Page 5 | To have people comment I'm paranoid continuing to use 'baby' monitor

Gemma273 · 2022-05-30T19:13:34+00:00

My wee one is nearly 3 and I still religiously use baby monitor every night, I don't think I'd settle without it, it's rarely needed as wakening up at night is very rare but I've had a few comments from family/friends that I'm being ridiculous and far too over protective. It's really annoyed me to be fair, any alone else still use their monitor for older kids?

LittleOwl153 · 30/05/2022 22:01

Horses for courses. We used ours (audio only) for much longer with dd than we did ds because dd was a puker so knowing that had happened quickly saved alot of cleaning up. I think we had it in with dd until we needed it for ds so about 5ish. DS I don't think we bothered once the cot sides were down. My DH was far more bothered about it with DS than I was but my hearing is much better so I can hear what they are up to. Nowadays they just use Google home system to shout if they need help!

Rosebel · 30/05/2022 22:02

Surely it's up to you and doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
We never had one. Our house isn't very big and our kids are more than capable of making themselves heard but just do what works for you.

ForestFae · 30/05/2022 22:02

This thread has made me realise my children are exceptionally loud. All the people saying they can’t hear their children without a monitor. You’d need earplugs to not hear mine.

flower04958 · 30/05/2022 22:02

I babysat for a 6 year old who had one once and it felt so inappropriate. I understand her parents were doing it to be protective but she clearly thought her room was her own private place, she was "playing" with her imaginary friends and toys and singing a song in bed and I just thought, it feels wrong to be able to watch/hear her little private world :/

Annfr · 30/05/2022 22:03

All these posts saying but the child can come and get you... what if they do don't want to get you? What if they just want wander round out of their room upstairs? The way our house is laid out we wouldn't hear her when we're downstairs. We also wouldn't hear her overnight

I really don't see the issue with using one.

StaunchMomma · 30/05/2022 22:05

It's not anyone else's business, OP.

Do what works for you.

WouldBeGood · 30/05/2022 22:05

@orwellwasright that’s so creepy!

Its weird @FallopianTubeTrain . Time to stop

ForestFae · 30/05/2022 22:05

Annfr · 30/05/2022 22:03

All these posts saying but the child can come and get you... what if they do don't want to get you? What if they just want wander round out of their room upstairs? The way our house is laid out we wouldn't hear her when we're downstairs. We also wouldn't hear her overnight

I really don't see the issue with using one.

Think it depends on the child, my children each individually sound like a heard of drunken elephants. They have absolutely no stealth. We’d hear them. Also we had a stair gate on their door for ages too, just in case.

Algarythmnmadness · 30/05/2022 22:06

3 year old twins in separate rooms and I still religiously use ours, I’d feel bereft without it. But my DN died at 15 months old of sudden infant death, sometimes when I wake up I just like the comfort of seeing them, and yes I will hold it up to my ear so I can hear them breathing 🤦‍♀️

Cherryblossoms85 · 30/05/2022 22:07

Lol our youngest child was straight into our room for any and every need by the time she could walk, so the monitor would've been pointless! I wish, really!

soundsofthesixties · 30/05/2022 22:07

What do you all think happened years ago before there were such things as monitors?

lisavanderpumpscloset · 30/05/2022 22:10

DC is 7. We still use one. Mainly because if he does get up and call out for us we probably wouldn't hear him quickly enough and I'd rather be able to get him back to bed and asleep before he's fully awake! Sod what everyone else is saying. You do you

wildthingsinthenight · 30/05/2022 22:12

You do whatever you like OP. It is your child. We had one til quite late. I had very bad PND and PN anxiety. It helped me to feel calmer at night

Scoobyblue · 30/05/2022 22:18

It's up to you. We didn't use one at all as my dd used to half wake, whimper and go back to sleep. It would just have woken me for no reason. Once she was in a bed she would come and get us rather than cry out so would have been pointless.

ladygindiva · 30/05/2022 22:20

soundsofthesixties · 30/05/2022 22:07

What do you all think happened years ago before there were such things as monitors?

What a weird thing to say. We would have managed. Same as we would have managed without TV / electricity / cars / any other modern invention. But they do exist and I like using one. What's it to you?

DottyLittleRainbow · 30/05/2022 22:20

We stil use a baby monitor, youngest is 3.5 and a dreadful sleeper / suspected autistic. They freak out unless we are straight there when they wake 1000x a night.

If I was in a flat I probably wouldn’t need it.

Your child, your choice.

TwoDogs9 · 30/05/2022 22:21

We still use an audio-only one with our 5 year old. He often wakes in the night and we wouldn’t hear him without it (old house with thick stone walls). You’re not unreasonable and it’s no one else’s business. Just don’t tell them! 🤫

me4real · 30/05/2022 22:24

I think you do you if it suits you OP. It's not harming anyone else.

But if you have excessive anxiety in general which is causing you distress, then contact your doctor/consultant.

Reginaldina · 30/05/2022 22:27

I still use one for my 3 and a half year old. Both my kids sleep on another floor to us and I am slightly hard of hearing, so I have a bit of a worry that they could be crying really loudly and I wouldn't hear them. I think until you feel comfortable that they can come to you in the night if they're unwell, then a monitor is fine. I used one for my eldest until he was 4 and bit, as again, I wouldn't hear him in the night, then I switched it into the baby's room when he was born. You do what you feel most comfortable with, ignore everyone else. My youngest has just woken up crying now, I can hear him on the monitor :)

MaryShelley1818 · 30/05/2022 22:29

We have one with our 4.5yr old. Never really thought about it tbh, it's probably more just habit than anything. If he ever does wake in the night he just comes and pats DH on the head until he wakes up! Lol

AgathaMystery · 30/05/2022 22:38

its a bit weird. I’ve never used one and can’t think of a situation where I would want one.

Okaaaay · 30/05/2022 22:40

I don’t know why anyone would need to comment on your use of a monitor. Your child, your family, your home, your way. We had a camera in our child’s room until she was 4. It was lovely to watch her play, check on her at night etc. do whatever you want.

Okaaaay · 30/05/2022 22:41

I don’t know why anyone would need to comment on your use of a monitor. Your child, your family, your home, your way. We had a camera in our child’s room until she was 4. It was lovely to watch her play, check on her at night etc. do whatever you want.

pattish · 30/05/2022 22:42

soundsofthesixties · 30/05/2022 22:07

What do you all think happened years ago before there were such things as monitors?

I think a lot more babies slept through the night!

Sarah3587 · 30/05/2022 22:45

No not weird at 2 years won’t be ‘weird’ until your child reaches 5+ And that’s assuming they have no special needs.
what annoys me is how many parents are just so desperate for their children to grow up. 3 is still so young in my eyes. My daughter started having nocturnal seizures at 7 so I got one with a camera and audio. She has special needs so isn’t overly aware. But there are many reasons why a parent would still use one at 3. I expect parents who disagree with it are also the parents who enroll their children in those god awful child care facilities like yellow dot