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Is this my life forever now?!

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lancsgirl85 · 20/05/2022 09:16

So.. I think the answer to this is "yes, you will never lie in ever again" but just to check in case there's a glimmer of hope...

My 13 month old has started to sleep through the night probably 5 nights out of 7, so we are lucky in that respect. However, why, for the love of God, does she think 5.30am is an acceptable time to get up every single morning?!

Usually I get up and take her downstairs to play and breakfast etc, but this morning I just couldn't face it and brought into the playpen in my bedroom while I dozed on and off and she played. I felt guilty but I am exhausted with the early starts. I'd like just one day a week where I can lie in until 7.30/8am. Just one.

I mean, she gets up so offensively early, that her "mid morning" nap is now, at 9am! I'm typing this as she snoozes in my arms on the sofa.

Am I ever going to lie in til 7.30 ever again? Am I doomed? 😫

(Semi lightheaded but also please tell me there is hope of a lie in one day before I turn 40)

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soberfabulous · 23/05/2022 03:48

sleepingsatellit1 even if she doesn't have school, I have work, so i have to be up.

Im genuinely interested in what people do with their early risers, so im simply asking.

How long would you leave them alone for? What do they do?

Sleepingsatellite1 · 23/05/2022 16:55

soberfabulous · 23/05/2022 03:48

sleepingsatellit1 even if she doesn't have school, I have work, so i have to be up.

Im genuinely interested in what people do with their early risers, so im simply asking.

How long would you leave them alone for? What do they do?

😂😂 What does your child do when you are up with them? I don’t recall saying my child was an early riser, but if he did get up ridiculously early like that I wouldn’t be getting up with him, totally unnecessary.

speakout · 23/05/2022 18:10

Sleepingsatellite1 · 23/05/2022 16:55

😂😂 What does your child do when you are up with them? I don’t recall saying my child was an early riser, but if he did get up ridiculously early like that I wouldn’t be getting up with him, totally unnecessary.

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How does not getting up with them work though?
Unless you lock them in their bedroom then how can you keep them safe while you sleep?
Even if confined to their bedrooms a mobile 13 month old will find ways to entertain themselves- whil also putting themselves in danger as at that age they have zero common sense. Whether it is climing on furniture, finding small objects inadvertently dropped to choke on- small toddlers need contant supervision- and those dangers increase if left the run of the house.

I would suggest it is absolutely necessary to get up with a 13 month old or a toddler- parents have a duty of care, and rolling over going back to sleep is not meeting those care needs.

Sleepingsatellite1 · 23/05/2022 18:13

speakout · 23/05/2022 18:10

How does not getting up with them work though?
Unless you lock them in their bedroom then how can you keep them safe while you sleep?
Even if confined to their bedrooms a mobile 13 month old will find ways to entertain themselves- whil also putting themselves in danger as at that age they have zero common sense. Whether it is climing on furniture, finding small objects inadvertently dropped to choke on- small toddlers need contant supervision- and those dangers increase if left the run of the house.

I would suggest it is absolutely necessary to get up with a 13 month old or a toddler- parents have a duty of care, and rolling over going back to sleep is not meeting those care needs.

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Wtf, She is talking about her 8 year old…Not about locking up or not supervising a toddler!

Thebeastofsleep · 23/05/2022 18:29

soberfabulous · 22/05/2022 17:05

sleepingsatellite1 on school days yes as we have to leave the house at 7 am (we live overseas and school starts early.)

Are you implying kids could/should be left to their own devices in the morning?

An 8yo absolutely can be left in an otherwise safe house in the mornings with parents dozing upstairs. Assuming no LD or ND.

My 6yo has been going downstairs in the morning for about 18months (since he was just over 5). He plays with his toys, or sometimes on his tablet and recently has started getting his own cereal for breakfast. He is down for about an hour/ hour and a half before his little sister wakes up. He really enjoys the independence and always comes up if he needs something. He is generally a very compliant child though so can be trusted. He cannot however be trusted to remain quietly in his room without waking his sister.

Thebeastofsleep · 23/05/2022 18:30

The above is only at weekends. In the week an adult gets up with him and starts the getting ready for school/ work/ nursery stuff.

Ilikepinacoladass · 23/05/2022 18:54

@speakout
Leave them in the cot with some safe toys to play with, and music on?

If they are not safe to be awake without you in the place they sleep how does that work if they wake up in the night?

Ilikepinacoladass · 23/05/2022 18:59

I think the nights where they wake once in the middle of the night and then back to sleep till a reasonable time are much better than the 5.30am starts personally! I don't think the OP was saying she expects the baby to magically sleep through 7-7 every night, she was just saying the 5.30am starts are hard - and they are!

Beautifulmonster87 · 23/05/2022 19:02

Mine is 3.5 and still wakes at 530 whatever we do. I am shattered 24/7 but one lie in on a Saturday!

Nothappyatwork · 23/05/2022 19:26

SafelySoftly · 20/05/2022 09:25

It sounds like you need to cut back daytime naps.

Nope that makes it worse

HappyDays40 · 23/05/2022 20:05

My son is an early riser. He is five and gets up anywhere between 5.30 and 6.30. I used to do the same and now he has kids youtube or BBC get creative on my phone till its time to get up. I don't care TBH he gets plenty if my attention in the day when I've had a better sleep. Do what you have to to get through, please don't feel guilty.

Ilikepinacoladass · 24/05/2022 06:31

@Nothappyatwork
It worked for my little one! I think some toddlers just need less overall sleep than others

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