SILs Behaviour. U or NU?

[TastyToeBean]

I was at my partner's place, we only get 2 nights a week together (kids, jobs etc) & we'd just settled down in bed after a lovely evening. His phone goes, it's his youngest sibling (40+ yo) sister video calling him & their big brother. He rejected the call but she tried again, so he rejected again. Same happened a 3rd time so he rejected & sent the message 'sorry, sat naked with TasyToeBean watching TV'. The message was read.

Would you, or would you not, after receiving that message, try to video call again?

So as not to drip feed, yes she did fucking call again!

YANBU she's an attention seeking pain in the arse who has no fucking respect.

YABU perfectly normal to call again.

Exactly.
I have a clingy annoying SIL too but thankfully I grew up and did not try to obstruct the close and warm relationship between DH and his vulnerable sister whom he has known all his life.
You’re like the stepmother who banned your SIL from the home for flirting with her father..wtf?

Arranging 2 nights off is 'odd'? Maybe in your world, but not in mine. I work like a dog, long hours in a difficult job. I'm also a lone parent & have been for many years. I arrange/organise 2 nights off, they don't just happen & they're much needed.

So no one even your DC can contact you on your 2 nights off a week.

Wow.

How insular.

Btw lots of people have long hours in difficult jobs and don't behave like this.

OP' puts considerable time, effort, money & travel into ensuring my 2 nights off are exactly that. If he won't keep his family drama, even the mild annoyances, out of our hair then why am I bothering? I'll just let my kids, brother, friends etc contact me all night. They have 5 nights & 7 days for family drama.

So, it’s a FWB situation? You’re with this man two nights a week to escape life - to have two NIGHTS (just the evenings) “off” of life. That’s basically getting your leg over, twice a week, maybe dinner and a cuddle after. Your lives aren’t intertwined, your families/friends aren’t enmeshed. You’re just taking what you need.

Really, truly, NOT a sister in law.

As for accusing the sister of family drama or even a “mild annoyance” - that’s a darn sight less of a hassle than you’ve created with this thread!

Do you not see your hypocrisy? You want the whole world and it’s problems - including your children and your boyfriend’s sister! - to organise their “mild annoyances” around your life, because you work hard and spend money on traveling those two nights off.

Lady, the world doesn’t revolve around you. Find yourself a closer boyfriend who’s cheaper to travel to, ideally one with no siblings or parents or friends, or possibly even any hobbies or interests that occur on your chosen two nights off per week. Also, do make sure your teenaged children have someone they can contact for succour and support in the event of an upsetting “mild annoyance” of being dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend on one of your chosen two nights. Because they wouldn’t be allowed to call you, would you? You need a night off from them and this presumably wouldn’t be an emergency 🤷‍♀️

I’m always the first on here wishing women would grow a backbone and set some boundaries. These aren’t boundaries. They’re arbitrary rules to facilitate your sex life.

That is your opinion, not mine. Just because you think differently doesn't make it fact either.

He didn't know what his sister wanted so did call back. Not to OP's liking but then nothing seems to be.