To feel sad for Prince Harry

[OldManRivers]

Have been looking at the photos today of Harry in the car being driven from the airport in America back to his home. He looks so sad. It must be very difficult for him to attend a huge family occasion like that with his role drastically changed, and to see all of his family but now he's on the sidelines popping in so very sporadically.

Also I can't help but think he must feel sad to think his children won't grow up around their cousins, and extended family. Meghan doesn't have any family except her mother so they don't have any in America either.

Originally he and Meghan wanted to carry on being part of the royal machine and do appearances etc but also have some independence so it's not as though this life was their original plan, where it seems like they're sidelined and alienated. AIBU to think regardless of what's gone on it must be very hard for him to be in another country, away from his ailing grandmother who he is very close to, and feel like a bit of an outcast?

He was getting a private jet home with help on board with two small children. I'd be ecstatic myself to be honest as having to endure an airport or a normal flight for hours might have me crying! At least he was spared all that hassle thanks to his Gran paying for it and his security.

He had lots of choices and he made the one he said he is happy with. So no reason to feel sad for him. He’s probably exhausted.

It's called making your bed and sleeping in it.

So no, no sympathy for a hugely wealthy and privileged person living his life according to Megan, I mean, himself.

Harry has lost everything to follow Meghan's dreams of Hollywood.
The long face is an evaluation I should think, maybe reassessing how he ended up losing his titles, his family, his friends, his home, his country, his social network and everything that makes him who he is.

I hope he is reconsidering the nasty book he is being encouraged to write.
Harming your own family is a form of self harm.

There were ways to leave gently and kindly and they choose to blow up every bridge on their way out. Maybe Meghan did so deliberately to prevent a return.

I do feel sorry for him. I really do, I would for anyone that has sacrificed so much in return for so little.

He looked like someone who's done two long haul flights close together with young kids to me. 😬

I cannot stand Charles and think he has a lot to answer for in this whole debacle. Blowing Kate a kiss whilst completely ignoring his own son and his wife said a lot. And it’s perfectly ok for Harry to say he wants to keep his kids private to
protect them from the scrutiny he has struggled with his whole life. I mean, look at all the fuss about Louis and he’s only 4!

He's with his family right now, no bridges burned.

I think he's sad, and has looked sad for years.
It's old news that MM came to the UK to find herself an influential boyfriend/husband and she bagged herself a prince, she didn't read the finer detail and I believe has manipulated her situation to her own needs, and I suspect Harry, being a bit loved up and a little thin on gumption, has gone with the choices his beloved wants, but it's not sitting right with him.
I'll bet Archie is ind enough to have enjoyed being around all of the family as it's something he doesn't have at home, he's old enough to communicate this with his parents ts and perhaps Harry is realising what he has so thoughtlessly given up.
Saying that they've got enough money and flexibility to spend plenty of time in the UK if Harry chose to do so, he doesn't need to be full time USA, he could take a flat in the grounds of Windsor or BP and have a reasonable split - he just needs to decide if that's going to make him/his kids and the unlikely MM happy

I never really minded M and H, but the turning point for me was when they named their daughter Lilibet when they were literally fresh from slagging off the Queen

When did they slag off the Queen?

I'm not a royalist but enjoyed the recent spectacle & respect the Queen. I felt sad seeing her on the balcony & that when she goes the Royal family just won't be the same. I think if H&M had been kept in the fold then the institution would have more longevity particularly in the Commonwealth

It's rather difficult to feel sad for someone born into outrageous privilege and wealth who made choices that, perhaps for the first time ever, are leading to him hearing the word 'no', or no longer being shielded from consequences of his actions.

He and his children will continue to live with the luxury and security his inherited £millions provide for. In addition to the $millions he will make trading off his Royal association for as long as the interest lasts.

They will never starve, they will never struggle to pay their utility bills, they will never want for any material thing. So no. Not sad.

I felt sorry for them both at the thanksgiving. It was a shame we didn't see them again at some of the less formal events but that is there choice and it was bad timing really being over their daughter's first birthday.

