Dh didn’t invite me to boss’s wedding

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Is that weird?

Dh comes home from work today, sits down and mentions in casual conversation that it’s his boss’s wedding reception on Friday night and he’d forgotten until reminded today.
I knew his boss had recently got engaged but had no idea when the wedding was or that he’d been invited, he never said.
I asked ‘Oh were we not invited?’ Meaning myself and Dd, 4, he said that of course we all were but he was thinking because she’s in bed at 7pm it wouldn’t work…so he’s planned to go himself.
I asked how he was getting there and back, he said maybe an Uber or I could drop him, I muttered ‘Charming’ and he went nuts at me, saying he didn’t understand what was wrong with me 🤷🏻‍♀️
Aibu to feel a bit weird that I had no idea about and he didn’t actually invite/ask me if I actually wanted to go? Plus then having to drive him all the way there and drop him off

*No idea about it

Ignore the spelling of jubilee! Stupid phone and then no edit button of course

Why don't you say you'll arrange a babysitter and go with him. See what he says. It's weird of him to want to go alone but expect you to drive him. Is there someone he works with that might cause issues?

I wouldn’t expect my Dc to be invited to an evening reception and I’ve generally always go to colleagues weddings with other colleagues.

Just saw you're all invited, I'd just say you want to go if you do?

That is strange and I’m not surprised you’re upset. Would there have been no way you could have found a babysitter? Did he not mention it when he got the invite? No way in hell would I be driving him there when you weren’t even a consideration to him

I wouldn't take DH to a work colleagues wedding, I would go with people from work. Although I would have mentioned it earlier.

I wouldn't expect DC to be invited to a wedding of someone who doesn't know them. You say evening - is it just the evening reception? Maybe none of his colleagues are taking partners? Lots of people go solo from work to an evening do

I think it’s fine for him to be going on his own considering it’s a work colleague. Work colleagues were invited to bring plus ones to the evening of our wedding but they all chose to come as a group and left partners at home. It meant they enjoyed it more as they could just be with people they knew instead of having to do all the polite introductions and conversation that comes along with meeting partners that aren’t as well known in a group.

If you don’t want to do the lift then don’t, but I don’t think your DH is doing anything wrong.

I’d never think to take my DH to a colleague’s wedding and especially if it was the evening reception?

why would your kid be invited as well? Unless you socialise out with work?

sorry I think YABU

Do you know his boss and his fiancée? If not I'd find it weird that you and (especially) DD would go.

I wouldn’t expect partners to go to work colleagues wedding evening do’s either, colleagues tend to go together. Don’t drop him off if it’s inconvenient - get him to get an Uber

I've never taken my OH to a work colleagues wedding reception and neither have my colleagues. I imagine it will change the dynamic as its a great chance for the staff to celebrate the colleague and catch up outside of work.

My other half went to his colleagues wedding by himself, everyone else on the shift did too. I've no desire to get dolled up and make polite conversation with folk I don't know. They had a great night out, the first one since covid restrictions eased.

I went to my colleagues wedding without him too.

I’d assume he just wants a night out with work mates? I can see that you might be annoyed by this as you were invited - but muttering under one’s breath is really really annoying, so that does cancel out him shouting somewhat.

But yes overall he is being unreasonable. If you know his boss then yes he should have told you you were asked. If you don’t he should have just been honest and said he’d like a workmates night out.

I wonder if he guesses you’d want to bring the 4 year old.

Why on earth would you even want to go? Have you ever even met the boss? And your DC surely hasn't.

If it had been a weekend daytime wedding there might have been a case for all of you going, even though it's clearly a form invitation, but your DC can't go and what's the point of getting a babysitter for this? It's way easier for both of you if he goes himself and he can just get a cab.

i won’t take do you work events. It’s awkward. Can’t really socialise with work friends and leave my partner out.

I definitely wouldn’t be wanting to take my small child. I would want to be able to sit back, have a few drinks with colleagues and enjoy a night out as an adult.

I don’t see the issue with him going on his own and I certainly wouldn’t have assumed I and my kids should be invited, if I were you.

But also, bit odd that he had such a go.

It would be weird to bring the kid along. But I'd consider going if I had a babysitter. Could you do that?

It sounded like you were having a reasonable conversation until you muttered "charming", so I think you were being unreasonable.

I just see weddings as a family thing? If a friend I know that hasn’t met Dh yet (mum type friend) invites to a wedding/christening etc, partners/family members are just invited 🤷🏻‍♀️
I mean, I don’t *Want to go really but would’ve been nice to have been asked!

DH and I were invited to one of his work colleague's receptions - I didn't know them but went with DH and it was fine as there was a group of 'WAGs' that I could mingle with. I wouldn't have dreamt of our kids being invited though; or taking them!

And to be fair, don’t couples usually (where possible) drop their partners off, even if they aren’t attending the evening with them?

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