records. Report, report, report.

YourWinter · 08/06/2022 09:35

Moving is the only option here, even if your children have to change school. You having a breakdown won’t do your kids any good and it will obviously be better for the whole family to be away from this toxic situation. It’s horrid for you but they won’t change anything, and you can.

LetsGoCrazyPurpleBanana · 08/06/2022 09:35

I honestly would move. Your mental health is suffering :(

JogOnJimmy · 08/06/2022 09:35

Not much help but long term they won't be there. They'll either be dead or in prison
You won't be the only one who is pissed off
I'd complain to the police, my local councillor, and council.
Go to your Dr and ask for help. Go to the school to explain what your children have to put up with
Basically anyone where it goes on record
The one thing to remember is they don't have any super powers that you don't possess. You just choose not to bahave that way
Can you Foster your dog to a family member for a break?
Sorry I'm not much help really

Irridescantshimmmer · 08/06/2022 09:38

Make a log of the incidents ( dates, times, details of what happened) and contact your local authority/council who will be able to issue the herd of vulgar parasites with ASBOs.

Its definatly anti social behaviour but I would advise to be cautious about what you tell your nieghbours about this because they clearly can't be trusted either. The choice is yours

I strongly advise you to make available any relevant CCTV data, to the local authority so that this may, hopefully speed things up.

You and your family have been on a hell of a roller coaster ride, just hang in there.

Hope this helps.

Stickytreacle · 08/06/2022 09:42

Move, your health will suffer far more fro from stress than being a distance from school.

ihatethefuckingmuffin · 08/06/2022 09:43

As others have said, move.
No matter who you report to and what it is in regards to it can takes years to reach the stage of eviction and in the meantime they will still be your neighbours.

the neighbours shouldn't have been effing and blinding however they did have a point. You should have spoken to them about the litter rather than have a moan to someone else.

Droopinloopin · 08/06/2022 09:44

Move. There's no other realistic option.

Bellyups · 08/06/2022 09:45

This is one of the worst neighbours from hell thread I’ve ever read. I would be moving asap if I were you you. Honestly, they aren’t going to suddenly start behaving like decent people. This is a good as it gets living next to them, don’t hang around for the decline

Snowflakes1122 · 08/06/2022 09:46

Move. Yes, you need to report the animal abuse to the RSPCA, and although it is anonymous, I suspect they’ll know it’s you.

This is no way to live: your home is your sanctuary.

ElenaSt · 08/06/2022 09:49

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Blowyourowntrumpet · 08/06/2022 09:50

Report them to the RSPCA and move

NotMyCircusNotMyCircus · 08/06/2022 09:52

Is it possible they're breeding enough dogs to require a licence (that they inevitably haven't got?)
www.gov.uk/guidance/dog-breeding-licence-england

If so, you can report them to the council for that

GrandRapids · 08/06/2022 09:56

Look for an alternative school for your child and move.

Taurini · 08/06/2022 10:06

Thank you everyone.
I own my property and I'm pretty sure they do too.
I've looked into the rspca but because the dogs get fed and watered they probably won't care.
Due to physical health problems I moved here, it's just across the road from their school and my children love their school.
It's a quiet area and everyone but them seem lovely.
I'm seriously so stressed all the time, I don't like setting foot outside my house because of them.
When we moved in during lock down it was clear they were drug dealing, but I didn't report it because I was worried they'd know it was me.
Since I put up a camera doorbell it's stopped and I think they go out to drop off drugs now.
I honestly cannot believe I live next door to people like this..
I'm tempted to go talk to the police in person to ask what I should do about it all.. surely its harassment revving their bikes outside my house and barking at my dog?
I worry because one of the lads who don't live with them anymore came to theirs covered in blood all drunk after being in a fight acting like he was amazing for it, then the next night they sat outside drinking and smoking and talking about the night before.. apparently he didn't even remember driving down such and such road and his parents were all "you can't tell anyone you were driving!" Cause clearly he was drink driving.
They don't see a problem with their actions.
I'm just the problem for having a problem with it I guess.
I dont understand how the social isn't involved with them skipping school all the time and commiting crimes.
Honestly the whole system is messed up.
Here's us who work our butt's off and get our kids to school and teach them right for wrong.. and there's people like that.
Thing is if we took the kids out of school for a holiday we would get fined and their kids are always off and nothing is being done..
You can guarantee if I snapped and did something to them or their property I'd get into trouble, but if they do that to me or my property just because they want to they'd get away with it.

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