Is he / are they being unreasonable?

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DC is ill, informed their Dad to be polite as due at his house and he said he'd need to speak to his wife to check if she was okay with it as they have a baby.

My initial thought was why should his wife get to say whether or not our DC can stay with their dad but my friend I mentioned it to thinks she does have a right to look out for her baby.

Is this right?

No need for the reverse! 🙄*
Noone would think it’s ok to send a covid positive child to stay with a baby, whatever the parental circumstances.
Not commenting further due to the reverse 🙄 ffs grow up*
@Namechangehereandnow maybe spend some time over on the shitshow that is the stepparenting board aka The 'How to cancel & shame every stepmother out there" board and you'll understand why op reversed.

Me too!

FFS.

😡

No! Covid+ kids should stay home. Why was this even an issue for you? Just because restrictions are eased doesn't mean we should knowingly put others at risk, especially the vulnerable such as young babies and older adults.

I don't normally but in this case I think the reverse was necessary, step mums have had a hard time on here, especially during Covid.

My DH and I were in OP's shoes in the midst of the pandemic, DSS caught Covid at his Mum's, it was actually her time to have him, but she then suddenly had a party to go to (which was also against the rules at the time!) so she wanted us to have him extra days while he was poorly with Covid. My DH said no, we weren't willing to knowingly spread Covid and put our vulnerable family members at risk.

She was awful, my DH had 2 days of solid abuse over text and email it was honestly disgusting some of the stuff she said. But he stood his ground and she got over it in the end.

I struggled to understand how someone sending such horrible, insulting texts and emails would then expect us to 'help her out' as she put it, but there we go!

Honestly did DP want to risk infecting baby with Covid? i would simply not want to share coved through 2 households.. If Mum became really poorly with covid different but for now i wouldn't risk

Yeah it's not an ideal suggestion in the slightest. It would have to be an extended stay of probably 2 weeks or more... Might be a very last resort if OP got railroaded by her husband and his ex over this, though.

Tbh I think having to deal with Covid all on his own, with no one to look after him, would be a good punishment if he let his ex bully him into inevitably spreading Covid to his new family.

This, sounds like you were baiting for an arguement with him