To have people comment I'm paranoid continuing to use 'baby' monitor

[Gemma273]

My wee one is nearly 3 and I still religiously use baby monitor every night, I don't think I'd settle without it, it's rarely needed as wakening up at night is very rare but I've had a few comments from family/friends that I'm being ridiculous and far too over protective. It's really annoyed me to be fair, any alone else still use their monitor for older kids?

Personally, I think you should use it for as long as you want to. Don't pay no mind to anyone else's opinions of it as someone's will always differ from yours. Whatever makes you feel at ease is all that matters

I don't really understand what you're saying. Perhaps if you didn't have the monitors you'd stop going in to your kids all the time and they'd settle more easily.

Depends doesn't it?

I could hear mine through the 2 cardboard doors in our tiny house from their first Wilmer.

Oh dear, I have a mate who's kids are 6 & 8 and they still use theirs in a diddy 3 bed house.

Our son is 7 and we still use one. I don't see the issue. We live in an old house, very thick walls that we can't hear through h, especially when asleep. I hate the thought of him waking up in the night feeling poorly or after a nightmare and us not hearing him.
Everyone is different. Do what works for you.

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I never used one - I can hear my children. My house isn’t particularly huge and their rooms are close to mine, I don’t see the need. But there’s no harm in using one if it helps you, I don’t see what it’s got to do with anyone else.

I still use it for a 5yo. I can't hear him at all from my room, even if he really screamed, and he gets terrified walking between the rooms at night on the rare occasion when we've accidently unplugged it. He is currently using a bed wetting alarm (which I also wouldn't hear), so I need to be able to go straight through to get him to the toilet when it goes off.

I will probably get rid of it when he is dry at night.

Meh. I was probably still using one then. Not needed but useful to hear when my son woke up as we were 1 floor up.

Do what makes you feel best.

I used monitors until they were properly sleeping through and dry at night.

I’m fastidious about doors being closed after a house fire years ago so monitors were necessary as shouting isn’t enough as their voices weren’t loud enough unless they got ridiculously loud.

DS is 3.5 and we use ours until we go to bed as he is on the second floor and we are watching TV 2 floors down.

Don't need it in the night. I jerk awake if he so much as sneezes.

I gave up using mine when my son went into a bed at 2, when he woke after that he would silently get up and just appear wherever I am!

We still use them for almost 6 year old and 2 year old. Eldest can be a bit of a nightmare going to bed or getting up way too early in the mornings and fucking around in his room so I like to be able to see what he's doing. 2 year old is a climber so I'm just waiting for the day he manages to get out of his cot. I don't think it's weird to use them.

I never used one.

My twins are 2.3. Never entered my head to stop using the monitor.
During the night, I may hear one twin asking for his dummy, so I can go in straight away and settle him before he's fully awake.
Without the monitor, he might have to shout louder to get my attention, and would be wider awake.
No idea when I'll stop using it. Hadn't thought about it till this thread, but I'd say for a few more years.

I've never used one ... we could hear our DS if he cried and I wasn't going to rush in for every whimper or slight sound ... but if you feel comfortable using one then don't worry what anyone else says.

DD is 3 next month, and I'm still going to use it.

Her room is at the other side of the house, I'd never hear her if she was crying or sick in the night.

Yes it seems odd and unnecessary in most cases, especially those of you who had older children and then bought a second monitor when the usual thing would be to stop using for the toddler and swap for the baby.

We have one in our 3.5yo's room - she shares with her older sibling and they're in bunks. She likes to climb into the top bunk and wake her sister in the night! DH has a moderate hearing impairment and I sleep through anything so it helps us. We stopped using one with their older sibling when she was 2.5, because she was on her own and the house layout was different. I think you just have to do what works for you.

I don't really understand what you're saying. Perhaps if you didn't have the monitors you'd stop going in to your kids all the time and they'd settle more easily.

Lol @orwellwasright, you clearly haven't had a shit sleeper for a kid. If you don't intervene early to help them back to sleep, you're about to take part in a toddler midnight party

(I still use a monitor with nearly 2 yr old DS - shit sleeper extraordinaire)

My boy is 3. Wakes at night a handful of times a week probably. I’m a heavy sleeper. It’s handy when we’re downstairs as our house is quite big and we wouldn’t always hear him otherwise.

continue to do what makes you feel comfortable and keeps you and your child happy. No one else’s opinion really matters :)

I have DC age 2 and 6 and still use one. My eldest is asthmatic so I need to hear her if she needs me, and youngest still prone to waking and needing resettling sometimes. I feel much better having one so I can hear them quickly. Do what works for you.

What's the harm? 🤷🏻‍♀️ It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I used mine until my daughter was 3 and a bit and only stopped because by that point if she woke she’d get up and come to our bed/come and find us. Before that she would just cry for us. YANBU.