"Can I sleep with other women whilst there?"

[Lauriejd]

He said this as a "joke". AIBU to not find this funny?

BF of 4 years going on a "lads" holiday. We're both 27.
Apparently the joke is that the women are so attractive where he's going so can he have a "free pass"

Cue horrified look from me.

"Hahaha just messing; I'd never do that"

Maybe I missed the punchline or I'm missing a humour

He wasn't joking. He's just warning you, so you can take the blame for not stopping him when it all comes out

He’s doesn’t adore you he’s an ass
tell him to bugger off and not come back

Christ, some most people on here are so bloody serious all the time. It was a joke made in passing. An awkward, not particularly funny one, but a joke nonetheless.

He is going to do it if he gets the chance.

God I would not trust him as far as I could throw him.

He will be up to all sorts when he’s away.

Sorry.

He meant it. You have the perfect chance to ditch him out of your life while he is away.

sounds like he doesn't love you as much as you love him.

To those saying ‘some people lead humourless lives’ (FML 🙄 yes, your life sounds hilarious - or, maybe we just have better quality senses of humour) - the OP wouldn’t be posting on here if this was the sort of ‘humour’ that was routinely part of their relationship. Obviously.

Some people are so desperate to have any sort of sub-standard man in their life, rather than no man at all, that they really will put up with anything.

There are zillions on men out there - dump this one and move on. Simple. 🤷🏻‍♀️

And load of the other men out there are actually funny.

That he even thinks that’s an appropriate joke would be a red flag for me

It really does depend on where he is going.
I've witnessed men with young women in Thailand. Even walking down the night market there would be women trying to entice my then dh. It’s part of life over there. I really don’t understand why as it’s such a beautiful country with friendly people.

So if he’s going there I would be getting rid- especially with that comment.

I’m curious to know where he is going?
it’s one thing to go somewhere like Brazil because it’s an amazing place with lovely women. It’s a completely different story if he’s going to Lithuania!

I mean just the description of the lads holiday where all the women are beautiful, doesn't smack of an innocent holiday. It doesn't sound like a cycling holiday in the Alps, a cultural holiday in Lisbon, beer tasting in Belgium, or even a piss up in Ibiza. It sounds how someone would describe a destination best known for adult entertainment and prostitution. Which in itself is a bit grim.

He sounds like my disgusting BIL who jokes about things like that - it’s puerile and pathetic. I wouldn’t trust him an inch.

It could be a bravado joke... but I doubt the joke would have been repeated as it did not land well the first time. What is sure is that you should insist that he gets tested on his return before you are intimate again. Joke on him, you can't trust him.

Maybe after 4 years you need to chat about your relationship and both your expectations - are they still matching? if fidelity is high on your list tell him that it's a deal breaker. Good luck OP