To think this is wrong...parents leaving kids during sleepover

[Maves]

There are a lot of other issues with this family but recently found this out...the first time my child (12) went for a sleepover at her friends house the parents told them around 8.30pm they were "going to the office" (15/20) mins away.
Anyway the dad came back 2 hours later his dc ask where's mum "at the pub" he said.
The mum in dc words "stumbles in" later slurring saying "sorry it's been a shit night I think I have covid" she was pissed up.
So basically they hadn't entertained the kids at any point just lied they were going to the office at 8.30 at night and fucked off to get pissed.

She had left my dc and her friend (12) and their other dc (9) bare in mind she has to get babysitters for her kids when they go out. I'm pissed off this is just the final nail on a big fuck off coffin with these people. When I have sleepovers I cook, try and plan activities etc if the kids want to but I would never in a million years leave someone's child unattended!! Especially at night time! The kids are only really just 12 so not even 12/13.

I've not said anything yet for the kids sake but should I? Apart from this the woman is honestly unbearable anyway....this incident happened a few months ago before any other incident o didn't know her beforehand as it's a friend my dc made when starting secondary.

@Goldenbear exactly I honestly don't know what kind of 11/12 years some of these posters have they act like I'm forcing the kids to do stuff they ask! And it's my bloody stuff they use 😂

Actually even my 14/15 year olds friends come here and bake 😂

Maves, your household sounds entirely typical to me- I really don't know anyone who would leave this age group I.e very much children, on their own at this time. My 15 year old DS stayed at a mate's house last Friday, the parents were chatting to them all so about 4/5 boys, until about 11pm as they wanted the 'gossip'. These boys don't just stay in either before anyone remarks on them behaving childishly by not scurrying off to their room. My DS very much goes to parties and is focused on his social life (probably too much) but in all honesty the teenagers he knows are emotionally intelligent, they know how to chat to adults and are pretty self confident, plus most parents are not victorian in their outlook and are easier to relate to than perhaps our parents' generation and these kids want to engage with you. My 11 year old DD and friends are similar, they don't really go to DD's room until quite late on a sleepover and sometimes after work on a Friday I am pretty shattered and don't want to chat and would rather have the lounge to myself but obviously I don't resent it. My DC and their friends are very sociable, perhaps that is unusual but they certainly dont behave immaturely.

@Goldenbear i know shock horror our kids and thier friends want to engage with us! And not sit in their rooms all night!

I don't think that is even legal is it? I would be furious if they were left alone, let alone coming home drunk

You are not being unreasonable. They are obviously happy leaving their kids alone but they should have told/asked you.

It's a poor do if a couple of 12 year olds can't manage 2 hours without mummy .

'Manage'? Yes, tolerate, yes but entitled to make that decision for a child that's not yours, in the evening with the additional requirement of babysitting an unpredictable 9 year old child, when you are a child yourself, not even a teenager- no! Coupled with the drunkeness, I can't think of anyone I know that would suggest that is infantalising your child.

@fUNNYfACE36 late at night, no neighbours, and an accident prone 9 year old who has suffered twice unattended needing 200 stitches the last time (obviously I didn't know at the time) and it's my child they had no right. I don't leave my 12 year old in charge of my 10 year old ffs