I feel this happens a lot in family businesses. The lines between business and family are so blurred. If one decides to not be part of the business it can take a while to refind their feet in the family.

Harry still has the precedence over this cousins but isn't a working royal so isn't up there with his brother. I think that was why they walked in alone.

I found it embarrassing. For one, that people think the booing was okay and made this country look in any way good. How does the UK now appear on an international stage? Also, there's an assumption from so many UK quarters that Harry and Meghan were absolutely lying in their allegations of racism. Eddo-Lodge make an important point about this. White people do not want to talk about race. We'd rather deny that any suggestion of systemic, institutional or individual racism has even the most tacit basis in reality, even when it's not the reality many of us have to live on a daily basis.

I'm far from convinced that every one of those claims was completely groundless. There are certain pictures and audio footage of the Windsors in circulation on the internet - not excluding of Harry - which would prove this point, but for obvious reasons I wouldn't want to repost them, even under an alias.

Aside from this, a two-year pandemic has obliterated our economy and fuel bills are through the roof, with ramifications which are yet to play out. The travel industry - ferries and airports in particular - is in chaos. People have lost their livelihoods. Yet somehow it's been deemed necessary to indulge in a four-day veneration of hereditary, hierarchical, unelected privilege.

And I thought clapping like performing seals for the overstretched, under-resourced NHS and neighbours reporting each other for the mildest digression from The Rules was bad. What's with this lazy herd mentality, and where has critical thinking gone of late? The whole country's gone nuts, it seems to me. We can only hope that it's temporary.

You do know that feelings like sympathy and empathy are not limited resources that you have to allocate carefully to deserving until they run out?

Just a small correction - Harry was actually nearly 13 when his mother died although that doesn’t take away from the sadness of the situation.

I think he looked Angry not sad. He is a very troubled soul.

Obvs I’ve no idea how they feel but I still think it’s totally weird they claimed not to want to live in the limelight and be ‘normal’ so moved to the US to sell their varying stories for the rest of their lives trading on the fact that his background is not normal. I mean that’s just bizarre🤷🏼‍♀️

I think it’s ironic on a forum like MN where every in-law transgression is met with “you’ve got a DH problem, why isn’t he standing up for you against them, you’re supposed to be his number 1 priority now and if you never want to talk to any of them again the spineless twat absolutely should be behind you all the way” that Harry gets so much derision for doing, well, just that for his wife.

I don’t think he looked especially sad, although I’d imagine he is. Plenty of people make choices to go low- or no-contact with members of their family because aspects of the relationship are too difficult to navigate: it doesn’t mean they don’t feel sad about it, or muse on what might have been, or wonder sometimes whether the decision was the right one; and often it doesn’t even mean they’ve stopped loving those people.

He made his bed, now he has to lie in it.

He’s a grown man, he made a choice and is now living the consequences. I don’t feel sorry for him one bit.

Lots of families live away from their extended families or don't have cousins. But i'm sure they have friends.

Why would anyone feel sorry for him?

He's filthy stinking rich and living his best life with his wife and kids.

I can not think of a single thing that would cause me to feel any sympathy for him.

He even gets to go to his Nans birthday! Not many people have a Nan at his age.

He'll have moments of "what have I done?" "Is Meghan worth it?" "Does she really have my best interests at heart?"

🤣🤣

The photographers take 100's of photos so that the ones that show people being "sad" or whatever emotion suits the agenda.
I know this from experience, having had an awesome night out with my partner once, then seeing one "in the moment photo" being shared that seemed to show us looking annoyed at each other.

Harry and his wife are doing exactly what they wanted to do, and, bonus, the family they have treated so badly let them come and join in with the celebrations.

Do you realise there's a Royal topic area? What an odd, banal thing to post about anyway.

Ah, don't feel sad for him OP. That's just how a free man looks. If you want to see what a free man looks like, just look at Harry. As you make your bed and all that....